Why do skinny girls get treated so badly?

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I mean people treat skinny girls like shit for either being to skinny and boney. They always make fun of us saying we never eat. Same goes for vs models, they are beautiful women that were either born that way or had to work hard to achieve there bodies. And when guys go on to say "oh she's too skinny" I mean Ik no one likes anorexics cause they are straight up nasty but don't go bashing girls cause of weight period. Then a curvier girls makes fun of us too. But if a skinny girl says something about bigger girls we are the bad ones. I don't get it. All body shapes are beautiful

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

It happens. I have been thin and slim my whole life, and have heard people say that I need to eat more. That I'm too skinny, I look like a crackhead, I look anorexic, etc. Even random strangers have walked up to me and told me I was too thin. They were overweight. I have never, not a single time in my life walked up to an overweight stranger and told them to "not eat anymore cheeseburgers". But some people think it's perfectly fine to tell me what to eat.

I understand why people do "thin shame or skinny bash". Our bodies are seen as "ideal" by the fashion industry. But if you ask the average person, apparently models are "sickly thin" and "look emaciated" and no one really wants them. I don't understand, but whatever.
I don't agree with "thin shaming" to equalize the lack of fat representation in the media. You can't fight hate with hate. The bullied have become the bullies. I don't agree with this tactic, but I understand why they do it.

I think it'd be best if more walks of life were represented. Fat bodies, chubby bodies, curvy bodies (real curvy, not "fat chick curvy"), tall bodies, short bodies, athletic bodies, muscular bodies, etc. along with the thin bodies. Also hourglass figures, pear figures, apple figures, ruler figures, etc. Hourglass isn't the only shape a woman can have. And it's ridiculous to expect all bodies to look the same. Some were meant to be bigger, some were meant to be smaller. Same goes for men.
But we do gotta understand that the media is a business. They profit from our insecurities. So I doubt they'd ever represent everyone.

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platinumskies · Accepted Answer

i honestly think fat people get treated worse than skinny. Let me put this in a perspective- a lot of people would deny someone thicker for a partner, fat girls are commonly seen rejected by a lot of people, they don't (loosely said) often get any positivity in any way that isn't rude to others. People view fat as a bad thing, you know people tell fat people that they care about their weight bc they're gonna have health problems and etc. (why don't they care about skinny people's weight then? underweight? never go into their business much, but underweight it's a thing). Also any positivity that they do get skinny people are like "umm what about us? all body types". People use fat as an insult too don't forget. there are literally people bullied for even being fat, i never heard of anyone bullied for being skinny.

also no need to bash on anorexic people, ya know the people with the actual disorder than what people use to describe skinny people (one of my pet peeves... stop using anorexic as a synonym for skinny.. it's fucking not. it's an eating disorder that ANY size person can have believe it or not... you just mainly see stories of where a person actually does go to the where they're just bones) it's really gross that you are.

i mean skinny girls can have it bad (believe me. i actually hate being skinny) especially with the anorexic comment), but they don't have it as bad as the fat ones. Guess which body type is mostly desired in general by people at the end of the day? skinny. But you're right every body shape is great

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've noticed this too. I was overweight in my late teens to my early 20s. I started working out and now I am thin and fit. I have gotten more hate from people for being thin than I ever did when I was overweight. I got made fun of for being fat, but it seems like it's ten times worse as a thinner girl. The thing is, I never hated skinny girls when I was fat and I don't hate bigger girls either. I go to the gym quite often to work out and I get people who get bitter with me for wanting to work out. They don't seem to get that I want to maintain my weight. If I was fat before it could happen again. I'd rather keep my healthier lifestyle. Usually it's other women. Men don't really hate on me as much, but one of my best friends actually turned against me. She won't talk to me now. Her reasoning was because I made her feel bad about herself because I ate healthy and exercised and she didn't. My response was "so eat healthier and exercise" and she stopped talking to me. That was three years ago. From what I heard she still bashes me for being thinner.

Also, it's not really right to make fun of anorexic girls. It's a mental disorder and often it's not even about weight. It's about control and other issues in their lives. Losing weight is only part of it, but there is a lot more to it than that. After seeing someone go through that, I hate seeing them get bashed. Eating disorders take over peoples lives. Bashing someone for that is just as bad as bashing them for anything else.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This really pisses me off, we all know 'fat' or 'thicker' girls have it worse. Stop complaining. When you walk down the street and see a thin girl and a bigger girl, you automatically judge the thicker girl. Stop trying to make people feel bad for you, nobody cares! Heavier girls have it 100 times harder, its a FACT. And by the way skinny doesn't always mean healthy, and fat doesn't always mean unhealthy. There are so many different body types, but they all fall into 2 categories, fat and skinny, you wouldn't believe the amount of times i've heard skinny girls call themselves fat, in front of girls that are clearly a bit on the heavier side. That is disrespectful.

Theguyoverthere · Accepted Answer

I can't relate to the girl portion of things but having spent high school skinny myself I was subject to those types of comments as well. I think the bashing is probably worse now then it was when I was in high school as well. There's more overweight people now then ever before. It's pretty much "socially acceptable" to be unhealthy. Yet if you inform them that their lifestyle lead them to where they are they'll mislabel your comment as "fat shaming."While I don't support eating disorders I can definitely relate to people criticizing others to "eat something" and such. I remember the other day eating chicken breast broccoli and brown rice and some guy criticizing my food and telling the room that eating healthy was unnecessary. There's fat shaming, skinny shaming, fit shaming, etc. All the shaming is seriously unnecessary.

Ihav2fart · Accepted Answer

Victorias secret models are BEAUTIFUL! I loveeeee Alessandra Ambrosio! ^^^ Not too skinny! ^^^ Toooo fucking skinny. Now this is what I call boney.

madhatters4 · Answer

"oh she's too skinny" I don't think that's bashing them. I think that is them giving their own personal opinion about how they view their figure

Anonymous · Answer

You are skinny so bashing skinny girls is what you notice. Chubby girls and average weight girls who are not even fat get bashed all the time too - magazines, fashion industry, entire culture forces skinny look on girls. That's an ideal so many are trying to achieve that people feel the need to say they don't prefer skinny so that average sized girls would stop torturing themselves with diets and stuff like that. Skinny is the norm of beauty industry and those who don't match it are taught from an early age to not like themselves. So it's normal for that ideal to have a bit of a backlash. It's not easy for you and it's not easy for chubby girls - it's like a no win situation - no matter the body type, it gets criticized. It's best to just ignore the mean comments and enjoy the advantages of the body type that you have.

forgottenmonkey · Answer

You know after dating a skinny girl I really agree with this. They get treated terrible. I have been fat most of my life and hardly anyone ever goes "why dont you loose weight?" but my ex got comments all the time on how she was skinny and told how wrong it was. I still defend skinny women to this day because of that relationship people are assholes to them.

renogaza · Answer

girls in general nowadays seem to be bullying skinny girls to make them feel better about themselves, i've encountered a few irl already and i tolerated them until they started cursing me and tried to attack me, 3 of them were sent to a hospital.. never mess with a martial artist.

even if general racism, sexism, narcissism etc is almost gone there will always be people who will discriminate and bully someone just to make themselves feel better, luckily all bullies end up with crappy lives.

meatballs21 · Answer

No matter what you do, people who want to hate you will find an excuse to. Even if you're perfect, they'll hate you for that.

I would never give a skinny girl a hard time. I was tormented when I was younger for being thin and awkward looking. I gained a bit of weight, didn't like the way I looked or felt, and have lost it again. Now I get comments oscillating between how good I look and how I'm too thin. At least I feel comfortable again.

Everyone has different tastes. Girls who feel or felt unattractive because she didn't have the right curves, didn't have any... don't believe me when I tell them some guys find that irresistible. I hear that and don't dare tell them I'm one of those guys.

Jbunch · Answer

There is a trend right now where "curvy" girls are ragging on skinny girls. I hear it all the time in songs on the radio and I honestly hate every song that does it. Curvy girls were angry they were being called fat, so now they are doing the same sort of thing to skinny girls instead of embracing the fact that society doesn't care as much anymore.

Embrace your skinnyness, anyone who would go out of their way to insult someone else obviously has some emotional problems of their own.

Anonymous · Answer

All body shapes are not beautiful. No matter how many times people say that, it will never be true. I say this as a person that has struggled with his weight for years.

VS models aren't ugly, but they are thinner than most guys will prefer. Lots of guys like them, but when asked what we like, we are not under any obligation to lie to spare someone's feelings when we point out they aren't our preference. Being honest when ask isn't being mean. For other guys they may just be trying to make a bigger girl feel better. The easiest way to make a woman feel better is to find fault in other women.

As for mistreating skinny people, I agree they do take a lot of crap from people. Most women want to be as thin as a VA model and can't be, so I think they get jealous. Because women see VS models as the height of beauty they have no sympathy for them getting picked on for having what they believe is the perfect body.

Anonymous · Answer

I understand what you are saying. I dont think people realize that it goes both ways. It's really hard for some people NOT to be skinny, like even if they want to gain weight, it's incredibly difficult for them to do it. For me, i always hear things like you said, people saying that curvy girls are better and it makes me feel pretty shitty because of my size (im relatively thin). other times people are like "oh my god you're so skinny, eat something". i dont think that people realize that i am trying my best to gain weight, but its just really difficult for my body to do so. I'm not sure why people bash others about it so much.

Sunflower19 · Answer

Honestly... I dont know how guys are in your area. but guys in my city insult fat and chubby girls waaaaaay more than skinny girls. Guys here (In my city) tease, put down, and insult girls that are overweight. I know this from experience because I've been through this most of my life here. But i do think its wrong that skinny girls get insulted. its never right. every girl is beautiful no matter what their body shape looks like :)

Mesonfielde · Answer

My general reason behind why I end up skinnybashing from time to time is because the Western Culture seems to enforce the idea that the less weight you have, the more attractive you are, and thus support eating disorders and people feeling shit about themselves. So by skinnybashing, I show that that is not necessarily a desirable state, and people should be happy with themselves rather than starve themselves.

I mean really, would you say she's fat?

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I don't think so.

What's the URL? "HM Collezione Oversize"

Well fuck that.

been_waiting · Answer

Well you can't expect a guy to like every body type, some simply don't like skinny girls, but they shouldn't announce it lol.

But yeah skinny shaming is an issue. You literally can't please anyone. So many people used to make fun of me for being thin, then I gained about 20 pounds and now the same people are poking my stomach and saying "wow you're gonna get fat at this rate." Whatever. People are shitty.

thewanderingme · Answer

I agree with you. I've gotten shit for years for being naturally skinny/healthy to point where I became overly self conscious about and started hiding my body.

however, I think the majority of those doing the bashing are jealous and taking their insecurities out on others. don't waste your time caring about them. I just laugh at people like that now.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's jealousy. The culture seems to be in favor of "thick" women these days. I think people are lying to themselves. I wouldn't wanna be with a woman who likely has clogged arteries and a fat ass isn't that attractive to me because I'm not expecting a famine any time soon. People like to have a cause to defend because they like to have the moral high ground, that's why thin girls are vilified sometimes. lol

blondfrog · Answer

From what I have seen I see the skinny girls be practically idolized by guys and being complimented by them a lot on the internet and even in real life by other guys. I don't know what planet you're from, but id you don't believe me just go on reddit I still yet have to see a girl being called ugly by even on guy on there.

amybeelicious · Answer

Yea, I got used to it. I was born naturally skinny and I get jealous girls asking me am I a size 0 and when do I eat all the time. I am a healthy weight for my height and I could care less what the next person thinks of me.

Red7336 · Answer

"Ik no one likes anorexics cause they are straight up NASTY but don't go BASHING girls cause of weight period" and at the end " All body shapes are beautiful" ... okay

AnimeLover12 · Answer

same goes for guys, we skinny people need to stick together in hard times. fat people are taking over.

Anonymous · Answer

You're right. All body shapes are beautiful. People will make fun of you no matter what you look like. Get over it.

T-Squared · Answer

Because our society is messed up and overly judgmental. As for the guys, some just have different preferences, everyone finds different things attractive.

dazedandconfused22 · Answer

Get over it. Fat girls get bashed for being too fat and curvy girls get bashed for being too sexy. People will always have something to say.

Why do skinny girls get treated so badly?

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