Truth behind insecurities

[Guysvsgirls]

So I've never been the prettiest or thinnest girl in a group. My friends have told me that I'm so lucky to be "thin" yet I don't see myself as a thin person. I don't view myself as a beautiful, head turner girl. Everyone has that person they think has it all; thin, flawless skin and smile, perfect in every (physical) way. But something we need to learn is that EVERYONE HAS INSECURITIES. I know it's cliché sounding, but it's so true. I knew a model, and she even had insecurities about how she looked. We aren't the only ones that feel "ugly" or full of flaws. I realize that once I actually told people about my insecurities, I felt better and less under pressure for trying to "be perfect" like the girl next door because I knew she also had insecurities about herself. I also talk to my friends about what we love about ourselves. That really helps boost our self esteem. I'm going to say what my main insecurities are (as well as a pic of it), and feel free to do so yours, cause it may make you feel less under pressure. My insecurity is my skin; as it is not flawless and my thicker legs. Phew! That felt good. Give it a try. You are not alone. Feel free to post a pic of your beautiful self. Know that no one is perfect.

[mangaka92]

You don't see yourself as thin? If you were any thinner, there wouldn't be anything left! You're a great size.
It's true, though. Everyone does have insecurities. In fact, I've heard it said that models are extremely insecure about themselves, even. :/
Honestly, I really love your skin and your legs. They both look fantastic!
I guess as far as my own, I'd say that I'm way skinnier (and shorter) than I want to be and my teeth aren't what I'd like them to be. I'm constantly looking at people's teeth (please don't be creeped out by it. Lol) and it just makes me more insecure about my own. I've had hundreds of nightmares about them, constantly. I also get a lot of reminders of how short and skinny I am, constantly, having people say things like "You'd better eat more and gain some weight. My daughter is bigger/taller than you are" and stuff like that. I hear that kind of stuff all the time.

[Guysvsgirls]

Awe thank you! And I always look at people's teeth! I'm very conscious of them. I just had a double he surgery, and my gaps from breaking the upper he are still closing. :-p But see? Everyone has insecurities. I'm sure you look just fine :-) being a guy and trying to live up to the social norm of "masculine " figure. What makes a true man is how much of a gentleman he can be.

[mangaka92]

@Guysvsgirls You're welcome! ^_^
I'm glad I'm not the only one. ^^" Oh really? I see. :)
Yeah, we definitely all do, for sure.
Thanks. ^_^
Yeah, maybe. :)

[jormungand]

Well, my biggest insecurity is m height. I'm 19 and 1m68. I know height isn't everything, but for me it just doesn't feel right if a girl is taller than me. So i have to pass on a lot of girls (cries a little inside). But yh, there are still plenty of girls to date. So it isn't that big of an issue. But it still bothers me though.

[Guysvsgirls]

How tall are you in feet? And there's nothing wrong with the girl being a little taller than you. :-) and I'm sure you have a great personality!

[jormungand]

that's about 5 feet 6 inches
hmm, my personality.. Sometimes i'm a jerk because i like to tease people, and sometimes i go a bit overboard. But generally i'm pretty funny though i say so myself. But yh, if you're an irrational person, it will never work. Wow that last sentence was a bit dramatic haha

But for some reason i can't stop imagining myself being normal height like 5 foot 10 inches. Being normal, is like i dream i can't stop dreaming. Lol I'm really bitching at the moment. But anyway, i guess i just have to accept it

[coolbreeze]

Good take. And I think its true we all have some type of insecurity that makes us feel insecure.

[Guysvsgirls]

Thank you!

[coolbreeze]

Your very welcome. :)

[tenofthepeaks]

i think you're trolling... you're not ugly and you know it... and you're right, everbody has inecurities, and not just in looks terms. by the way, filipino?

[Guysvsgirls]

Honestly I do feel that I am not that pretty. But it is an insecurity. I didn't grow up with people saying in pretty. And no, I'm Chinese.

[Guysvsgirls]

Because of not growing up being called pretty, I always figured I wasn't that pretty. Which I really am not the head turner girl.

[Kalibie]

That and Chinese have a very different standard. The prettiest girl in my school was 94 lbs for example. Even if you were slightly over weight it's considered obese. And if you were dark you are considered fugly no questions asked, most east Asian girls would be pissed if you say they looked like Lucy liu for example.( yes I tried it on all my friends back home who have never been in the west)

[Krushhbrownies]

This is a nice take

[Guysvsgirls]

Thank you very much :-)