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Whenever people talk about how we are living in historical or unprecedented times, I always kind of roll my eyes, as it strikes me as a sort of generational narcissism, but I understand where they are coming from with the claim. 2020's thus far can be defined by political turmoil, war, culture wars/cultural upheaval, the rise of AI (although we are yet to see how far that will go), and the pandemic. This all seems big, but is it really? By comparison, the 2010s have a similar identity and are arguably the starting point of a lot of what we are still experiencing. The 2000s, obviously 9/11, Iraq, Afghanistan, and the financial crash. I think you could make a case that the 1990s were fairly uneventful after the collapse of the Soviet Union (end of history and all that), but then going back further, every decade was also pretty eventful, so are the 2020s actually special?

Are the 2020s really as historic and iconic as many people seem to think? Or is society's consciousness just very self-obsessed at the moment and used to not much actually happening? Either way, there are still five more years to prove this either way.

I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.

Maybe the reason some people cheat and others don't is that some of us consider cheating to be a horrible and unforgivable breach of trust, while others might think, "I won't get caught but, if I do get caught, it's not that big of a deal."

So, two questions:

1. Have you ever cheated on a partner to whom you had promised faithfulness? and

2. Would you end the relationship if you discovered that your partner was being unfaithful?