Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

We all know that saying, "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade." Well life has been giving me a lot of lemons lately. Scratch that, life has been straight-up pitching fastball lemons straight at my head! Let me give you a quick backstory.

In 2011, I was diagnosed with an aggressive cases of rheumatoid arthritis. One of the first things my rheumatologist said to me was that he'd never seen a case so severe on a patient so young before. I was 23 at the time. I've written a more detailed Take about my RA here if you'd like to read about it.

Life With RA

I had to chang insurances in 2014, which stopped my treatment. The process of finding a new rheumatologist took a year. In that year, all the progress I made went out the window and the aggressiveness came back tenfold.

Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

After switching insurances twice, I finally found one rheumatologist in my area that my insurance accepted. I made an appointment and got set up at a new place. All was better. Finally. It was a while year later, but thing were better.

Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

February 2015. I awakened to news that one of my sisters had passed away. It was sudden and something that none of us had been expecting. It was tough. Especially watching my nieces and nephew react. Talk about heartbreaking. While dealing with that, I found myself in the middle of a financial crisis. When I first started treatment, my PCP and rheumatologist both unanimously suggested that I apply for disability. So I did. And I was approved. In 2015 Social Security sent me to one of their doctors and then stopped my disability payments. I appealed the decision. I was without an income for the duration of the appeals process, which was 9 months. To say that I was stressed out would've been a serious understatement. It's very easy to let stress take over, and very unhealthy as well. I wrote a Take on some of the things that I do to help ease some stress.

Relieving Stress

Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

I won the appeal. Someone dropped the ball big time. They never consulted with either of my doctors. They didn't have up-to-date tests or blood work. They couldn't even understand any of the handwriting from the doctor they sent me to! So my case was reinstated in February of 2016. That same month, I got my heart completely broken. And from there I spiraled. You can read about it here.


If you've noticed by now, every time something good happened, something bad followed up. That's usually the way life works. It's not all rainbows and sunshine all the time. There are cloudy days and storms.

For instance, I finally started to get over having my heart broken. I was in a better place. I was happy. In July, I went to the hospital for a migraine that I'd had for a week straight, and ended up being kept for a week and diagnosed with intracranial hypertension (also known as pseudotumor cerebri). That's basically increased pressure in my brain for no known reason.

I could bitch and moan. I could cry (I did in the hospital, not gonna lie) and complain all day. Or I could roll with the punches. I tell myself that it could always be worse. We all get dealt a hand in life. How we play that hand is up to us. One of my earlier Takes was on that subject.

Playing The Hand You Were Dealt

Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad

That about sums it up folks. In order to appreciate the good times, we have to deal with the bad times. Take them on the chin, learn from them, and remember: you can't have a rainbow without the rain.


Life Lessons: Taking The Good With The Bad
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  • Saoirse_Nua
    Nice take - My thoughts are with you - Life is peculiar, I recently had a really tough couple of years but it was the making of me and it was exactly what you saying here in these take don't let the bad grind you down, find some good no matter how small and hang on to it for dear life.
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  • capturemyheartnow
    A very emotional story.-----We always think that our life is not going well. Small problems in life make us feel unhappy. When unexpected things make us sad , we tend to think of giving up cursing for our bad luck. But if you look at your life and compare it to the people who have gone through hell and come out winners , you really need to feel inspired and keep your feelings upbeat. Life can be either good or bad. But thank God that you are alive and living your life as best as you can.
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  • ThisDudeHere
    If I could give you a hug right now, I would give you a hug right now.
  • BellePepper
    Char you are so strong. You and your life are a constant inspiration <3
  • Jane1
    Incredibly emotional mytake, sad but still optimistic.
    • Gotta stay optimistic, it's so necessary if we're going to make it through our tough times! Thank you for reading 😊

    • Jane1

      You are right, and you're very welcome :)

  • Adigelunar
    7Good post