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I have dated probably a hundred women over the past 35 years. Most of the breakups were the civilized, "this doesn't seem to be working well for either of us" kind of break ups. A few were the embarrassing kind that bring out the worst in everyone. At least the bad break ups helped me to avoid picking such awful partners again.

The worst involved my girlfriend getting drunk, accusing me of being unfaithful with various women around the country (I was at home EVERY night and never cheated on her,) trying to snatch my phone from my hand, losing her grip and falling backwards, hitting her head on the wall, then calling police and having ME arrested for domestic violence. Typical cop bias resulted in me spending a night in jail before the prosecutor eventually decided that there was NO evidence to support any domestic violence charge and the case was dismissed. Lesson learned and I now stay away from girls who seem to drink just a little too much, too often.

Have most of your break ups been peaceful? Any horror stories to share?

I’ve had to break things off down two women in the recent years (one was a marriage was possibility) and still deep down respect them. That is I didn’t blame them for my decision and it was agonizingly difficult decision to make. They were decent women and did nothing fundamentally wrong (e. g. cheating, abuse, lying about major issues)

But I think hard before major decisions and I knew there would be likely major trouble with both women in the future. So I knew they would be heartbroken but I did everything respectfully as possible. I did everything face to face while making eye contact and telling them they didn’t do anything wrong as a person. Told I respected them and I meant it. But it was the decision I had to make.

But I never had woman give me anything remotely close to that kind of respect when I got dumped. Instead I was once told straight to my face by a girl who I casually dated (and considered making it more serious) that “When I like someone I well tell them”. She decided to break it off with me and inferred she never told me she “liked me”. She then had f*cking nerve to ask if we could still be “friends”. I told her fuck no of course.

I also was (initially) respectfully dumped by another girl who a few weeks later literally told me “tough luck you’re an ex” when I informed her about a serious health issue I had at the time.

I’ve also had another girl completely ghost me after almost dating for a year after a minor argument (the relationship was getting rocky but still).

Obviously 99% of the time you will never actually “like” anyone you break up with. Rare exception is some sort of kind of tragic romance where you break up with person you “like” because you are pledged to marry someone else.

However you can respect someone you break up with if they never did anything to intentional harm you (abuse, cheating, etc). But from my experience women usually equate likeability with respect.