Is there hope in love for me?

[Anonymous]

Due to childhood trauma and genetic factors I have mental conditions like anxiety, adhd, and recently I found out I have strong indications towards one or more personality disorders.

I'm also part of the asexual spectrum, though I'm still not sure how to label myself I can say that I typically don't experience sexual attraction, I think I might be demi. Which is troublesome since most people like to get physical early on in relationships, in fact in my country people usually go through a "making out phase" before starting to actually date.

I think I'm pretty attractive, but I think my mental health and sexuality gets in the way of any potential romantic relationships... I've been considering the possibility of giving up romance completely but I would like some external opinions first.

[Pegases]

This is interesting, and ironically this is a great time to date for you. What are you looking for? Long term dating is best sustained by two people that are emotionally whole and stable on their own. That's not to say you can't have a lasting relationship, but that it will be harder for you. Short term dating can be a lot of fun, and is the common result of relationships with one or two people that are not great fits for long term relationships. So I would just be realistic about what I can offer in the kind of relationship that I want.

[Asker]

I'm actually looking for long term... I'm not a very satisfying short term date anyways, I don't feel attraction to guys I'm emotionally connected to, let alone act on it. If I told any guy that, specially ones looking for just some few weeks or months of fun, he will look at me like I'm telling him I'm secretly a pigeon.

[Guy13]

God loves you.