Words Can Be A Dangerous "Weapon". Are You Careful About How You Use Them? (Page 2)

[Cage4]

Good take. I am more of a quiet type of person and I definitely choose my words carefully when I do speak : )

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you ❣️ More people need to as well.

[Valricthehalfling7]

I watch my tongue because I don’t know if the persons on edge or not and I treat people how I want to be treated

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That is good 🙂

[Mad_man_x]

It only hurts if it's from someone you love and respect like your family , friends , crush and role models

Some random low life says shit about me won't affect me

Unless it's false accusations

[MrTeach]

And false accusations are a far more dangerous when directed towards a man than a women, generally speaking

[MannySimms]

I've always been considerate and careful. BUT! Nowadays ANYTHING one says can be deemed offensive. Nice work humanity!

[BCA6010]

I'm pretty direct when I say stuff, so if it's meaning gets bamboozled into Oblivion, that's someone else's problem.

You want to know what words cause the most harm to society? False compliments.

[RockHard73]

Words have the ability to cause and leave a deeper scar than physical violence ever will

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree. Thank you ❣️ glad to see some people get it. Sadly, not enough.

[RockHard73]

It does actually have a lot to do with whether or not an individual understands what is being said to them... A lot of people become abusive or violent due to frustration with one's ability of understanding...

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I guess. But I get frustrated when people don't get our act like they don't when what I say is not what they want or want to hear, but I still try to keep it somewhat respectful
May be cussing em out in my mind, but not with words typed or spoken

[MackToday]

I'm very careful with words as most of the damage will be to me.

[Izumiblu]

While I agree we should be thoughtful about what we say the end , the ultimate goal should not be to avoid hurt. And by the way sometimes a bit of hurt is a good thing.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I have decided a long time ago that I am not responsible for how my behavior effects you.

So no. If my words wound you, it is under no uncertain terms YOUR OWN FAULT for being in a position where I end up saying something to you.

[JimmyQ]

I don't even read you're stuff out of fear you are making people crazy. Is that your goal? I mean, I understand if that is who you are. So what is the end game? A novel? A movie? Where are you going with all this weird shit? Talk to me crazy woman.

[crazy8000]

Depends on your mindframe, how you see on thing's if it does or not

[roland77]

I guess people interpret to much. It makes life so very hard.

[Rangers]

If people get offended by what I say, especially in terms of politics, it's because they want to be offended by what I say, that's not my issue, it's theirs.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Getting a point across is one thing. If you're insulting people for their views would be quite another. Especially if you want to be taken seriously.

[Rangers]

When I say that there are two genders, in those exact words, people whine and complain because they chose to and want to because they know I'm right, but they can't counter me, so they try to paint me as a bad guy instead.

[gotc147]

Well there it is, the stupidest thing I'll read all day.

If you're so weak that mere words are enough to hurt then you deserve the suffering you bring upon yourself because of it.

[Jjpayne]

This was perfect!!! Thank you for posting it!!! I loved the examples of positive and negative that you used

[Gedaria]

I try to engage brain before opening mouth. Same with writing...

[anton_dee]

Very careful. Even with loved ones loose words can lead to problems one day..

[soleil2666]

Nope. Ladies first. You are, after all, not all that naive to not know it. You play dumb, I play dumb.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't play dumb. Not am I dumb. Nor do I need to insult, or purposely hurt others to get my point across it make myself feel better. And I'm smart enough to realize, negatively hurts my representation of who I am more than the person you're trying to hurt.

[soleil2666]

I'm not trying to hurt. I am trying to communicate hurt across the BS that has been created. If you are not in pain, you get no attention - the pretense men are fine when in pain is omnipresent.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Men and women are in pain. People, period. And a lot of it is unnecessary, and based on gender assumption, false labels, miscommunication.
Bashing, hating on people for the wrong or no reason solves nothing.

[soleil2666]

I agree. My most recent thought on it is that since friendship is not allowed (too communist) - we are all to declare being gay just to be able to communicate between the genders. Because, if you are a traditional male, you must be an abuser, and if you are a traditional female you must be a money-obsessed gold-digger.
But if you are not gay - well, we are busy promoting gayness - so you've got to stay alone, or find some vice/label of dishonesty to attach to yourself - else you are a threat to the world order.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Only if you let society or other people dictate who you are or how you let that affect how you live or treat people. I don't and won't do that. I will always see a person for the way they personally represent themselves to me. And society and those that want to gender hate can all go "F" themselves. Noone controls my mindset but me.

[soleil2666]

It isn't so much me (or you) - some of us do brave it out.
It's those we get attached to and their fears and concerns and ways of dealing with the threat that poses - to their ego or to their safety.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That I wouldn't know. The people I associate with don't have that mindset either. Only one ever did, and him I don't associate with anymore for just that reason. And most are contradictory. He'd be one who would and has bashed females on social media calling women gold diggers and women expect everything from men, as she was the one who tried to live with me, because I own my own home, and he couldn't keep a job much less a relationship or anything else. Whereas I stayed with the same man for 20 years and faithfully and him the same, till he died 6 years ago. See the point. Two men, totally different. And women aren't the only ones who try to use men. Some men do it, some women do it. People are users or not. That is not a gender issue. It's a behavioral issue with that individual.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*As he not she

[soleil2666]

The thing with that is 'is her unavailability fabricated or is she in trouble'. Far too many women expect that by marketing unavailability they will get a man to try harder. Else, they are disappointed. If he does try harder, he is a target for (gold-digger) milking - if he doesn't - he is a wimp.

[soleil2666]

They market either unavailability - or sex and the city. There seems to be no middle ground/anything sane happening (as a template - as exceptions, of course there will be)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

People aren't a template they're people. You treat people as a template and see how that works for you. I'll keep seeing people as individual men and women. To each their own 🤷🏼‍♀️

[soleil2666]

There definitely are template behaviours out there. It's called patterns in psychology. It isn't because I treat them that they are that way (else psychologist wouldn't write books about it - no external observer is the cause).

[soleil2666]

It's a self-view and expectations-of-outcome thing, learned from parents or other role models for the most part.
My question is why do people keep engaging in those. But the answer is pretty simple too, doesn't matter.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's what I'm trying to say. With nice words 🙃🙂

[soleil2666]

Erghm, it is possible to get to the bottom of those things and nail them/change them, generally to the benefit of the patternised person, but it does require a whole heap of effort, so comes with a question of whether it's worth it.

[anabella-fione]

Oh sometimes I use them to hurt someone back if they already hurt me

[roland77]

And hurting someone back doesn't do any better. I'm not religious but I don't hurt people back, that is revenge and is a low motive for violence.

[anabella-fione]

It makes you feel better and helps you gain power back

[roland77]

If you gain power from verbally hurting an other human, you seem to be sadistic then.

[Furuok]

Ever think there's an edit button? Like someone could alter everything on Internet? Ruin relationships, cause chaos, uproar nations? Yet these aren't sticks or stones. Where's the laughter, why so serious?

[sixxx]

Sure. Words do become flesh according to bible. What you said might come true and happen in ur realitu.