What's wrong with liking feminine guys? Am I the only one?

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I feel like people think that girls who like these type of guys are lesbians, or just "haven't gotten to meet a real man" and guys that are like this try to change because of what other people like. I see all this alpha male stuff as though guys think all girls are into that. I'm not attracted to "Female trapped in male body" type of guys or the really insecure ones but the guys that have a cutesy appearance like a baby face. I've always been attracted to cute guys I don't know why. I can't go into a lot of detail into this and I guess feminine isn't the right word but if you watch anime then the term "shota" Is similar (not exactly) to this. 

"A shota is a boy about the age of 14. He is usually blonde, small and innocent" - Urban dictionary

Julgath · Accepted Answer

Hello SakuraChii. The answer to your question is that there is nothing wrong with liking anything attribute or trait of a person. It may not be the "norm" within a society, or the most common preference, but that is what it is, a preference. You simply value things different, as you described it would seem you find something being cute being of more interest to you than something "manly". There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you may determine to be attractive or your wants. After all, it that is your type, whatever you consider your type, no one should really have a say in it.

Also, on a side note, I assume because of your "shota" comment, I picture Honey-senpai when thinking of an example.

notcreativethough · Accepted Answer

How would you describe your own physical femininity?

I remember a couple of studies that suggested that facial preference is partly based on your own facial attributes. The more masculine and feminine a face is the more it finds the opposite attractive. For example a girl with a very feminine face likely finds a guy with a very masculine face most attractive, the inverse also being true. Whereas guys and girls that lean more towards androgynous features, find androgynous features of the opposite sex most attractive.

https://buism.com/attraction_files/image002.jpg (rough depiction of what I'm on about, although the female faces are obviously inconsistent.)

lumos · Accepted Answer

Technically there's nothing wrong with being a feminine man. It's just that it challenges the stereotypical gender roles, that men are "supposed" to be masculine, whereas women are "supposed" to be feminine. And whenever something challenges normalized societal structures, it's usually met with anger/hatred/confusion/disagreement etc. Which is why a lot of people think it's bad when a guy is feminine, or when a girl is masculine. It's stupid, because it prevents people from being who they want to be, without being shamed for it.

KillerZ0mbieHunter · Accepted Answer

I'm having a mix of confusion and misunderstanding. Do you mean those who act a little "soft" and less masculine or the "twinks"? Twinks being those who people would usually intiate 13 year olds would crush on. If it's the first, I wonder the same too.

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

You're probably a Armin fan from Attack on Titan. I know what you mean. There are many girls who like boys such as Justin Bieber, but I'm personally not a fan.

thewanderingme · Answer

nothing wrong with it. I've always preferred slightly effeminate guys too. like what you like. others opinions on the matter are irrelevent. (:

BumbleDeev · Answer

Don't worry I like feminine guys too :o
Everybody is attracted to different kind of people and I think you shouldn't worry about what other people think. If they judge you, tell them to suck your sick >:3

RasmusAiken · Answer

The term Alpha Male is often used to try to legitimize being an Aßhole.

Watermelonoma · Answer

nothing wrong with it. If that's what you're into then go for it. I like white girls (not exclusively) with small - medium sized breasts, while some of my friends prefer large ones. We're all different

DodgersGM · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that at all. The fact of the matter is that you'll probably belong to a small minority, but that's okay.

Bellibooo · Answer

There is nothing wrong with it and you're not alone. We like different things and are attracted to different men/women. That is perfectly normal ☺️

SavageNick87 · Answer

Lol I ain't really feminine but the young/baby face is in full effect smh

Anonymous · Answer

When you marry one of these boys and hear a noise downstairs I'm sure you'll be confident enough to send him to investigate lmao.

blondfrog · Answer

I am a feminine man :) and that's great don't change

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing "wrong" with it, and it's fairly common at your age. But you will in all likelihood grow out of it in the next few years as you became a woman rather than a girl.

Real women are attracted to real men.

Debbiexoxo · Answer

There is nothing wrong in that, It's just your personal preference.

Klaatu51 · Answer

it's not wrong sister... it's your preference ;-)

Ihav2fart · Answer

Not sure if I'm considered a feminine male...

Anonymous · Answer

You like Asian guys huh

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