Yes I know this site does not love Indian men or have really good opinions about them. Lets just exclude the category of creeps/pervs and keep the scope to gentleman from India who are educated and understanding and modern yet down to earth. No I am not biased just because I am an Indian too or because I have special preference for Indian men given they are my countrymen. I am really open for guys of any ethnicity/country and this post is just for sharing some naked observtions.
If you want to bash the pervs and creeps from India, this is not the right place since I already excluded them from having any specific highlight here. Please go elsewhere to bash the creeps and pervs. Thank you very much ^^
Lemme add, I am talking about the Indian men who grew up in India and then immigrated to west.
1. That obligation!!
You do not need to sleep with them to prove that you love them or are attracted to them. (If you don't want to! Obviously)
No you don't. Most or all of them will always understand if you are not ready yet even after the 8th date. Not so shallow eh. They are cute and will find something other than your body to love. Your habits, your hair, your passion, your way of laughing, your way of working, etc. Sky is the limit. I get you, I get you. BUT SEX MATTERS. However its not an obligation.
2. Educated
Most of the young guys in India are educated and have good career opportunities in intellectual fields of tech (I know you are thinking about tech support here ;) but if people did things the right way we might have not needed tech support lol ), medical, engineering, robotics, media, management, law, IT, uncountable careers. You won't be cleaning your pockets to pay for him and he won't be a lazy ass on you. Not bashing the ones who want to have other kinds of jobs.
3. Family/Relationship oritented
Oohh yea. For those ladies who want to get into relationship and do not want unstable and insecure life and jumping from one unmeaningful bond to another, Indian men are perfect since they are more on the side of commitment. They understand the value of their flesh and blood and are always up sacrificing for their family and loved ones. And no they don't wait until they are 30 or above to settle down. They are expected to settle down and not spend their time with a series of women, one after the another. Commitment matters to them the same way it matters to many women (Or may matter to several women). What else? They fall head over heels for you. I agree, I agree... some of you like it and some don't. Its just for your information. No one's actually getting you married to them. haha.
4. Still modern
Oh yes you can work and follow your dreams and passions along with him. They have left the old thinking back in 1950's now. Majority of Urban Indian men are past the thinking of "Women are only home makers" and "Men are only bread-winners". More and more Indian men are becoming travel savvy, supporting their lady for her passion and dance it out in clubs with them. Even though moderness have creeped into them, they are still less prone to cheat on you since they'll be bashed by parents for taking such a step and for the simple reason of keeping to morals and karma. Na na no cheating because what goes around comes around, what goes up, must come down.
5. They are not leaving you if you get fat or sad or insecure about yourself.
Most of them believe in "repairing the broken rather than throwing away the broken". So don't panick if you are facing the "down phase" of your life. They will be there to console and offer a strong shoulder to lift you up again. That comes from the fact that we are still not as affected by materialistic blindness as we are affected by the sadness of our partner. We know "what matters in the end."
Yes I can not speak about all the Indian men in the world. Thats just generalization but don't you all have generalization when you call them "Pervs" or "Creeps". May be you have other contradictory observations. Please, feel free to write them down in a civilized way.
Note: I won't call these points as heavy generalizations but rather my own observations with western and eastern men in past years. These observations are also inspired by the European women who are married to Indian men or are in relationship to them where I live. I cannot write about their personal stories here though. NO I AM NOT BASHING WESTERN MEN HERE. I totally understand the cultural differences and no objections to it. The points I mentioned are purely for the women who are looking out for these points.
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