Why Does Society Only Objectify Women?

[angelfromsky]

I see people making non-sensible comments and judgement about other people, without any studies or research. Indian society is a classic example of this.

Arranged marriages are very common in India, even today. It's sad that mothers of young men, being women themselves, objectify the women prospects.

1. They think that their son is handsome - where in the reality he's a big perv. And they want a pretty, intelligent woman as their daughter in law, who would manage their grandchildren and their son, in direct words serve them and obey all commands.

2. Indian society is biased towards men: they don't teach their sons to behave with women but they would expect their daughters to have all good qualities, to wear appropriate clothes, to be home before sunset.

I'll give you some of my experience:

I've been in this arranged marriage process for about 3 years or so. Some of the mostly encountered examples -

1. One woman - mother of the guy - rejected me based on the fact that I'm the only child. She said I will not be able to share things things with others - the exact words - to my mom over the phone. I mean who is she!!! How dare she say that to my mother!!

A. Does she know how difficult it is to raise an only girl child in India??

B. She hasn't even talked to me yet. She doesn't know how many members are there in my family. She doesn't know what are my values and how I am with my family, my relatives and my friends.

2. The other day this woman replied over the email - I'm not fair (my skin complexion).

A. If you look at the guy, he's not handsome at all. Sorry to objectify this guy here - but she started it. He looks like a typical perv.

What king of expectations are these! My point is, being a smart, intelligent woman, it's difficult for me to find a smart, intelligent groom who can respect a woman. Because let's just face it, the ugly truth, smart, intelligent guys don't like smart, intelligent women.

3. Men want smart, intelligent, beautiful (must be quality) to date or to marry.

A. Are they smart, intelligent and handsome at the same time themselves to have this expectation?

B. Smart men don't like smart, intelligent women, they would be likely with baby dolls who would walk with them as a model. Get a lit of all the CEOs, CFOs, all famous intellectuals. You would find their spouses or girlfriends that are not that of competitive as they are.

We should be proud of being in the 21st century!!

I have written this article based on Indian culture because I'm from India but you would find similar cases in other cultures as well.

[Anonymous]

So, you want to get an arranged marriage to a smart, intelligent and handsome CEO, CFO or famous intellectual, you won't settle for anyone less, and you're bitter that they keep passing over you for better looking 'baby dolls'. And everyone else 'looks like a total perv' in your eyes, because you feel that you're too good for them- you feel that you're entitled to get the singular best man around, because only the best would be good enough for you. And even if you did, you'd seek to compete with your spouse for dominance and power, trying to go on a power trip to be the best so that you can make him bow down to you. Why on earth would anyone touch you with a bargepole?

[genuinlysensitive]

Am I the only one who noticed that the profiles says she is from the US and not India?

[angelfromsky]

@genuinlysensitive I stay in US, I'm Indian!!! WTF!!

[Opinion Owner]

And I'm born and bred in the UK, and I'm Indian- I've been pressured by my family to get an arranged marriage for several years now. And the main reason why I haven't, why I've refused to do so, is because the Indian girls, who they put forward as candidates to get arranged marriages to, all have mindsets exactly like you. You only want men for their wealth and status; you objectify us and castigate us for being human, for wanting things like sex, affection and companionship, which should be central components of any marriage. You're a self-centered, egotistical, entitled gold-digger who cares only about yourself, who demands everything as her god-given right in spite of having less than nothing to offer in return. And I would rather die single and alone than marry a woman like you.

[Anonymous]

Lol, more feminist bullshit! You are not even from India, but from the US! Society does the same "objectification" to men and women, but feminism has made it so women get upset when it happens to them. For instance, female strip clubs, MISOGYNY OBJECTIFICATION. Chip and Dales? AWESOME! As for your rant, I mean take:

1. That sucks. Hey if a guy lets his mom dictate who he wants to be with you should count your blessing you didn't end up marrying into that.

2. "smart, intelligent guys don't like smart, intelligent women." NOTHING could be further from the truth. However, being, loud, obnoxious, bitter, materialistic, woman who will only settle for a CEO, CFO, etc., yea guys don't like that.

3. Since when is competition a good thing? Relationships are about teamwork. Even modern corporations stress team building over competition.

[angelfromsky]

WTF!!! I'm from India. I don't need to prove myself to you. Fuck yourself.

[angelfromsky]

I guess men just own thei shit. have some balls!

[Djaaaaaay]

What's your problem?

[Djaaaaaay]

Take owner

[Opinion Owner]

Lol she sounds like a very hateful person. Maybe that is the real reason why she was rejected...

[smølf]

What society, every country and culture is different, and hardly anywhere in western world is ONLY women objectified?

[genuinlysensitive]

She should know her profile says she is from the US.

[angelfromsky]

@genuinlysensitive Jokes on you!! Have some brains!

[Tombstone1000100]

Angel from sky Lol😂😂😂 No wonder you are having a hard time finding anyone on land.

[sp33d]

Mgtow are bitter toward women, Feminazis bitter toward men. Congratulations, what do you think you achieved?

[Anonymous]

I'm indian (not from India) and I don't support arrange marriage. I do think women should be treated with a lot more respect and dignity.

[Anonymous]

Am so sorry to hear that!
I feel it , being an Indian guy and in the arranged marriage market I know now a days it's not easy for guy either :(