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Girl I was seeing (we're both 25) for about six weeks broke things with me, earlier this week. She had gone from saying this just days before that she liked me a lot and that I made her feel really comfortable, and that she could say things to me she couldn't to others, to saying that she didn't think we were compatible and basically that she thought we were in different places in terms of our feelings for each other. Before that night, I didn't think I had ever found someone so compatible to me.

I told her that night I that I thought I might be falling in love with her. She told me Tuesday that was kicked off the thinking that led to her ending it. She also met some of my friends that weekend, for the first time. Even still, she told me afterwards that she likes me a lot, it just takes time to for her to get there. And when she went home the next night, she told me that I make her really comfortable with how I handle things in bed (she's completely inexperienced).

She's never been on more than two dates with someone, or made out or anything, and my therapist and others think she likely panicked. I reached out to her yesterday and we texted back and forth a little, agreed to be friendly going forward (we're on the board of a very active social/networking organization with lots of mutual friends) and continue our working relationship. I also told her she was pretty brave with how she ended things and that my first time breaking things off with someone was hard for me. Does anyone think she could change her mind?

I have an opportunity to marry a younger woman who has an excellent personality and is a very hard worker. We have been friends with for a few years now. It was her idea is purely for economical reasons. It would benefit us both.

But I am not in love with her and she knows that. She said she doesn’t care if I date and sleep with other people. This would be a paper marriage.

I have gotten advice for a few trusted people about this. All but one person said it’s a bad idea. I am leaning towards no myself but besides the economical arrangement a part of me wonders if I’ll ever find an ideal partner given my age.

Ever since I hit 36 (in my early 40s now) my dating life has been hell on earth trying to find a truly decent woman I feel attracted to. I have had a few flings with attractive women who would make horrible wives. I tried dating a girl who i felt so so about physically just for her personality. That slowly got agonizing. I ended up breaking up with her and that ended very badly (she went psycho).

However of me just WANTS this life milestone. But I don’t want to be an adulterer. Even though she understands I might date other woman I do have spiritual beliefs. Oddly the Bible doesn’t say anything direct about premarital sex (but it heavily implied that’s not alright). But it is VERY clear about adultery. I wouldn’t feel comfortable cheating on my wife. Even if it really is a paper marriage and it doesn’t sit well with me.