(Assumption: I assume that the person here is someone who works in your office who you find sweet)
This possibility is remote but a lot of people here are going to disagree with my answer. But it cannot be ignored.
First tell me, how many days have passed since he is behaving in such a manner ? Does he take drugs ? I find it unlikely that he will behave like this for your attention. If he doesn't take drugs, then it is quite possible that some of your rivals(or your friends who are jealous of you) have said something bad about you to him, the reason why he behaves trashy. This must be someone's conspiracy to snatch him away from you as someone else other than you is also interested in him. Keep a close watch on your friend's behavior.
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Now, I am just giving an example, so please don't take it personal. Someone must have said to him that this girl(i.e. you) doesn't like to work & likes wasting her time during work hours. OR She makes mistakes in her work purposely, so that your superiors have to work more. By listening to these things his attitude & chivalry towards you would have changed.
Trust me, there is always some politics in office, I have experienced it. You are made to look as if you are bad by talking behind your back to him and making him angry against you.
Depends on what you mean by "trashy"
I can think of a few possibilities other than drugs.
After years of shyness, someone might try to change their behavior overnight. Like buying the "Double Your Dating" or "Get More Game" DVDs and trying to be cocky...
Might be emotional problems due to stress, family or work problems. I've occasionally gotten grump, snappy (or worse) when it felt like I was swamped.
Might be due to the influence of new friends. If someone's got a weak identity or is suggestible, they might take on the traits of those people they associate with.
Post traumatic stress or stress in general can make people act out. A few years ago I was under a lot of stress after my mom died and I acted completely out of character.
Sudden onset of mental illness is another thing that could make someone act out of character.
It depends on what else is going on in their life. They could've just broken out of their shell and taken their new outgoing behavior too far.
I think that it all depends on the situation... what's the story here?
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Yes, it can be drugs. But...
People who is very shy and socially awkward often feel very bad about this, even though it might not show and they do their best to hide it. Being very shy is really a horrible feeling if it is intense. It makes you a prisoner inside yourself.
When someone finally breaks free that person usually have too much emotional momentum that it is very hard to stabilise yourself. You often go from one extreme to the other and then after some time you end up somewhere in the middle.
If it has been going on only for a short time I would recommend that you try to give time and the space he needs. Try not to judge or "talk him strait" at this time. Be supportive and let him know you are there for him, if he wants you around.
If this has been going on for a long time without any change then you might try to open his eyes to what he's become. But you can never change another person. You can only help them change themselves...
I used to be like that shy guy.. what changed me was a girl that I really liked.. and she moved 1000's of miles away from me... hahahha sounds dramatic but hey it wasn't my fault.. she had to do her thing.. and the anger and loss and bitterness I felt finally made me feel like " f*** it "... and from then on I didn't give a sh*t about what people thought about me and the shyness went a way almost over-night. A sudden life-changing situation like that will dramatically change anyone's behavior.. sometimes for the worst.
i m not sure why guy suddenly behave like this there must be something wrong with him which he never expected to happen with him...try to get connected to guy if you are really a good friend of him...and asked cooly what's the matter is...i hope things will be more clear once he explain the facts to you...
Were they drinking? Alchohol can lower inhibitions and make a person come out of their shell. Otherwise it could be that maybe you just have not saw all the sides to this person? How well do you know them? Possibly you have only saw what you wanted to see, and this person although reserved around you, acts a different way around some other people or while doing activities that ordinarily don't involve you? I dunno...just guessing here...
Its highly probable they're going through a rough time right now. Maybe the death of a loved onr or something else like that. In my case I went through a period like that for about a month when I quit smoking LOL.
You have been brainwashed by the popular media. Many people change for many reasons, blaming it on drugs is just a stupid answer for simple people who know nothing about the complexities of life.
so many factors other than drugs! It could be they just watch an emotional film. Or they are just having a bad day. Or they have dual personality
Desperation for attention. If its a girl, many believe to get the attention of others bad or good, they have to be the trashy girl. I don't think you should judge them because of this though, if your concerned just bring it up with them causlly.
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