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i met this guy on yikyak and although we never shared pictures or exchanged social media or talked on call, we described to each other how we look. i lied about my appearance (i’m overweight and not conventionally attractive so i was insecure). i’m (18F) talking to a guy (21M). we started off with just sexting. we caught feelings for each other and are still talking (since January 2024). the thing is that initially in the beginning i didn’t give him my real name or which city i live in. slowly over time, these lies built up. i didn’t think we would even talk for more than a week but we still are. he knows my age, where and what i study, but i lied to him about my name, where i live, my ethnicity/nationality (i’m a woc), what my parents do, sibling, what i look like, and some of my outfits. i also told him i have an ex of 6 years who cheated on me (i was embarrassed i didn’t have any ex when he has 2-3). over time as we caught feelings for each other, he told me he would like to meet me (he’d fly to where i study), ask me out, date me for a couple of years and finally marry me and have a family with me. i think despite these lies we have a real connection- we talk about our dreams and ambitions, our feelings, our favorite music and movies, we talk about books, about our families, our problems, our achievements and pretty much everything. i’m the only person besides his mom who he has told about what he wants to do in the future. we talk most of the day and sleep together on spotify jam. i made him a playlist and he made me one. this weekend he asked me to make a playlist for us to sleep to. a week ago, i told him i loved him and he told me he loved me. i genuinely love this guy a lot and want to have a real relationship with him. should i tell him the truth? if so, how will he react? or should i just tell him i can’t meet because my parents don’t approve and let him go forever?

Background: My life has done a complete 360° since God put me in time out to heal for the last three years. I have ignited new passions and rekindled old passions during my journey.

I now have the privilege of pursuing higher education or taking time off to start a family. I am undecided. I feel like the only thing I TRULY want for my life is to be a mommy but the world has sooooo much more to offer through education.

There are many opportunities that have been presented to me that makes the idea of holding off on children more appealing even if I'd prefer to have a baby now. There is also fear in becoming a first-time new mommy. It's a lot of work and I would most likely be doing all the domestic labor by myself or with a nanny.

*Sighs*

There's a lot to consider. If you are currently a parent, I really want to hear from you. All opinions are welcome of course. So should I take a break from schooling and focus on becoming a mommy or finish my Master's and Ph. D program then settle down with baby?

I've included a poll to make things easier if you don't feel like writing. I enjoy reading what you all have to say though.