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I meet a guy a few years ago. We were neighbors. He started washing my car every week. I tried to pay him and he wouldn't take the money. I then found out he was living with his girlfriend at the time. Then they moved out. Then I hear from him a few months later telling me he has crush and wants to take me out and that him and the girl he was dating broke up. But then he kept making excuses when it came time to hang out. Then when questioned I found out that he decided to go back to the same girl he was living with. Now in 2023 we happened to run into each other and reconnect and he still saying he still wants to hang out and that he knows he made a mistake before and that he and the girl ended up broking up shortly after that. However it's been almost a month since we've been in communication and he is still making plans only to cancel or take a raincheck. He asked me to be his valentines and then said oh well I have to bring you the gift I got you early cause I'm working on Valentines day. But on valentines day morning told me he would be able to come see me. Then at the last minute says he cannot get off work and has to stay late and can we go on a date this coming weekend. He is consistently making plans and then canceling or asking for a raincheck. We have yet to actually go on a date. Am I just being paranoid in thinking maybe he is still involved with someone. Am I just wasting my time thinking this guy is going to ever step up? Or does he just want to hook up and potentially ghost me afterwards?

He was away at college, that is where I knew him from. We were kinda friendly acquaintances, but generally had some low key sexual tension. He began to express more clearly that he was interested in exploring that side with me. I told him I was seeing other people bc I didn’t want him to feel played, an he said it didn’t matter to him. Since I live 30 minutes from campus he just spent the night. Yes, we hooked up and we slept in the same bed—twice except we didn’t go all the way the second time. Also had a couple head sesh’s/FaceTime/sexting. He’d call me boo & baby & send cute emojis. But 3 times he’d delete or block me and then reappear claiming his phone was messed up and you know I wouldn’t delete you boo... He graduated this term and deleted me again an I didn’t hear from him for a bit. I thought we’d had a little misunderstanding an never got to say bye so I sent a fairly long text saying I understand if he’s moving forward but was sorry I didn’t get to say bye an I enjoyed our times together an he’s the best. He sent back kind of a formalish but friendly reply thanking me for helping on his journey and being there an time together. That I was the best and he’d never forget another me that I know that. Sent back a 💞 an we didn’t talk since.

Fast forward 2 months later this girl adds me on tiktok. I accept an add her back. It’s when I start watching her videos that I discover she’s been dating this guy before last semester even started. One even showed her gushing over the texts he’d sent her like the same months we were hanging. I still wonder what made her add me to begin with but here’s the problem. Clearly I was a fling it’s fine, but I feel bad for her. Obviously he was playing both sides of it an that’s probably why he’d delete me. Should I tell her, especially since I no longer have the texts that clearly show him cheating. Or should I just let it go as him deleting me with no further contact shows he’s straightened up and being loyal now?