Girls, Do guys like to keep the door open before breaking up with you?

[Anonymous]

I was never in a relationship with this dude but he said that we should break up at the end of the second date because he was only really looking to hook up with girls at this point and I was different in that aspect. Then he said maybe he will feel different in the future and that he doesn’t know because he has ups and downs. We haven’t talked since and I’m moving on but I still kind of wonder if there was any truth to what he said about not being sure. Is that just what guys say when they want to keep their options open?

[SecretsofKB]

Seems to me like he wasn't ready to commit or felt he could do better but didn't want to burn a bridge with you because you're still good.

I saw things like this in college a lot. Kind of immature in my opinion.

[Asker]

Yeah I got no idea. Well he said we had met up so randomly and doesn’t see a relationship flourishing for that reason. Or he might be in a relationship that he’s keeping secret which is why he won’t give a definite answer. He also said he needed 2 weeks to think like ok bro.. I don’t really think he was ever in a serious relationship

[melanieeeB]

He isn't being honest. Don't wait for him. He doesn't want a relationship with you.

[melanieeeB]

He probably just said it to let you down slowly, like some people say "Oh but we can stay friends" but they don't mean it, they're just saying it to make the rejection less hard

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. Though I never said I want it to turn into a serious relationship. I just thought he would be open to the idea of meeting in the future you know? But each to their own I guess

[melanieeeB]

Even if he is, you shouldn't wait. Go and life your life and make your experiences and maybe if faith is for you two and this should be, it will happen eventually but don't wait for that you don't know for sure... you know what I mean?