Search Results: not sure about feelings

I'm not even sure if cheating is the most hurtful thing to do to a partner. What about if they don't cheat but they abuse or beat you? By getting abused/getting beaten, there is no respect, trust nor security either.

I think I'd rather deal with dumping a cheater than getting a restraining order against an abuser. They can also tend to stalk you if you try to leave. Fearing for your life and/or safety has got to be the worst feeling ever, more for us women.

"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?