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I matched with a guy on tinder and after texting for a few days we decided to meet up. It went so good and I feel like we both genuinely vibes and I got the sense that I could trust him (which has never happened to me before). After the date his response times increased and we were texting back and forth multiple times a day and the conversation was engaging on both parts. We made plans to meet when we both got back from our vacations but haven’t set a date yet.

Its the Christmas holidays now and he went on vacation with a friend and his response times have dropped, i expected this because obviously you’re gonna be more busy and on your phone less during the holidays and my anxious attachment is really self sabotaging me right now making me feel like he’s going to ghost me (it’s been 13 hours since my last text and no word from him). There’s only an hour time difference between us so that’s not really an issue.

please let me know if im overthinking or not thank you!

So my best friend has been feeling down the past month or so and since I no longer live in the same state as her I can’t physically be there for her. But I am also 8 months pregnant and barely have the energy to do anything even working has been a struggle. We didn’t text for over a week, not my fault she just never responded but read my message. Gets upset today because I didn’t check in on her but when I have been she barely responded.

At the end of the day I feel as though if you’re depressed it’s understandable & I’m giving the best advice I can give. But your situation is not going to go above mine when I’m pregnant and she barely checks on me. Plus she isn’t doing anything to get herself out of the depression so it’s not up to me to solve that problem. She hasn’t asked about me, she hasn’t asked if the baby has been okay but wants this title as a god parent.

In a way she tries to guilt trip me saying well our communication isn’t the same since you’ve been pregnant blah blah blah. Like what does my personal life have to do with YOU not responding. And honestly I have no energy to cater to someone else when we’re both grown and I have a husband and a baby on the & work full time.

I always acknowledge her feelings but today I had enough of the pity party bullshit. And when I told her “ I've reached out to you and you rarely respond now I give you space because no matter what I say or whatever advice I give your going to feel how you feel you need work on your shit” I got no response again. Im mot going to kiss ass or pity someone who just expects someone to always be there when they can’t!