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So I really hit it off with this new sexy latin girl in Miami,. We've been out 4x and hooked up the last two dates. The problem is she keeps bringing up bills. Please tell me what is going on here;

1st meeting- I met her at a lounge in Miami, we do drinks, I drive her home she says "well I can stay with you tonight, but if I do I'll miss work the next day and will need you to pay me the amount of money I would normally make at work" I was totally taken aback and said no.

2nd date- I ask her if she is a working girl or something, she says no. That was a one time thing from an acute financial problem she said. We do dinner, kissing, no sex, no money request.

3rd date, Dinner, dancing at night club, but she says afterward her work schedule is tough and " what I really would love is my gringo to pay my bills so I don't have to work as much" Had sex first time.

4th date, dinner , dancing until 6am, total cost $650. On way home she says " I have a list of bills, but its not that that is the only thing I want and you can choose" she then lists all her bills line by line. We had sex again.

That Monday she talks about wanting to see her family in Brazil for holidays, but says the ticket is too expensive. I tell her I bought a Christmas gift for $500 and I can return it for cash value to put towards her ticket. She says that won't cover an entire ticket ($1,350). I didn't respond after that.

Tuesday I say good morning, and ask her about doing dinner,...(SILENCE) for next 36 hours,,,, then says- " I've come to the conclusion this isn't the relationship I want and your not the right guy for me"

Is this purely about money? She wouldn't answer my question as to what "issues" she was referring to. It seems insane to me if she doesn't want to talk now soley over this $1350 ticket AFTER I offered providing Christmas cash value of $500 WTF? Do I have any move here?

They are not huge debts but it's gonna take a while to pay them off. I have acquired those debts when I alone moved to Germany from a 3. rd world country (where hell broke loose basically) this year.

I saw here on GAG how many girls expect to be paid for. I also equally as much saw girls being OK with splitting the bill or that they prefer to split the bill for the first few times.

I'm tired of being single for so long and I'm even more sick about being expected having to squander money on "certain" girls like it's a gamble when I have accumulated some meaningful (not nonsensical) debts. I came here to make something of myself and not to be looked at like an open wallet. Those "certain" girls make me feel like the only way I can be qualified for relationships is by having money to squander on them. We have a name for that.

So my best friend is dating a girl and he pay for her to have a free apartment. He have his own home. They do not stay together. They go out with each other and they get along just fine. I just feel they like they will brake up. if he stop giving her the apartment. She need a apartment so she can have a place to stay. He want to date her cause he have no one else that wants to date him at the moment. He is a but shy and dose not go out a lot and girls keep ghosting and rejecting him.

He seem to care about her not at first but now he dose. She seem to care about him sometime. I can not tell if it is true or not. I think it is. He seem to think he is use her and it wrong. But who is using who here? Is this a bad relationship? There seem to be distrust between them. If he stop she get mad and be out on the street. But she said she have other guys that will get her an free apartment. He would not do it but she go out with him cause her dose. Do you think they will brake up? what is best for both of them. ? Like if he could get a girl to go out with him and she could get her own apartment. I think that be best for both of them. But I not sure that she can. cause she said she just have to go out with another guy that will get her and free apartment. I know my best friend dose not want her to have to do thing or just go out with people to have a place to live. he dose not want her just be with him for the apartment

what should I do or say to him about what to do? I don't know what to do? It seem like he distrust her and she distrust him more each day and one of the going brake it off.