50 Misandrist Misconceptions & Myths

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Continuing on my latest trend of articles, I've decided to write for this site, regarding the growing rise of misandry, I wish to bring up what I call the list of fifty big stereotypes men get hit with on a regular basis. Ones that in the end only hurt us all. Some of these are rephrased but in this case i only did that to make sure I covered as many angles as possible. On that note here we go.

And the list is as follows...

01 - All decent guys are either married or gay
02 - All guys are the same
03 - All guys have a one track mind
04 - All guys ever think about is sex
05 - All guys can't be trusted with another girl
06 - All guys are just going to cheat on you
07 - All guys will do is just lie to you
08 - All guys are just "players"
09 - All guys just treat each girl as another conquest
10 - All guys are scared of commitment
11 - All guys are just sick men with sick minds
12 - All guys are manipulative dirtbags
13 - Guys don't have any pressure to look good
14 - Guys don't have any reason to feel self conscious
15 - Guys don't have any pressure from the media to look a certain way
16 - Guys don't care about a girl's feelings
17 - Guys don't care about you or any girl
18 - Guys are incapable of caring about anyone by themselves
19 - Guys are incapable of commitment
20 - Guys are just trying to have sex with you
21 - Guys only think entirely with their dicks
22 - Guys only want the hottest girl
23 - Guys only care about a girl's looks
24 - Guys only look at women as things or objects to have
25 - Guys only look at their girlfriends as property
26 - Guys only get married if they're forced into it
27 - Guys only want a girl with the biggest tits and only if they're perfect
28 - Guys only want a girl who is skinny, and if not we'll dump or ignore you
29 - Guys think you're desperate or coming on to strong if a girl makes the first move
30 - Guys like the chase of the hard to get girl
31 - Guys actually like the mind games a girl plays with him.
32 - If a guy is with you he's just settling for less
33 - If a guy is with you he's only there until something better comes along
34 - If a guy says he loves you, he's just lying for sex
35 - If a guy wants to have sex with you, he doesn't really love you
36 - If a guy is interested, it's only so he can use you
37 - If a guy does anything for a girl it MUST be because he wants sex
38 - If a guy is talking to another girl (not you) he's probably cheating
39 - If a guy didn't call back within 2 days it's because he doesn't like you
40 - If a guy you're dating doesn't call you, he's lost interest and is cheating
41 - If a guy ever tells an ex about a new girlfriend he's just bragging
42 - If a guy hears you might be pregnant he's guaranteed to run
43 - If a guy isn't put through a battery of mind games and tests he'll lose interest
44 - If a guy doesn't get sex from you he'll just go out to find it from somebody else
45 - After sex, the guy is just going to flee the apartment/house
46 - After sex, the guy is just going to look at you in disgust
47 - After sex, the guy is just going to think you're a slut
48 - After sex, the guy is just going to call you a slut
49 - After sex, the guy is going to dump you
50 - After sex, the guy is just going to tell all his friends

Now as crazy as some of these sound. Since I've been coming to GirlsAskGuys I've been running into more and more of these fucking crazy notions. Some of them argue with me on these stupid fucking myths 'til we're both blue in the face being convinced that some or most of these are fact. Honestly though I just wish would just calm down. You make us sound like monsters and frankly, for a lot of us nice guys, it makes it very hard to work up the courage to even talk to you. If any of you girls wonder what we are worried about, I can tell you that sometimes we worry about how many things in the aforementioned list has been drilled into your heads by now. We might worry you might take some of these things to be pure truth, and some of you women would be surprised at how many other women really believe this horse shit.

I'm sure a few of you guys have seen or heard these things said before. I'm betting you have had to deal with this before, and I'm betting it's screwed you or some girl you know out of a good thing because she's too hurt, heartbroken, angry, upset, and possibly drunk. If that's not the case, I'm betting part of the problem is some girl knew a girl who was like this and the sense of sisterhood kicked in and a few of you went "Rah rah!" passing this kind of hate downward to other girls you knew. Thing is I think we both know that if some guy said the same kinda crap about women there'd be an uproar of anger and outrage from any double X within earshot.

The truth of the matter here is that this kind of thinking is sexist. Granted not some men might fit a couple of the fifty things said here but not all of them, and granted some women might not all believe this but there is a shocking amount that stick to it like it's their bible. Ultimately this kind of thinking is sexist, and I'm of the opinion that some women need to stop, wake up and realize that just because a couple bad relationships ruined your experience, doesn't mean that all men are pigs.

Again I sit here wondering if all this typing was really just a waste, or if some reader might see this and really think this over. All I really ask is that you try to think about it and see if we can make some sort of understanding in future. Maybe we'll see a little less hate. Sigh... Somehow I doubt it. Perhaps the battle of the sexes will continue to rage on, but at least I am making a half-assed, albeit preachy, attempt towards peace. In the mean time I end as always by wishing you all good luck out there.

Toban Frost

[Epiphanies]

Good article. Although you could probably successfully come up with 50 Mysoginist myths too. Numero uno: All women want rich men. Numero dos: The only reason she isn't sleeping with you is because she doesn't want to look like a slut. Numero tres... I'm going to quit while I'm ahead.

I just hate the division here. It's always girls vs guys and no one recognizes that we are our own individuals with our own opinions and we make our own decisions. We don't act certain ways just because we are women/men

[AndyKoenigs]

51: When a guy is "desperate," he will call you in the middle of the night, will look through your window while your sleeping, thinks of you as a sex object, will do nice things to you just to get into your pants, sees all women as interchangeable goals and doesn't love you for who you are.

[poofs517]

I'm sinking all of this in..i don't know how a guys mind works, I don't know if all he wants is a barbie doll..im in a sticky situation where I've liked/ had a crush guy for 3 years we're about to graduate and I've never told him why? fear of rejection, what if I'm not good enough? what if I'm coming on too strong? what if he thinks I'm desperate? see girls don't know this THANK YOU this really helps alot. Girls just think guys are exactly all 50 of what you just wrote and your 100 right not all are

[toulouse]

I believe ALLLLLLL of what yo said.. but since I think deep dow, that I is all absurd, I have a lot of arguments with myself lol

When I get sick of that, I bring it and this site & it is realllllly disappointing when people answer in the affirmative to all the crap you so efficiently restated up there I your article.

lol I rally want to disabuse myself of these insulting stereotypes, so I look to have rational discussion & I get an overwhelming agreement instead ... Irritating, & reduculous :)

[Mande1985]

I never once have ever thought that about a guy... so that's sad if girls go around actually thinking all this to be true about guys. Just as guys can be asshole and d***s... so can girls... so before we point the finger at a guy because the last dude f***ed us over... we need to look around and realize we are all just a like... guys and girls.

[toulouse]

Could say the same thing for guys. they have very similar stereotypes about girls- girls have very similar stereotypes about girls. thing is lots of guys do act that that. its better speaking for yourself or doing an actual study, because as many guy is do not have all of those , just as many have at least a few. I think the biggest challenge to this site, is the unwillingness to give up the term guys* or girls* replaced with I* or he or she. No one can speak for everyone. So don't. That's all.

[200rabbits]

*sigh* It's sad how right you are frost (i'll second the all hail). Hurray for and congrats to all you girls who take this in or didn't need to!

Also, why does NO ONE EVER consider that he might be out of credit, or have lost his cell phone charger (like me right now)?

[ap1100]

Some of these are true but 50 seems like a bit much. It is true that women tend to think that because THEY made bad choices that many men are like this. We all need to accept responsibility for our bad choices, and not blame others, whether we're men or women.

[FrancescaMilan]

Hmm True...Im gonna stick it on my wall... We are people.. men or women... we all want to be happy one way or another! I have had some bad experiences in the past but now I am cleaning myself out of it... and I believe what you wrote... that is why I am giving myself a new beginning!

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Too bad for you, your unbelievably sexist rebuttal got removed. ( The one located in this link - link ) Kindly take that as a hint. You're sexist. Horribly sexist.

[nermalinda]

Thank you so much for writing this article, because we all need to realize there are a lot of great guys out there. When men keep getting put down with generalizations like this, all it honestly ends up doing is making women really unhappy as well as men. I love it when guys speak up about this kind of thing because they are basically saying, "hey, there are tons of good guys out there and women don't need to lose hope and get all pessimistic and sexist". So thanks.

[Killfest400]

Excellent article. I've seen plenty of women who approach dating as "Prove to me that you aren't these things." I'd rather date a girl to prove to her what I am rather than trying to convince her of what I'm not. Just like women have bad experiences with guys, guys have bad experiences with women. Being stuck with these labels before I even know a girl makes doing anything with her not worth doing.

@Epiphanies: you should write that article.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Oh honey, I could respond by going into the 50 Misogynist misconceptions and myths, but I'm pretty sure people would just assume that I'd believe them all, and say all kinds of nasty things about me without reading the whole article. Sure men can occasionally fit these things, but we're not all uncaring bastards lotharios, just like not all women are cold-hearted bitches and whores.

[haleyb]

Interesting article. And it's very, very true. The only thing I can say is that girls don't just learn these from hearing about it, they also experience it. So while I KNOW that these are false stereotypes, I can't forget the many guys I've met who encompass them, making me more wary. Even the guys who seem sweet end up being on this list. I totally agree with you, but I'm wondering why it's so hard to see tangible proof of this.

[BrettH]

Very much true. I know many times I have heard the same words all men are pigs and really it gets annoying. not all men are pigs they are just the ones you end up dating. how about instead of going for the douche bag that is a walking jack ass. find a guy whos got a sweet side and learn to live with that if you don't want the guy who fights back and p*sses you off. girls and guys both need to realise what they want and stop guessing. anymore no ones sure and that's why nothing lasts

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Sure big t ts can be great but that's not the only thing we want, and it's not like small t ts are a dealbreaker. Symmetry is best. if a girl has huge t ts and a tiny ass It usually just looks weird. Guys don't wanna question the logic of how she stands without falling over. So yeah. T ts are great but they're not a necessity. No girl needs to feel self conscious just because of her cup size. Trust me on this. Only a moron say t ts or GTFO. You hear me?

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

One you may have never noticed, is for the guys like me, the celebates...

Since he did not have sex with me, he thinks I am unattractive/don't like me...

I get that one a lot from women... I don't know, I am tired of sex being thrown around as recreation. I prefer to be married first... Celebate for over 7 years... No masturbation, just discipline.

Moreover, I agree with your list..

[shadowscapes]

basically, these 50 things boil down into one. men want to have sex with lots of different women and avoid commitment. like all generalizations, they are on the whole untrue, but there are enough cases of them as to why the generalization exists in the first place. all in all though, if a woman generally believes that most, all or almost all guys are like this, its something they are doing wrong because I know plenty of people in happy committed relationships.

[FirstLastOnly]

I know all of this intuitively, but guys are trained to project this kind of thing most of the time. Like I've heard guys that I KNOW are awesome, caring people talking about girls like they're meat when they're with other guys. And I've met known players who are the best listeners in the world. It's hard to tell.

[bubbles2807]

I like your last name.(:

But I find some of this hard to believe,

Like honestly, don't guys go for the girls with huge t*ts?

Don't deny...

And the 'players'... They're known for playing with girls because they know they look good, and think they can get any girl with it...

All guys should be confident, but not so much concided.

And for those 'players' out there, some day will come a girl that trips you up &makes you nervous...

[EJtheACEguy]

i will deny. i dont give a damn about breasts and never will. not even all guys who aren't ace. dont worry. also its hard to realize, but yes, these are harmful stereotypes that, more times than not, are false

[Subotai]

I agree with these. I think sexism is real and women have suffered from it. But I think this leads some women to lump all men together as the bad guys or that it is OK to be mean to men because of that

[sunwolf94]

It sucks that some assholes have ruined the respect of some women for men. I understand that many guys are like this, and many are not. you just have to be careful and not desperate, and give people a chance.