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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

It’s true that men are more likely to turn to unhealthy, self destructive and even violent means to deal with repressed emotions. More alcoholism, drugs, crime, fighting, risky activities, etc. Shorter lifespans too

Now if we have productive means to deal with our emotions e. g. sports, meaningful work, exercise, projects, inventions, hobbies, etc that can be a good thing. But even that can only go so far in my opinion.

My approach is that men should absolutely seek help but do it PRIVATELY. Join prívate mens groups, get counseling, attend private support groups, etc. But don’t go around telling people about it unless it’s someone you can 100% trust (best friend or a family member). Don’t go into details about it with the woman you are dating either.

We have to put on a different face in public and especially around women.

Personally I am so f*cking fed up with women who keep encouraging men to “open up” about their feelings and emotions. It’s has to be the most insidious shit test of them all. Once a man does this she feels relief that he is more “relatable” since he is acting more like a woman. But at the same time she loses attraction and RESPECT if he acts this way.

Most women have no idea how important it is that they want women to RESPECT them as real men. That is subconsciously the biggest Freudian motivation for men to act the way they do (for better or worse). Yet women want to destroy that for the short term “relief” they get for seeing a man get emotional.