Why having a minimal age to have kids is a horrible idea.

[Anonymous]

First off this is only intended for people who actually want to have kids and consider it a high priority in their life goals.

Growing up my parents ( especially my mother) would always tell me to wait until I'm in my early 30's to have kids because I should be established with a decent amount of life experience around me. My parents were also divorced and my mother blamed part of it on being to young due to maturity reasons. I still believe that people shouldn't have kids until they can financially take care of them, but think its naive to rule out having kids before 30 at the same time and here is why....

• 1 Greater pregnancy risks comes with age. Having a miscarriage at 30 is only slightly more likely then age 20, but once you hit your mid 30s those numbers skyrocket. With high rates of teen pregnancy its easy to assume getting pregnate cannot be challangeing at times and it would be mistake to assume that you will conserve on demand when the time is ready.


• 2 If you can afford it, the energy levels that comes with being a young parent can be an extreme plus. It's human nature for us to slow down with age and it only speeds up as we get older. As a parent I intend on teaching my children sports in an extreamly hands on fasion and would enjoy as much energy as possible.


• 3 Will you be with the right person at the right time? Dating in our early twenties is pretty enjoyable. No one is in a rush to get married or have kids so we are more keen on other positive qualities about our partners. I've seen relationships end due to one person not being ready for children dispite being with someone they love and still wanting to be with them down the line. In my PERSONAL opinion single women in their early 30s ironically have the hardest time finding someone to have children with them.Sometimes people put of having kids so long they forget they want them and when the time comes they desperately try to find someone to conserve with and that person can often be the wrong guy/women.


• 4 Being in my early twenties I still remember what it was like to be a child. Let's face it tho the memories get slightly more shady over the years. One benefit to being a Young parent is still being able to relate to kids on a different level. Everyone was young once, but does everyone remember what it was like?

So once again this wasn't intended to try to convince anyone to have kids that doesn't want to. Having children isn't for everyone. This was intended to open peoples minds who refuse to have kids only because of an age number.

P.S Make sure your partner wants kids. No holes in condoms please!

[TigerDK16]

Our parents and grandparents had kids at a young age. This was normal as a college education wasn't that important back then. Now, it's sort of required to set yourself up in a position to be financially independent (that job, that paycheck, that car). Once all of that is set and done, you can reasonably be able to raise a child without as much worry or stress. By that time, you're more mature and can make educated decisions (because these decisions impact us in a more obvious way).

[Anonymous]

Minimum age is good. Most girls get their period when they are 11-14. Someone like that is way too young to have children even though thry are physically able to. But I do understand whqt you meant, when you get older the risks increase.

[Glue-Sniffer]

It's called conceive not conserve... Omg!