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This post was inspired by this question here. I already have my own ideas on it, but thought it'd make for a fun GAG question.

Ego ("confidence"), height & looks, and social status (money/career/success/popularity) are the three things most straight women want in an ideal man, and some even require them. All three of these things combined, makes the "perfect man." How "low" a modern heterosexual woman is willing to go or downgrade on, depends on the woman, but you can usually only lack one of them to still have a shot. Lack more than one and you're completely SOL.

So men of GAG, I ask you this:
Which of these do you think a woman is most likely to tolerate in a flawed imperfect man?

So there are a few people in my life, thankfully not many, who I have these multiple-years long conflicts with. We're talking like active hostility, they'll block me if I tried reaching out, that sort of thing. I've learned to just respect the fact they don't want to be in touch lol.

Now, me personally, I know what the conflicts are about, but I just don't see them as that big of a deal. Like the one conflict happened because the guy thought I was abusive to my ex girlfriend (I wasn't). Another happened with a girl I dated, who it turned out that she had a fiance and was dating me on the side. There's a conflict I had with two other ladies who had dated my friends, and who blocked me after the relationships ended. I'm sure there are others.

None of these people have any interest in interacting with me whatsoever and seem to be actively repelled by the idea, even years later. I guess I just don't see the big deal? Like I get that we aren't going to be friends, but we can't even engage in small talk and pleasantries? Some of these conflicts happened more than 5 years ago.

I realize that I'm probably more comfortable with confrontation than most people, but I feel like this isn't normal. Like, if you briefly dated my friend 5-7 years ago, we should probably be able to at least talk. I think the one where she cheated on her fiance with me makes a bit more sense that she wouldn't want to be in contact, but even that I just feel like replying to a message online isn't that big of a deal.

Am I missing something here?

Years ago I briefly dated a former stripper. She might of done some “side work” but it was never confirmed. But I wouldn’t be surprised if she did.

After getting into long conversations with her she was actually much smarter than I expected. She was of course extremely beautiful. She was one of the top 3 most attractive women I had ever slept with in my life.

Ironically she came from a good family but she was the “problem child”. She wanted to date me seriously but she didn’t have a steady work nor any plans to go back to college (she dropped out). She also had problems with excessive marijuana use and experimenting with other harder drugs

I didn’t want a relationship but I did care for her. I was willing to just stay platonic friends and help her recover. I saw the potential if she reformed. But she didn’t accept that. I also inadvertently made a very stupid insulting comment after we had sex one time (and said wow you are so tight). I regretted saying that. I would of apologized if we talked again.

Anyway I followed her IG for a long time. She has now been sober from all drugs for 2 years. She also got several of her tattoos removed and she is going back to college. I don’t expect her to let me “accept” her idea of dating steadily at this point. But if she was were she was at now vs where she was 5 years ago I would of definitely considered it. But at the time I think she saw me as a “safety net nice guy”. Also I just bought my own house and she figured she might be get free rent if she moved in. But she was a mess at the time and was it really my job to reform her?