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I have never gotten a second chance after a romantic screw up.

My screw ups were usually verbal. For example there was a girl I was having a fling with 2 years ago. She was cute af but her legs were a bit too briskly from not regularly shaving. I didn’t dare mention anything the first two times we hooked up. However before the third time I tried to tactfully ask her to smooth up a bit for our next hang out. She got pissed & that was the end of it. I tried apologizing a week later (despite her reaction being a bit over the top). She seemingly forgave me but we never met up again.

In my more serious and long term relationships I usually got axed for not communicating well enough over problems. Not saying women can be a unnecessary pain in ass at time. We all know that. But we have to hear them out whether we like it or not at times. However I had to learn a few hard lessons on that one. Still though I have never in my life had a girl follow up weeks or months later after she initially decided to cut it off saying she had second thoughts.

Anyway I personally believe women overall get more second chances than men for romantic screw ups. Especially in the western world. Even more especially if the man & woman are in “the same league”. Men are taught to endure more crap. Maybe sometimes it’s worth it to be patient but other times it’s pathetic (e. g. taking back a cheater). There are exceptions when women tolerate way more bs then they should if they are dating a guy way out of their league. Also some women sadly tolerate horrific abuse but stick around because they have some sort of sick twisted masochinistic pleasure from that bullshit (another topic). But overall they have less tolerance for screw ups as vice versa in my opinion

But in all the rom coms I (once in a blue moon) watched growing up there is a common storyline of the guy making a mistake but later getting a second chance and/or proving himself. But I rarely if ever see that happen in real life.

A traditional woman used to pride herself on serving her husband. Something that most men place great interest and satisfaction in.

While many modern women claim to be completely independent and do not require a man; a man’s happiness is largely based in being a provider and being appreciated for his efforts. If a woman has no need for him and does not bestow gratification upon him for his labours, what benefit should a self sufficient man hope to gain through an unnecessary relationship?

Most Men are fully capable of providing themselves with every personal desire and need. Besides sex and children, the independent feminist woman offers no personal gain to us. While we are content with our own capabilities and provisions, we have little satisfaction to gain by risking our lives and estates for an ungrateful female companion.

While I applaud social changes that allow women to succeed on their own and be independent, I merely state the possible cause of many modern women’s loneliness and isolation from successful capable husbands.

Summarily, we are mostly unnecessary and unappreciated, hence have little to gain and much to risk. At the end of my third marriage, I look at the incredible cost of giving away the fruits of my many conquests and labours over the years and ask myself if it was worth it? Aside from the knowledge gained and experience, I conclude negatively.