there's a guy i developed a crush on. me and his friend had a little rebound situation that did not last long. now i wish i would've met the guy i have a crush on first. i take music lessons with him, he's polite and amicable but i'm afraid him and his buddies think or would think i'm a whore for showing interest in him romantically months later from the rebound now. i notice my crush staring at me sometimes. when he's giving me lessons and has to move my fingers i feel some sort of tension (do not know if sexual) i feel attracted to him and i don't know if he is to me. i would like to genuinely have a friendship though since i'm not even focused on being in a relationship right now but i have no idea on what to do exactly since i have my fears. how should i go about explaining my fears to him, if they're true and if he'll be open to a friendship? i'm a girl and he's a guy so i find myself having an extremely hard time making guy friends compared to my guy friends with other guys
Guys, will he be turned off by me?
What Guys Said
It's understandable to have fears and concerns about how others perceive you, especially when it comes to romantic or sexual interests. However, it's important to remember that you are not defined by your past experiences or relationships. It's also important to give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume negative thoughts or judgments from them.
In terms of talking to your crush, I would suggest starting with a casual conversation and getting to know him better as a person. You can ask him about his interests, hobbies, and what he likes to do outside of music lessons. If you feel comfortable, you can also express your interest in being friends and explain that you're not looking for a romantic relationship at the moment.
It's possible that your crush may not be interested in a friendship, or may be hesitant due to your past relationship with his friend. However, it's better to communicate your intentions and fears openly and honestly rather than trying to guess what he may be thinking. At the end of the day, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and feelings, and not to base your self-worth on others' perceptions of you.
"I have an extremely hard time finding guy friends compared to my guy friends with other guys"
Huh? Read this aloud and see if it sounds coherent.
Since I am a female. I don't know if it's for being or not being attractive to them but guys seem to shy away from me. Girlfriends usually don't visibly seem to enjoy me talking to their boyfriends when I try to make conversation like at after parties and shows which makes it harder for me to not get in mind about not pursuing a friendship. i think girls and guys can be friends without have sexual intercourse or relying on that friendship to be a relationship eventually but i don't know, it's like guys think i'm interested in them or not at all because a lot of times guys stare at me but never try to initiate conversation
yet my best friend who is a guy, will say one sentence to any guy and all of a sudden they're hitting it off. other guys don't shy away from him like with me
What do you mean shy away from you? As a friend? Boyfriend? This still isn't making a whole lot of sense.
he just seems to be shy around me at a lot of time. just stares at me at times.
Keep talking to him. I wouldn't friendzone him.
If he is, then he's a waste of time.