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I finally met a woman who makes me feel comfortable and had an instant connection with. But from the start, she has said I am not the type of man she wants, although the lines have blurred at times with things she has asked. I didn't want to hear it because I like her so much, but I figured I'd rather have her as a friend than not at all because we get on so well.

Things started slow but grew to where we were talking for hours every day. This is not like me, I don't talk to anyone, but with her it feels natural. even the pauses felt comfortable. I have never got on with anyone like her. I know it's not alpha, but I like the support we give each other.

Our relationship has been purely phone-based for a year because we live apart and neither of us tried to change that until a couple of weeks ago.
The day started great, she text me first, and later she called. It was our best chat yet. 2 hours into the call and I mentioned I was going to be in her town soon, so I suggested we should hang out or get lunch. She reacted badly and we had our first disagreement. She said meeting once would change nothing. The call ended awkwardly. A couple of days later she called me, and I apologised for putting her on the spot, she said I upset her but she upset herself too. I asked if we were OK and she said yes. That call was short but still awkward. We went from talking every day to nothing for 2 weeks which has made me soo down because I felt like I lost my best friend, but yesterday she called me out the blue and was talking like she used to. she sent a couple of texts which had her playfulness back too. The calls were short as I was at work and couldn't talk, but I text her at the end of the day and she didn't respond. I text her again today and she replied with a single word and a smiley emoji

What does she want?
Why react negatively to an innocent invite?
Is the friendship over?
Why start communicating again, but later fail to reply to my texts?
How should I move forward?

We talk for hours, almost every day. She already defined our relationship as friendship only, which is dissapointing because we get on soo well with each other and I've never felt this spark with anyone before, but that is fine because I'd rather have her as a friend than not at all. We share the same hobbies, opinions, and values, except on this occasion. I'm sure there was a mutual attraction to start, but I wasn't quick enough to action, and after a year of talking, the sexy facard which we put on when trying to attract someone has dropped, and she saw the real me, which isn't so appealing. But I found a smart, funny, like minded friend, so still a win.

We've been calling for about a year, mostly for work but the calls always became personal. Within the past few months have we been talking every day for hours, outside of work.

We live 120 miles apart, so although we've talked about doing things, it never happened. But she talks about visiting her other friends who live as far from her as I do. When I asked if we could meet for lunch in her town, when she was free, she nervously laughed and refused. We carried on awkwardly for a few more minutes, I asked why, she told me meeting in person isn't a criteria for a friendship. And if we met once, why would that change things. I told her meeting should be the next phase of our friendship.

I don't understand. How do I differ from her other friends? It makes me feel like she dosent value me as much as the other people in her life, or like I was just an ear to listen for the past year. Its worse because I really care about her. I want the best for her and for her to be happy, but what she wants isn't what I want

I will obviously respect her wishes and not bring up the topic again. But it saddens me that this is as far as we will go, or even if our relationship will remain after this.

Before it's suggested, she's not a catfish.

Am I in the wrong? Is this kind of relationship common?

Why would she object so strongly?