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Hi everyone,

My boyfriend is participating in a sports tournament in another city this weekend, and he’s invited me to join him from Friday to Sunday. I’m torn about whether or not to go because I’m struggling with some personal family issues and have been having a tough time lately. I’m also feeling like I wouldn’t want to stay at home alone. If I do decide to go, he mentioned that it would be good if I could participate in the tour with him.

Here are my thoughts on whether to go or not:

Reasons to Go:

Change of Scenery: A new place might help lift my spirits and provide a welcome distraction.
Support: I’d love to watch him play and support him in a sport I care about.
Understanding His World: I want to see what his sports tours are like. I sometimes struggle with insecurities, and I worry about him being safe and whether there might be issues like cheating.

New Experience: This could be a fun and unique experience for me.

Reasons Not to Go:

Social Concerns: I don’t know his friends very well and tend to be shy in social situations. I’m worried about not fitting in and being stuck there all weekend if I don’t connect with them.

Tour Responsibilities: I’m concerned about being labelled as a “tour virgin,” with responsibilities like handling food and beverages. There will also be a couple of new guys that are going and 1 family with mother and son going along with the dad. My boyfriend said I might not have many duties, but the thought still worries me.

I’d appreciate any advice or thoughts on what you think might be the best course of action. Or if you have any suggestions on how I can ease my anxiety would be great too thank you.

Thanks!

You can just answer the poll if you'd like, but there's also a story time below.😁

I should start off by saying, I'm an outgoing person, I like being around people so I find it very easy to make friends. I think have a hard time understanding introverts who struggle with making friends, so I'm sorry if I sound rude. I dont want to be that way. I hope I don't come across as such. * hug * Okay, ready for story time? Lol

There was someone on social media who was saying that summertime is hard for them because people have not always shown up for them and it makes them feel lonely. I responded with saying that it's important for them to handle situations on their own and not always rely on people but not to give up. Friends can be found in unexpected places.

They snapped back saying I was insensitive and that people end their life because people aren't always there. (Always? Of course not always. People have lives.)

I think it's concerning if somebody always relies on another person. It's part of adulting to figure out how to handle situations on your own I believe. I'm not saying you need to handle everything on your own, but you don't need to sulk around when you don't have someone right there because you've learned how to mentally equip yourself with situations on your own. I've met people like this in real life too.

One guy kept complaining about how he can't make any friends. It was always everybody else's problem to him. The guy was in his mid-30s, no friends.

I used to have a friend who had a photo album and in this album she had 30 plus pictures of all these different kinds of friends who she said did something wrong to her. It didn't take long until she accused me of something I didn't do. And it was the most hilarious one of all. She said I was doing witchcraft in her kitchen when I was making a pot of tea.😂😂I most certainly was not.