Guys, how would you approach dating people with severe allergies?

[AmyHew1tt]

As a person with anaphylaxis and a lot of paranoia around eating out at places--out of experience--I feel a bit nervous about how I'm supposed to approach dating. Because it's not even as simple as not eating something with, for example, and almond in it. If I order a drink made out of dairy milk that was frothed in a container previously using almond milk and not washed out properly, my reaction will be just as bad. Similarly, if someone eats peanuts or something and if I were not to know, hold his hand, and then touch my mouth, the same thing will happen.

I feel a lot of shame around asking people around me to give up the things I'm allergic to and can't reasonably expect them to wash their hands and everything every time they eat something that had eggs in it, even in my family. Friends in the past have been extremely annoyed with me for it. I feel like if I were to actually be safe around someone, my inability to eat certain foods would end up affecting them just as much, especially with a boyfriend, where contact would be much closer. So, I don't know if I should just take myself out of the dating world, or what?

In your own personal opinion, would you be willing to sacrifice some of those things, (not always, obviously) and pay extra care to taking precautions?

[crossdressingrihno]

Most allergies would be easy to work around and so it won’t be that big of a deal. Some allergies are Wes avoidable, and so things might not work out. An example of something that would be easy to work with is a nut allergy. A good example of something that would be a very difficult for me to work around is a meat allergy and yes that exists.

[AmyHew1tt]

I agree, but you'd be surprised how many things people put nuts in, and eggs. Still, I am so grateful I can eat meat.

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah, I have to eat meat. I become physically ill if I don’t. It starts out as just being hungrier and being tired and weak. Then these almost irresistible cravings show up. And eventually I’ll level out but like I’ll have no muscle on me and I’ll just never get anything done.

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, I'm exactly the same. Tried going vegetarian once and ever again because of how horrible I felt.

[Anonymous]

Depends. But I think I could drop having some things around if they were really allergic.


I think some things, like severe sunlight allergies, I probably would not want to date them, as it would be complete overhaul to life. But a lot of food, I could probably be ok with it not being in the house if it was that deadly to her.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Honestly most men prefer a home cooked meal anyways. Now I'll admit I'm not wholly familiar with your allergy, but I'd wager if you were clear about it up front most men wouldn't be off put by it.

I mean I'll be honest if I knew more about you, and was younger I wouldn't have an issue, at least not when it comes to the allergy part. So I'm sure other men will be the same way.

You're young so I say just be patient and you'll find a good guy.
Best of luck to you,

[DarkWinterNights]

As someone who has quite a few dietary restrictions I wouldn’t have a problem adapting. My dad has Celiacs, so I read all the ingredients on things and understand cross-contamination. Home cooked meals are the best and unfortunately only alternative. Restaurants just can’t guarantee allergy free prep areas. It definitely doesn’t make dating any easier, but dating is complicated enough for other reasons.

[SnowedIn]

I would be willing to, yes. I think you'll find that some guys aren't going to want that, but that some will. You will be more worthwhile than the allergies.

[Berethor]

It not easy to be with you, but some guys might feel like it worth it, also maybe you should stop eating outside the house and invite him to your home, yea it can be risky but still.

[xJeremyx]

Id ask to go to her place and cook with her, uding the ingredients she is ok with. We can work with what we have!

[TroyDT2]

I have no problem restricting my diet if need be, so I'd clear the house and pantry of whatever she was allergic to.

[Adogdog]

That would not stop me from dating someone I liked. I would be happy to make sure she was happy.

[In_Trance]

Sure