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Sometimes, when confronted with unfaithfulness, cheaters will defends themselves by saying

- It only happened once, or

- I was drunk and didn't mean to do it, or

- I didn't plan it. It just happened and I immediately regretted it.

Some people will accept these excuses enough to not immediately end the relationship. It seems that they categorize these scenarios as "not as bad as long term, repeated cheating." Logically, I understand the argument, but. . . to me, any cheating is a reason to immediately end the relationship. Asking about degrees of cheating, or different levels of culpability is like asking, "What's worse? Dying by drowning in the middle of the ocean or dying in a fire?"

For me, the response is simple:

- It only happened once. . . BUT YOU PROMISED IT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN, NOT EVEN ONCE!

- I was drunk and didn't mean to do it. . . BUT I'VE GOTTEN DRUNK BEFORE AND NEVER CHEATED ON YOU.

- I didn't plan it. It just happened and I immediately regretted it. . . . NO, IT DIDN'T JUST HAPPEN. YOU MADE DECISIONS AND TOOK ACTIONS THAT MADE IT HAPPEN, AND REGRETTING IT AFTERWARDS DOES NOTHING TO UNDO THE HARM YOU HAVE CAUSED.

I am talking about on average here I understand there is exceptions to the rule. But men and women are tricky as well as easy to catch in their own ways.

Men are much more impulsive cheaters on average. Not that women can’t have someone approach them at the right place right time but men are more likely to sleep with a woman he doesn’t even know…. So you may never know that it even happened. However they aren’t very planned out. They don’t really cover their tracks well and if they start talking to someone or something it becomes easier to spot.

Women on the second hand are usually much more planned out. They know who they want to cheat with as well as have a plan to cover their tracks before they act on it. What’s the catch? Women typically are sleeping with someone she or the both of you already know. After so long it becomes more obvious something is going on despite the gaslighting attempts.

The chances are higher that someone will rat her out, that you’ll notice she’s too close to someone, roomers, etc. Especially using their friends to cover it up sometimes one will start feeling bad and confess it. Or even seduce him and tell him.

So both are easy as well as hard to spot. Men are more messy. They don’t plan it out well and don’t cover their tracks well. As where with women they do BUT…. At the same time are doing it with someone close. At some point it becomes obvious if someone doesn’t say something