I got drunk in front of my crush... I think I ruined it?

[Anonymous]

I made an ass of myself. I am so embarrassed. I feel so bad i dont know if to apologize for my behavior. I acted like such a bitch.

Things have been going so great and i ruined it. I am so ashamed of my behavior. I hate this.

Things have been going great at work between us. he's extra sweet. he's extra helpful and only to me.

We hung out for the first time outside of work the other day when we went out with coworkers. When he got there, i already had a couple of drinks in me so i was just having fun. He came and hugged me and we stayed with our arms around eachother for a while. He kept looking for excuses to be near me and hugging me all night but i started acting extra stupid. My coworkers kept buying me drinks and i didn't want to drink anymore but i did. I was really drunk and i could tell he sort of was too. We went to eat afterward and i was talking a lot. I am normaly shy and reserved but when i drink i talk a lot. But apparently its funny.

After that, thats when things went bad. My friend had brought me and she was still talking to some people and we both got up but my boss was talking to me. My crush came and put his arm around me and pulled me away and we walked outside and asked about my day. He was being sweet and people started coming outside too and i dont remember what i said but i know i pissed him off that he stopped hugging me and said whatever and he stormed off.

I am so embarrassed i hate myself for this. I dont know if to pretend i dont remember or apologize and hope he doesn't hate me for this. I've never drank with a guy i liked before so this is new.

[ItsNessa]

Don't pretent you don't remeber. Try apologizing and saying you weren't yourself and you were drunk! So it's not like whatever you said to him you thought was true, unless you think it is but anyway just try apologizing and hope he doesn't stay mad forever people make mistakes.

[Asker]

No. Whatever i said was stupid and i dont want him to think that im a jerk.

[Rahdle]

Just come clean and oppologize to him. Tell him you drank too much and don't remember what you said and most importantly that you are sorry. If he cares for you (which it sounds like he does) he will forgive you

[Dandeus]

Nobody was ever worse off for owning up to their mistakes and apologizing. Just make sure it's a legit apology and not a cop out blaming the booze.

[Asker]

It was the alcohol though. Im normaly shy and quiet but when i drink i talk way too much. I am apologizing though. I feel dumb.

[Dandeus]

Alcohol doesn't put words in your mouth, the words came from you. It lowers inhibition so you speak your mind without thinking about the consequences. That's why they call it liquid courage or truth syrum.

[Asker]

you're right. My nervousness does. I can be drunk as shit and it still won't make the shyness go away. Now that i remember, i was nervous because he was being extra sweet and when he walked me out, he had his arm around me. He lowered his hand onto my waist but i had to go so he pulled me back. I don't know why. Im so naive. I've never been with a guy and this has never happened which is probably why i started acting weird. Im good at ruining things.

[Dandeus]

Then just tell him you were nervous and panicked a little, so you didn't know how to react, and you hope he won't hold it against you.

[Asker]

Ok. That makes sense. He knows im shy. And yeah i just have no idea what to do and all that. Do i bring up how i got nervous because he kept hugging me and telling me things? I feel like that may lead to a talk about things which is also going to make me nervous.

[Dandeus]

Just be honest, tell him you're not experienced with guys and didn't know what to do. If he asks things that make you nervous, be honest if you can, and if you can't talk about it be honest about being too nervous to talk about it.

[Asker]

well, i ended up pretending not to remember much, well thats what we told our coworkers. But he asked me in private if i really dont remember anything and i said no. that i said a lot of dumb stuff. apparently, i had said nice things, so i think might have gotten offended by me saying that. things are different now though. Some days he's mean but other days he apologizes and he is so sweet. he's always telling me he loves me to death. at least we have actual conversations now. its nice.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Apologize. Time to man up and accept responsibility for your actions.