How to get this creepy guy to stop staring at me?

[Anonymous]

I have some classes with this creepy guy who constantly leans in to eavesdrop on my conversations, tries to walk by me all the time, tries to ask me idiotic questions to initiate conversation, and stares at me 24/7. When he stares he doesn't stop when he's caught and he gives this creepy serial killer smile the whole time and this all goes on for minutes at a time. In a class that we can pick seats in I sit way in the front but whenever I turn to talk to my friends he stares so much I feel violated. I've tried positioning myself to "hide" behind others and he just stands up or leans around them to stare more. He's really perverted, I've heard him making sexual jokes about myself and other girls. I'm so tired of this I've been putting up with it for the entire school year and it's not improving. I don't know what to do anymore. Whenever he tries to talk to me I either ignore him or act super b! tchy with 1 word responses but he won't stop. I have a chronic b! tch face but he still laughs and smiles like its fun and a game to make me feel uncomfortable. One of the teachers is so laid back that I think he won't take me seriously and the other is leaving for health reasons in a week.

[HuggyKitty]

Well even though your teachers will be unavailable, it might be a good idea to contact your guidance counselor or even your principal. My school made it very easy to get in touch with either, and I suppose I had closer relationships to them than other students because I worked in their offices. My guidance counselor was always very helpful and kept things quiet. You may be able to arrange a schedule change, or perhaps the counselor could get your teachers to randomly reassign all seating in the classes to separate the two of you as much as possible without drawing attention to the fact. Although you really can't keep him from starting at you or making jokes, if he really is so perverted that it makes you uncomfortable you might want to involve your counselor. And I understand you think he's a creep, but telling him that you wish he would respect you and your friends a bit more and blatantly tell him you aren't interested could help as a last resort.

[Asker]

Thank you for your helpful response. I've never dealt with someone before who wouldn't stop staring when they were caught. I've been told I have an expressive face and disgust and anger is clearly seen when he's staring at me but he just continues and smiles at himself. And leaning around people to stare more at me is ridiculous. im not sure how mentally stable he is and im afraid if I say something hell just see it as an invitation or something. I want to not have this teacher next year because he's a jerk and I don't want to keep asking my counselor to get me out of classes with certain people in them. I've considered talking to the dean but he's pretty scary and intimidating and I think a woman would understand better.

[kittenforever]

You're paying for this class (assuming college) so you shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable because of some creep. Do you have any male friends in the class? In my experience, guy friends or even acquaintances are usually willing to step in when this kind of thing is happening to a girl. He doesn't have to necessarily confront him, but show this guy that people are aware he's doing this to you.

I had a class with a really creepy guy who did something similar. I tried ignoring him, etc and he wouldn't stop. It went on for weeks until I told the guy (Alex) who sat next to me who was sort of a friend by then. I would tap Alex's foot when the guy was staring and we would both stare back at him. I think since the guy realized Alex was starting to get involved he backed off. With guys like this I really think a male needs to get involved.

[elektrik_nathan]

Easy. Just tell him straight. STOP LOOKING AT ME. Shout it really loud. Keep some guy friends close by and get them to show their hostility towards him.

[Virulent]

You can't make someone stop staring at you...

[Asker]

Wow that was so helpful *sarcasm*

[Virulent]

*Then he won't stare at you.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Have you involved the school authorities?

[Asker]

No because besides what he's said he hasn't done anything illegal. His words could be counted as harassment but the only other witnesses are his few friends.