Labeling Love: What Society Secretly Hates

[angelofshadows131]

Well here I go. I have been on social media for about a year now and trust me, I have seen it all. I have seen hate, trends, sexual images, you name it. The thing that has really been standing out lately, is labeling. Now let me get more detailed. For as long as people can remember, when it came to love and dating, you always saw a man and a woman together. You always saw a man and a woman loving each other, but what you didn't see often enough, was a man with a man or a woman with a woman. Society has always hates on "gay" or "lesbian" couples. Heck some even find it sinful. Today, you see more and more "gay" couples, being happy and loving each other.

Myself, I have a few "lesbian" friends or bisexual friends. Even one of them got a crush on me. Even though I am straight, it didn't bother me at all. I accepted it. It didn't change her personality in any way, it just changed who she was attracted to. I said I was straight, but......Im also a little bisexual. I have only dated guys but sometimes I catch feelings for girls too. None of my friends hate me for it or anything. They accept who I date, whether it be a boy or a girl. That's why I'm so open minded about it, because my friends accept. They don't treat me differently in any way. I am still me. I am still who I am. I'm just attracted to the same sex sometimes. I will admit though, I have been hated on for it from time to time. What do I do about it? I fight back. I tell things like "Who I am attracted to? Is none of your concern." or "Don't be trying to put me down just because of what sex I date." or even "I appreciate your opinion but you should keep your hatful comments to yourself. They are not wanted here so you should just leave me alone. Go tell someone who cares."

Love is love and it has no labels. You have a right to love whoever you want and nobody should ever make you feel bad for it. This is just an example: A 30 year old guy still listens to One Direction. Do you think I will judge? No. He has a right to listen to and like whatever band he wants to.

Society today is just so judgmental especially when it comes to love, jobs, decisions, where you live, how much money you make, even what you wear or how you look. People even hate on guys or girls with a lot of tattoos or piercings, but you know what? It's their body. They can whatever they want, if it makes them happy or feel good about themselves. Like it's their heart. They can love whoever they want no matter what people say. I mean you can't control you who you get a crush on right? So you can't control what gender you are attracted to. Society is hating on something we can't control.......feelings. I always tell people this and I want to tell you guys this. I want you to think about this long and hard: A sister loves her sister and people say it's okay because they're family. A brother loves his brother and people say it's okay because they're family. BUT....as soon as a girl and a girl or a guy and a guy, who love each other, AREN'T family? People see it as wrong.

With that being said, family or who you're related to, doesn't make who you love, okay, under certain circumstances (a brother and a brother or a sister and a sister). Love is love. A person can love who they want, dress how they want, or do what they want. Even live how they want without being judged. It's like judging a book by its cover. You take one look on the outside and automatically assume you don't like it. Just because something seems wrong to your eyes, doesn't mean you really know what going on inside, until you read it. A title is just a few words, but inside? There are thousands of words that say so much more.

[Anonymous]

"You always saw a man and a woman loving each other"
Because it's normal.

"but what you didn't see often enough, was a man with a man or a woman with a woman."
Seen sufficiently thanks.

"Heck some even find it sinful"
Because it is sinful in almost every religion, and 2/3 of all humans are religions so, that goes with the territory.

"That's why I'm so open minded about it, because my friends accept" But are you really so open minded, can you even understand religious morals, I doubt you can and that proves you are not really open minded at all. You simply have a different opinion/values.

"Even live how they want without being judged" nope, to judge others is a civil right, and nobody have a right live free of any kind of judgement. You are judgmental yourself, only against those who disagree with you, see it's quite normal.

"It's like judging a book by its cover" and we all do, that's why book covers are so important for the marketing departments in other to sell the books.
And goes for all other aspects of society as well, we all do judge a book by its cover only some of us reads a few pages as well before any final judgement.
(clothes, cars, education , looks and appearance , intelligence - we are all judging all the time by the cover, you need to know someone before to can actually judge their personality).

[angelofshadows131]

Uh thank you? i guess. •-•

[Opinion Owner]

No offence intended.

I am being honest here and try to give you a different perspective, to hopefully make you see things more nuanced.

Just to make things clear, practising homosexuality is a civil right, but just because it a civil right doesn't make it morally ok. Morality is individual and is influence on our background, religion or the absent of religion, the time we are born in, in culture of our society.

You have to make the destination between morals and civil rights, theses are often mixed together by both pro and con LGBT's. Something can be legal and still immoral, something can be immoral in your opinion and morally sound in my opinion.

Point being, it's nuanced with no clearly defined lines of right and wrong, true or false.

[angelofshadows131]

You realize Im only 15 right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, which means you are far more likely to accept new input, adults are mostly settled in their minds and won't really change or see things from a different perspective. You however might, and that's what I am trying to do, make you see tinges a bit differently and get some new perspectives - meaning you become smarter and more thoughtful :)

PS: If this was a book report in school instead of a take on GaG, and you had two perspective for this subject, you would get higher grades - I am not kidding.

[schulzy]

I couldn't give two shits whether people are straight, gay, or any other of those letters. I just don't want to see it on the street. Kill it on the pda. I don't care if you're gay or straight, just stop. It's gross either way.

[ImaSloth]

People have a right to their opinion just as much as people have a right to love whoever they choose, but if you're looking for a world where everyone gets along and doesn't judge you're wasting your time.. Honestly what the LGBT community needs to do is accept they'll never be accepted fully, you will always have those people who find it disgusting and refuse to provide services based on sexual orientation, but that's their right.. I also find the act of two men having sex nauseating, but that's because I'm straight. I always find it interesting when the judged start judging those who judge them :P

[BruceJender]

PC is what's holding us all back.

Civil rights activists all have the same feeling, they want completely equality, but like you said, it won't be 100% reached unfortunately.

[angelofshadows131]

It's just my opinion on the world okay? In just voicing what I feel.

[ImaSloth]

And so am I

[KHaskins]

Somebody's looking for a pat on the head. 😋

There's nothing brave about posting takes like this, lockstep with PC orthodoxy. Honestly, the aggressive, in-your-face, "blow smoke up my ass or you're a _____phobe" wing of the LGBT movement is more irritating these days than anything their opposition is doing (with the exception of the Westboro Baptist Church). They're more likely by far to take it on themselves to destroy someone if they come out in opposition to them. Look at Brendan Eich.

[MysteriousFlower]

I only think there is so much before lines get crossed. I grew up knowing three sexualities; straight, bisexual and gay and I'm ok with the most part. Also, a lot of teenagers go through different phases, so sexuality may not always fully develop until your a little older. However, at your age I was telling people at churches its ok if people are gay :D

[Sad-onion]

the problem is, where does it end? I have nothing against gays or lesbians, and you're right its no ones business but their own who they love. I personally know a number of gay men and im happy for them.

However, if were aiming for equality, what about incestual relationships? what about polygamy? You said it yourself, you can't help who you love, so why does society label incest as wrong, or being married to multiple people? the same thing applies, it concerns no one but the people involved.

[ClearlyCharisma]

"I said I was straight, but... Im also a little bisexual."

What the fuck does that even mean?

[MysteriousFlower]

Undecided.

[BruceJender]

Undecided would mean you don't know which to choose, much like I'm undecided about how this take makes me feel.

She's bicurious but leaning more towards being straight.

Most girls have these periods anyway.

[angelofshadows131]

Okay I didn't mean to say that. What I meant to say was, I was straight but now I'm bi.

[Aeon_Flux_21]

LOVE IS A CHEMICAL REACTION. get over it. Freaking females pissing me off today.

[angelofshadows131]

What's that supposed to mean?

[Anonymous]

I don't support gay marriage it's wrong and should be between a man and woman and I don't wanna see to women holding hands or to guys holding hands with eachuther in public or kissing it's just gross