Excuse me slut shamers!

[hopefulecynic]

Ezcuse me! First of all let me say, hook-up culture is a waste of time BECAUSE people lie way to much about what they want.

BUT...

This bs of shaming women for having sexual needs has to end.

There is nothing wrong with finding someone to meet your physical needs for a period of time. Which is harder than you would think, especially if you're honest, undoubtedly the other person isn't.

I don't bounce from guy to guy, because I like getting comfortable and it's a waste of time, a lot of guys DO NOT know what they're doing. I want one who does and I want to stay there for a min.

But what really erks me, is dudes will lie to you straight up to get what they want, when the lie was never necessary in the first place, then shame you afterwards.

That's some patriarchal bull shit!

Men have been trying to oppress women since the beginning of time and slut shaming is just another way they do it! What I do with my body is not your business.

If I'm out here lying to men about what I want and manipulating them to get them to buy me shit and have some fucked up game because I'm that insecure and unhappy that's sad and wrong and you would brand me a whore, but a dude does it and everyone shames the women for being tricked and " you should have known guys suck " then dismiss the man's behaviors.

Wtf, why is it always the womens fault here?

Anyone seeing the trend. You're tricked, slut, you trick them, whore.

Listen up fuck boys. I'm a liberated women who knows what she needs. Im honest 100 and I don't play games about it. But if you shame a women for that mentality. Or for what you've done to her by head trapping her. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM.

Men who are threatened by women will shame them for anything they deem necessary. (Especially being sex positive!)

But champion themselves and other weak men for shaming them as well.

And don't even get me started on other women shaming eachother! Like, way to eat your own. That's even worse! We oppress eachother!! And the cycle will never end, if we can't even stick together

I'm not dissing on ALL men.

There are some good ones, I've only met a handful though.

But seriously, enough's enough.

Women are amazing and beautiful and deserve pleasure just as much as men do. Being shamed because I'm a women doing the same thing a man does, is outdated!!!!

Get with the times.

[Celtero]

You sound like a dumb, dirty, feminist, bitch.

I'd go tell you to get fucked, but it sounds like you already did... a lot.

Men trying to oppress women since the beginning of time? pfft. You're a piece of trash, nobody wants to be burdened by you. Men are just biologically tricked by their brains into buying gifts and being nice to you so they can dump their loads in your gross greasy holes.

The sad part is you don't even consider that maybe these men who pulled the ol' cum n' run on you wanted a relationship initially... and then they found out what an unpleasant person you are, and not even the sex was worth staying.

Then you're stupid enough to suggest that the reason people see promiscuity as being distasteful is because they want to "shame women for having sexual needs." I mean... Really? Being promiscuous is gross and trashy. These people have venereal diseases, significantly lower rates of successful marriages, etc. The issue arises when sluts think they're deserving of a real, wholesome relationship. No, men who waited and are selective want the leftovers, the village bicycle, whatever you want to call it. We want to feel valuable sexually, men have feelings too, yeah? It isn't our fault you make poor life choices.

[nathanp97]

Just going to point out that women shame women more than men do. You can look up studies that show that most online harassment forms from women directed at other women.

Besides men do get blamed and called names, you just said and did it in your opinion.

[scarlett774]

The patriarchy needs to gooo. And I agree we shouldn’t slut woman and that goes for men and woman who slut shame. There’s always a double standard When it comes to sex with men and woman

[hopefulecynic]

100%
It's both ways.
Slut shaming has to go

[Jack9949]

Who cares? Just don’t be a slut. Is it really that difficult? I just masturbate in my room for pleasure and it works out fine.

[scarlett774]

“Don’t be a slut” the word slut shouldn’t even exist

[Jack9949]

Why not? Isn’t it important to distinguish members of a society based on the personal decisions they make?

[scarlett774]

Just because a woman enjoys sex doesn’t make her a slut

[Jack9949]

It does if she has multiple sex partners. You should only need one.

[scarlett774]

Your clearly delusional

[Jack9949]

Can you explain?

[scarlett774]

A woman can have sex and have as many partners as she wants, that doesn’t make her a bad person and it Doesn’t make her a slut, I’m sick of the double standard, a man can have 200 partners and wounding get shamed, yet when he woman has 5 she's suddenly a slut

[Jack9949]

Ye. I don’t stand with MGTOW hypocrisy either. Most men aren’t like that tho.

[Jack9949]

We just bounce between women. We don’t revisit ones we’ve already fucked.

[Anonymous]

Most men don’t deserve your time, much less your sex.

[hopefulecynic]

Truth. Why you say that anon?

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t like getting inboxed with hate mail about these things. But if you agree with me then why are you defending your freedom to give away your vagina to worthless bums? I’m all for women having sexual freedom but the problem is that most men just don’t fucking deserve it.

[sensible27]

Just don't allow inbox from people you don't follow... it's not that complucated...

[hellionthesagereborn]

For the love of god enough. No one is shaming women for liking sex. Thats fucking moronic. No one says to women that they better not like sex or else their a whore, what they are saying is its perfectly fine to like sex but its not something to be taken lightly.

What they are saying is if you don't treat yourself special then don't expect a man to do so. What they are saying is if you are willing to give up sex for free to a one night stand or a friends with benefits, then don't then demand that a man you supposedly love has to treat you special, take you out on dates, and buy your affections because all your saying to him is that he is less important then the men who got to have you for free.

What they are saying is that just because you have the impulse for it doesn't mean you should do it whenever you want however you want with whom ever you want.

Your argument is like arguing that people shouldn't eat food because they tell morbidly obese people that eating all that junk food is unhealthy. Those are not the same thing, that is an argument of false equivalence. Its a stupid argument so why make it?

You can do what ever the hell you want with your body but just as you can slut it up if you want (and no one has the right to stop you because it is your life to live not theirs), so to do they have the right to think that is gross and they don't want to have a relationship with some one who behaves that way.

You don't get to act however you want without consequences (as much as you would like it to be the case).

As for the claim that this is what men do, no, its not. What studies have found is that while the average partner count for men and women is the same, if you look at the mean numbers, women actually have more partners then men its just that a few men have significantly more partners which brings the male average up. So in reality women are doing what women are doing and men are not.

Enough with the bullshit, admit you have no self restraint and move on, no one cares just don't lie to some poor sap who has the intentions of treating you better then your treating yourself (he deserves better (and the same goes for women).

[Anonymous]

1. Why are you letting a bunch of nobodies you have probably never met before dictate how you conduct yourself?

2. The majority of slut shaming is done by other women, they just won’t do it to your face. This is why I am calling the idea that any sort of patriarchy being behind this is bogus.

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3. Wouldn’t you be suspicious if some dude said that he slept with 20 other women? Worrying that you would just be another statistic to him or that there is something wrong with him that he went through so many previous partners and had them all fail? Would you not be a hypocrite if you made that your standard? Not saying slut shaming is ok, I’m all for the presumption of innocence in any case but do you see why some people might be put off by it?

4. Believe it or not, dudes give each other shit for this too (“pals before gals/bro’s before hoes”).

[Beth12345]

Women slut shame other women because they are all holding back their sluttliness for the greater good.

[Beth12345]

Like we say in mexico, all women are sluts, but some women choose to be sluts only for their husband. " todas son putas, pero algunas solo son putas para el marido". 😉

[Opinion Owner]

I never thought of it that way. I thought it was more of an evolutionary psychological thing. A woman who willingly gives sex out like parade floats tossing candy is an indirect threat to humanity’s survival because all of the other women would have to lower their standards to compete thus putting their offspring more at risk of undesirable genes. I have no scientific backing for that so that could be complete bogus.

[Beth12345]

Single women who are sleep around have the same sex drive as married women. But your theory holds a lot of truth, depending if you really believe they are good competition for women seeking serious relationships. Sluts attach fuck boys, and fuck boys do not have desirable genes.

[destrosio]

The vast majority of slut shamers are female. Females tend to give slanderous appellations to other females. They often do this, to give themselves importance and / or to denigrate potentially rival females.
The majority of females who blame males for such behavior are losers, who have failed to accomplish anything in their lives. Probably the maximum relationship she had with a dildo or with a pet that for her is the only one who understands her (in reality even a wall understands her because she doesn't listen to her).
Since she does not want to admit that she is minus-shit, she invents male conspiracies called patriarchy theory. Theory that only makes sense in the mind of a paranoid who does not want to accept reality.
Now I will reveal a huge truth to you. Men like sluts, on the contrary they hate women who don't want to fuck.

[AllieOops]

You just have to realize slut is just a name from the past for women who were prolific with casual sex. And it seems to have stuck around for the count. You also have to remember that no matter how many women a guy sleeps with, he is not called a man whore. He is called a stud, even by some girls. But the woman is stuck with the slut moniker. Sometimes there is no justice.

[007kingifrit]

you sound like you have a lot of emotional problems. men would respect you more if you were HARDER to have sex with. and isn't 32 a little late to be bouncing from guy to guy on any regularity at all? at that age relationships should be lasting years

the truth is while a guy might want to have sex with you because its easy at 32 they probably don't want to stick around. sorry but its true. studies show the ideal age for men to want to date a woman is when she is 22. every year after that men are trying to date younger and younger

now as for the lying; its super hard to be honest and just say "i want sex" because some women will value this honesty but most will be angry and NOT have sex with you, disguising your intentions makes you more interested in us as it adds mystery and intrigue

[RydiaMagnifique]

They exist in a woman on men sense, too, in recent decades in response to the constant slut shaming, I'm okay with society balancing out the bullshit so women don't suffer exclusively over sexuality, but regardless, as much as it balances out society's double standards on female sexuality, it doesn't help the cause of destigmatizing sexuality as a whole. We need to not focus as much on stigmatizing male sexuality as we should be destigmatizing female sexuality.

[NerdInDenial]

If you replace words "men shame" with "men do not commit," the mytake makes more sense. There's nothing wrong with going out and having fun, and plenty of guys will have fun with you. However, they're just not going to commit to someone who has a lot of partners. Pair bonding is very difficult when you have a lot of partners.

[TheFlak38]

All I see is a slut trying to find excuses to avoid suffering consequences. Female behaviour 101. She doesn't want responsibility for anything. It's just men's fault. And of course Gag had to promote such a piece of crap. Slut shaming is the best thing in the world and I encourage all men here to do it. Fat shaming too. Don't hold back guys. Slut shame women into oblivion.

[Bandit74]

You have the right to sleep with as many people as you want, but you don't get to dictate how other people should perceive/think of you for having done so.

[Beth12345]

To be honest, if I was a man I wouldn't go near you. With all that ranging it seems like you know what you want but don't know how to get it. I'm an independent woman and I know what I want. When it comes to men, I hardy ever need to ask. Men who are good in bed usually focus more on pleasuring women. The willingness to see your own flaws is a sign of strength. I do agree that women are usually blames for everything. Because we are incharged.

[btbc92]

Or get married. You tell us not to slut shame you but you the whole world what you have the right to do. Well I juts hope your parents and friends knows is all.

[Beth12345]

Yep, marriage/relationship sex is better. I hope she understand that most "men don't know what they are doing" because they don't know her. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[oualid22]

Look I agree with men should just be honest, I do be honest about this. And it works perfectly for both of us ! You know I date a woman if I don't see a future but she attracts me like sexually, I throw it like that. Like " I'm sorry but you know, our mentalities and way of thinking are not matching, but I really find you attractive and don't want the evening to stop, would you like a drink in my house?" And 80% of yeses I'm satisfied and she is too, no calling afterwards and no regrets!

[Anonymous]

Men don't have a problem with real sluts, who don't make some illusions what their goal is when they approach a guy.
It's different when a girl pretends to be loyal, you hear a lot of gibberish of love, marriage and relationship but she starts to fuck around. If you dump her, she starts to have some objections and blames you among your common friends. This is definitely the type of a slut men don't like.

[silvermoon84]

Agreed. I think it’s a double edged sword for women. I’m the opposite and get shamed for not having sex (yep, prude shaming is definitely a thing). Just do what makes you happy

[Be4rdy]

This will stop happening when women stop basing all guys as "the same"

We ain't massive dicks who screw people about. Just some of us dont look like a towie reject and never get even a first glance from any woman at all... I've been single 7 years and honestly it's been hell trying to even speak to women these days.

[Mollynotgemma]

Well said! Women are vicious to one another and are quicker to call another woman a slag before a man does!
I’ve slept with over 70 people. Am I a slag? No! I’ve known every single one of them!

[Anonymous]

Will women ever take into account virgin men, single men that have never dated before they base everything on feminism and their woes of meeting all the wrong men? Try going your entire life never having any success and trying to make it one day with smiling.

[Miristheiss]

If you are having sex those other than your committed boyfriend or your husband... you are most likely a slut.

Tough.
Reality and truth

[sensible27]

I doubt this really changes someone's mind... at least directly. Didn't read the whole thing though...

[Kaneki05]

Guys like that don't change cause they don't have the expansive mindset nor intelligence to do so. So your not gonna change there minds on this.