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I think most people subscribe to the conventional wisdom: once a cheater, always a cheater. And if their partner cheated, they would immediately end their relationship. But some people say that they would try to forgive and continue the relationship, and especially if there are children involved.

I have never cheated on a partner, but I had two partners cheat on me. The first time, my girlfriend cheated with my roommate, and then they both confessed to me so they could shed some of their guilt. At that point, I decided that I had no future with the girl, but I remained with her just so I could use her for sex. And what was left of the relationship had no pretense of being exclusive. This happened about 44 years ago. If it happened now, I would respond with an immediate and total break up.

The second time, I was already in the process of a divorce when I learned that my wife had cheated while travelling a few months previously. We were already living separately so there was nothing I needed to do.

So, I've never forgiven a cheater and tried to return to a monogamous relationship. Have you? If so, did they cheat on you again? Are you still together or did you break up for some other reason?