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before any of you jump the gun and claim that I'm a victim blamer I like to point out that I'm well aware that rape is a very traumatic experience. I myself am no stranger when it comes to trauma so I should know that like any other victims of trauma people who were unfortunate to endure rape often times do not want to REMEMBER such experience. so they...

- Dont want to think about it

- Avoid hearing anything that relates to it

- (most importantly) dont want to TALK about it

it might also explain why so many rape victims dont bother to report their incident. so with all that said I now have a 6th sense and that is to never believe women who I just met or dont know personally when they say they were victims of rape. to me if a woman does not hesistate to scream that "she was raped" from the top of a mountain without feeling any sort of trauma, anxiety, or shame then is obvious to me that she is lying or orchastrated the incident in her head.

she is most likely trying to avoid accountability by claiming that she was forced into it or simply trying to use this as a way to gaslight you once you start to feel the false sympathy for her that she wants you to feel.

till then this tweet explains it better than I do. I should also know cause a girl who I almost dated was a prime example of this. she claimed her ex raped her the night she lost her virginity but then her story started to sound like horseshit to me when we cut each other lose and she would shame me for being a virgin while she was not; like who the fuck would be happy to lose their virginity via rape?

The mistakes you shouldn't make either in a relationship or in marriage.

(Don't be fooled, learn the 10 cheat codes)

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1. Thinking that her guy bestie hasn't or can't fvcked her. pic.twitter.com/Ga39Ms2UkR

— 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐮𝐬 (@mentormqsculus) November 10, 2024

I think most people subscribe to the conventional wisdom: once a cheater, always a cheater. And if their partner cheated, they would immediately end their relationship. But some people say that they would try to forgive and continue the relationship, and especially if there are children involved.

I have never cheated on a partner, but I had two partners cheat on me. The first time, my girlfriend cheated with my roommate, and then they both confessed to me so they could shed some of their guilt. At that point, I decided that I had no future with the girl, but I remained with her just so I could use her for sex. And what was left of the relationship had no pretense of being exclusive. This happened about 44 years ago. If it happened now, I would respond with an immediate and total break up.

The second time, I was already in the process of a divorce when I learned that my wife had cheated while travelling a few months previously. We were already living separately so there was nothing I needed to do.

So, I've never forgiven a cheater and tried to return to a monogamous relationship. Have you? If so, did they cheat on you again? Are you still together or did you break up for some other reason?