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I have recently discovered the 5 C's of a relationship, though I'm sure we already use them without knowing about the rule.

How to use the 5 C's.

As a Checklist. Evaluate potential or current partners by seeing if they embody these traits.

As a Growth Tool. Intentionally practice these elements to strengthen your existing relationships.

Commonly Cited 5 C's.

Communication/Closeness: The ability to talk openly, listen actively, resolve misunderstandings, and revealing your true self.

Chemistry: The spark, attraction, and the emotional pull that makes you exited about the person.

Compatibility/Commonality: Shared values, goals, and a sense of fitting well together long term.

Commitment: A conscious decision to stick together through challenges, and build a future.

Compassion/Courtesy/Constructive Conflict: Showing care, and understanding, respect, kindness, appreciation, and managing inevitable issues.

I keep thinking about this.

My ex spent a lot of time and energy getting me to like her which I resisted at first. But then I fell for her and I showed her love in the ways I did like planning out thought out dates for her, getting her things which I thought she’d like whenever I saw anything on trips away and planning special things for her birthday. After a while, she occasionally dropped hints that she wanted me to show love by telling her I like her and that I think about her and she wants more of my attention and she sighed when I did things I don’t like (like go on my phone sometimes when I was with her) but she never said anything about thinking about ending the relationship or that it was affecting her a lot. Then she went away for a couple of weeks then she went silent then when I messaged, she was saying things like we’ll find a time to get together. Then she said she wanted a chat. I asked if everything’s ok and she said yeah, just wants to catch up. Then she seemed normal and had a chat with me about unrelated things then after some time out of nowhere towards the end of our catchup she said she’s starting to feel we’ve become more like friends recently and that she’d been thinking that for about a month. She said she’d discussed it with friends who said if she feels that way after a year it might be time to leave then she said she doesn’t see a future together but genuinely wants to stay friends. I had an inkling this was the case when she stopped messaging during and after her trip. 6 weeks on she keeps messaging me even if my responses are brief.

but I still feel confused, betrayed, angry and sad. And I don’t know how I should feel.

If she also said she’s been thinking about it and she realised she’s not getting what she needs out of a relationship. Never told each other “I love you” after a year together. And also said you can’t change someone and also said she’s felt more like friends recently. And she wants to stay friends but doesn’t see a future together as romantic partners.