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family of 3

mother earns 50 /hour

sometimes 59/hour

works full time, many times even picks up overtime because she has free babysitting.
spends minimal time with her 2 children because she knows there’s always someone watching her kids who she trusts

father earns less but has a promising future because of inherited business

they were given a home they didn’t have to buy, they don’t pay rent only regular bills like water/ power.

she deprives him of sex for years but the random time they finally have it she gets pregnant.

she voices out that she doesn’t want more kids. that they have debt & want to be able to giver EVERYTHING to their 2 current children.
bringing another child would make it impossible to be taking their two children around the world to enjoy activities from other states & countries

they agree to terminate the pregnancy

2 days later she finds out he had sex with another woman & has a lot of naked videos of other women

he admits his fault & agrees he fucked up but wants to fix the situation

he says he went astray because she was not giving him any sex for a very long time. any attempt to try was rejected repeatedly

she refuses to explain why she was not giving him sex. voices out that she is happy she got rid of the new baby because how can she have another child of this cheater!

she is hurt and feels humiliated

later we discover she had deleted messages of sexual talk with another man from months ago. She gaslit her partner into thinking that that is not cheating because it’s not physical

He wants to fix things, asks for forgiveness

she says she cannot forgive

he says he’s trying to save the family in spite of the errors because nobody is perfect and he only did it because he felt abandoned and Lonley to the point that even she referred to him as a roommate

she says he ruined the family with his actions

he says he committed an error but wants to keep the family together

who is right?

What do you think of this?

I saw an episode where a wife wouldn't let their daughter enter ballet school. She suffered a dramatic event of being raped by her former ballet teacher as a kid. Only her mother knew later on but she kept this a secret.

Finally when she admits it to her husband, instead of being supportive... he walks away, scolds her and is disgusted by not being the first man. He was too focused on the ''you're tainted'' part and nearly wanted to proceed with a divorce. His own mother was very ashamed of her son's attitude. Though he only apologized because his mother talked him out of it. He wouldn't have done it on his own account. The former school finally gets arrested when she reports him and he does it to again to the daughter's friend.

Even though it's a ficitious episode, real cases like this does happens. Honestly I would not forgive him. He wanted divorce and his own mother had to talk him out of it. How is being raped being tainted? That's out of someone's control. I would find that attitude and him walking away unforgivable.