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The other half of the reason I’m making this take is because friends of mine and along with a few G@G members have confided in me that people often come under the conclusion that they are an asshole, even though in truth they are far from it. Now, it might be a surprise to you all, but I’ve occasionally been labeled an asshole – primarily due to that shitty sense of humor I mentioned earlier.
People don’t always get that when I tell them to choke on a dick that I’m not being serious. Who knew?
So while I was on my lunch break, I had a fun discussion with my friends and together we came up with a list of three main qualities that can make good people seem like assholes. It’s all in the delivery, as they say. So while I was on my lunch break, I had a fun discussion with my friends and together we came up with a list of three main qualities that can make otherwise good people seem like assholes.
DISCLAIMER: I am not preaching about changing to appease other people – this list is just for fun and it is nothing more than a bunch of suggestions that you can take under the assumption that you want to take them or even just read for entertainment purposes. I’m not trying to insult anyone or stir the pot, this is just all in fun. With that said please enjoy the take.
Don’t point out people’s physical flaws
There is nothing worse than having someone call attention to something you’re self conscious about. I know in my youth how much it killed me when friends of mine made a conscious effort to constantly point out every knew zit or boil I got on my face, as though I had NO CLUE it was there and DESPERATELY needed to know its presence and location.
No, not embarrassing at all and I had no clue I had an exact replica of Mars on my forehead, thanks …. Asshole...
You might think you’re being totally harmless in pointing out the obvious, especially if you have no real ill intent; maybe you were just caught off guard by that massive zit or your friend’s really crooked teeth and just acted on impulse, not out of malice. But try to look it at from their perspective by putting yourself in their situation: if you had some kind of ugly insecurity that you couldn’t immediately fix would you really want someone to point it out just for the sake of bringing attention to it? I sincerely doubt it. So, before you go pointing out people’s flaws, take a minute to ask yourself: “Is this going to be helpful to the person I’m saying it to?” and “Is there really any benefit to me telling this person their flaw?”
If your answer to these questions is NO, don’t remark on them unless they ask you for your opinion on them. Then at least you can say they were asking for it.
Don’t take passive aggressive jabs at people
I know a lot of very upfront and forward people who aren’t afraid to give you the brutal, unfiltered truth, and let me tell you that they are less likely to be considered an asshole than someone who takes passive aggressive jabs at someone.
You might be asking yourself: What is a passive aggressive jab, RJ? Well, I’m sure most of us have experienced them, believe it or not. They are indicative to a comment made about someone that is indirect and mean in nature, typically referring to a situation or trait that the “jabber” is displeased with in the person they are taking the jab at. Often, they will play it off as a joke or “not a big deal” to avoid direct conflict or having to actually deal with the issue at hand. Subsequently, this makes a good hearted person come across as immature and potentially asshole-ish.
Here’s an example:
Person #1: I really hate it when people stand in my way in the grocery store, it drives me up the wall!
Jabber: Me too, just like how RJ always walks too slow whenever we go anywhere. Its like – hurry up already woman! Haha!
RJ: … Asshole.
The reason why this comes across so negatively is that it essentially says that you aren’t interested in resolving a clearly unaddressed problem; rather, you want to turn it into a way to pettily take personal shots at someone out of unfair resentment – which the resentment IS unfair because you haven’t properly brought up and talked out the issue. So, the next time you’re upset with something someone is doing, don’t take jabs at them, actually sit them down and work the issue out like the adult we both know you really are.
Don’t automatically make the shitty things that people do about race, gender, orientation, etc.
There is nothing worse than being that girl/guy who not only handles a crappy situation poorly, but also blames the person’s race/gender/so on for the fact that it happened. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure we’ve all seen stereotypes for all types of people being fulfilled, but that doesn’t mean that one archetype is indicative to every person that belongs to it.
That means that just because you were hurt by a man/woman doesn’t mean they are all cheaters/gold diggers, and just because your bike was stolen by a black guy doesn’t mean that all black people are going to steal things from you. It’s already bad enough that you had a really lousy experience, but you’re only making it worse by attaching that negativity to an entire group of people that had nothing to do with it outside of the one culprit.
You need to, first and foremost, accept that there are shitty people in the world. They are shitty people that do shitty things and live up to shitty stereotypes, but that doesn’t mean that everyone who belongs to their face, or their gender – what have you is the exact same as them. You need to hold the individual responsible for the crappy things that they did and move on from there. By blaming an entire group of people, you’re just inviting more negativity into your life by creating such a large stigma that will always pop up whenever you leave the house.
So, the overall lesson: hold the person accountable, not the "label" they wear.
Alright everyone, I decided to stop this after three because I could truthfully go on for days and I wanted to keep this to-the-point and sweet. I hope you enjoyed this myTake and got something out of it like a laugh or simply found it to be an entertaining read. I hope you all had a good Monday and you enjoy the rest of your week. Thanks as always for reading.
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