I'm sure you've heard a few of the stories of girl getting send home because their outfits didn't comply with the school's dresscode and was supposedly distracting boys
So I'm not American and I have a bit trouble seeing the point in school dress codes. The way I see it playing fashion police is not in their job description and a gross waste of my tax money. Why do they care so much? And this is not really an issue where I'm from but it came to my attention when I was picking up a friends brother from high school. I was waiting outside, when a teacher almost yelled at me about seeing the guidance counsellor, because my skirt was too short.
I was wearing a coat, high boots and tights so I really don't think it should have been an issue. Not that it's any of her buisness.
She just said it was against the rules and that she doesn't make the rules. But clearly she shouldn't blindly follow them either, especially not as a teacher. So I asked her why and she said because it was distracting the boys. Does it though? Does it really?
None of those are wearing lingerie. I find it quite offensive actually. I'm not in high school or a teenager but if I were I would have gone home crying that day and I don't think that's ok. I also don't think a collorbone and tights are that distracting. Maybe it is, I don't know, but really what can be done about teenagers thinking about sex? Have you turned on the TV? sex is everywhere boys just have to learn to live with it Maybe what I was wearing was scandalous in the 50s, but guess what it's not 1950 anymore
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Guys are you distracted by the way girls dress in school?
I'm a modest person as it is. Just for my own comfort, I abide by dress codes and I don't even have to think about it. We actually just had a mini-debate on this in social studies a while ago. One comment made that was agreed with heavily was that guys are going to be distracted by girls, whether abiding by the dress code or not. It makes no difference in a guy's attention to a girl. Personally, I find clothing like super short things and super tight things and super low things and revealing things very distracting in and unnerving way. I'm glad about my school's dress codes (other girls hate them but what else could be expected, right?). School is much more strict about it than I am when I see a girl wearing things that break the rules of the dress code. To me, it's not worth making a fuss about it unless it's something really, truly inappropriate.
Okay, so my point. Girls have guys' attention regardless of dress codes. Guys in school are just naturally distracted by any girl they happen to see even a tiny bit of attraction in. Dress codes could be more lenient, but it's a good thing they aren't because of the ones rebelling.
I'd also like to make it clear that I'm just generally speaking. Don't take any of this personally or too literally.
There's dress codes in most jobs, I don't see why school should be any different. At my job i can't wear spaghetti straps, tube tops, short shorts. That's life, you're expected to present yourself in a certain manner, starting school age teaches these kids to be concious of what they are wearing and to dress accordingly. You're going to school, not a beach. I agree in some cases they take it too far though.
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that's not the question I asked though.
And maybe dress code would make sense if they were in any way reflective of reality but being allowed to wear pajamas to school while not shorts is nonsense. I get the purpose of uniforms, but this is very different And that's for high school only. I don't see why an elementary school would ever need a dresscode
If the duchess of Cambridge regularly violates your dress code maybe you need to reflect on how contemporary your rules are
You said you don't see the point in dress codes, so my response was relevant.
You are aloud to wear shorts in school but they must be a certain length, as for elementary age my daughter is in 2nd grade and has a dress code. It's for the exact same reason, you need boundaries set to separate what's appropriate and what's not. She isn't aloud to wear pj's to school by the way, only on pj day haha
If there was no dress code and I sent my daughter to school in tiny shorts and a bikini top is that okay in your book?
I never used to get in trouble for my clothes. Not recently I have been, I was told that my ripped jeans were to distracting & I shirt with a ripped back and they told me to it wasn't school appriate (however it's spelt)
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Yeah I look when someone is hot. But that doesn't mean they should be sent home by school, thats just stupid and discriminating.
It isn't discriminating as long as everyone is held to the same standards. Now if you wanted to complain that boys and girls have different dress codes then that would be an example of discrimination.
I looked, but it didn't distract me from the lecture, other things did xD I agree that there should be a dress code though. You're preparing kids for the adult life, and dressing well is a big part of it. Not necessarily having to dress in suits or stuff like that, but not having your pants so low all your underpants are exposed (guys), or having skirts/pants so short that half your butt is exposed (girls).
Though I do agree that sometimes they take it too far and even skirts that are at your knee are considered skimpy, that's ridiculous, but it's a rare case. In my HS in Spain you could see most girl's butts and the teachers said nothing. It's disgusting seeing 12 year old girls dressing like that... bad parenting at its finest.
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that's right, parenting, that's not the schools job.
It's not about dressing well tho. How do you define dressing well? They're allowed to go with sweatpants even pajamas but not shorts. How is that reflective of the real world? The purpose of it is purely not to distract guys
Shorts aren't allowed, or SHORT shorts are the ones not allowed? Cause I've seen kids with shorts. And by dressing well I mean not showing everything. I'm pretty sure that if a guy went to school without a t-shirt, he'd be told that it's not appropriate.
While similar rules apply I think a lot of people complain that boys are far less likley to be send home for it. And I mean sending someone home for their shorts being an inch too short is outrageous to begin with. A guy would have to do some radical like coming shirtless to get into trouble while girls get send home for showing 2 cm midriff when raising their hand. Their point is that the school openly sexualizes girls more than boys, which let's face it, is a reflection of society and girls are tired of that
and that it's extremely hard to find clothes that comply with those dress codes these days, for girls more so than boys, as illustrated here. And that's for toddlers
The girls in that video are placing the blame of not being in class on everyone else but themselves. They're impeding their own education. That's ridiculous, they know the rules and they choose to push the boundaries and when they get sent home they blame boys. Take responsibility, If I walked into work right now wearing something against code I'd be sent home. Its not my bosees fault, its not the guys at works fault. It would be my fault. Some clothes are distracting, at any age. You have to set a line somewhere otherwise a girl could walk into school with a bikini, but freedom of expression right? There's a time and a place. If they're more lenient on boys then they should push for boys to punished in the same way girls are. They shouldn't be changing dress codes to allow 7th and 8th graders (thats 12 and 13) to wear plunging neck lines and short shorts.
It's not my problem or the school's that girls decide to show more skin than boys. Tank tops are the only thing guys wear that shows some skin, and it only shows your arms, of course you're not gonna be sent home for that, girls won't either. But guys don't wear shirts that show your stomach, or your chest. They don't also wear shorts so short their butts are out, what guys do is sag their pants, and that IS against the dress code, but unlike short shorts, that has a solution, you just pull them up and keep going, while if you bring short shorts, you can't do anything but change.
You complain about sexualization, but it's those girls that sexualize themselves by showing their butts and their boobs. And you say it's hard to find clothes like the dress code, which is not true, cause there a girls that wear that, and in case it was, whose fault is it? If girls didn't buy those clothes, they wouldn't sell it. Simple as that.
It's that for similar offenses guys don't get in trouble. All those girls in the pictures above were send home and they do not dress slutty. Similar offenses like a girls underwear showing vs. a guy with low hanging pants. Or a girls midriff showing vs. a guys when both of them stretch. The guy is likely to get a warning whereas she gets send home. Which leads to the conclusion that their teachers see nothing sexual about a guys underwear showing but they do if it's a girl and they're annoyed by that. Rightfully so.
And honestly if you say it's easy to find clothes that go with that dress code you have no idea what you're talking about. I don't like to wear super short shorts but that's all there is. In the past 6 months I've seen 1, just one, pair of shorts that had an inseam loner than 3 inch. And even that was shorter than mid thigh. Let alone the task to find a shirt that shows collarbones. You expressed you have a preference, but don't say it's easy to shop for your
Whose fault is it that there are only super short clothes even for toddlers. Well obviously the toddlers for choosing such a slutty outfit. jk I already said, society that constantly sexualises girls from a very young age on. And you know you have to buy something and there's not much choice if you want to dress modest.
Not that there's anything wrong with showing skin. I mean seriously why not? Most guys here said they don't get distracted, so why not let them wear what they want? Why is showing skin so bad? Because wearing a summer dress in summer means you don't respect yourself? Have you turned on the TV, there are half naked women everywhere. Love it or hate, this is reality now.
Sometimes it would be distracting, but not to the point my grades suffered. The schools do however need to enforce some type of dress code. It would be very distracting if people showed up in their underwear. The only question is where to draw the line on the dress code.
Distracted, yes, but only for about 10 seconds, and that's only for extreme cases. I get much more distracted by my girlfriend, and 9/10 she is wearing long sleeve shirts (No cleavage, sheer fabric, or collarbones)/hoodies and jeans. So yeah, it has much more to do with who it is than what they're wearing.
Fuck yes it did. Boys that age are walking hardons and girls showing off a lot. of thigh and cleavage drives them nuts. It's supposed to. The girls I went to school with used to buy blouses a size too small to stretch the buttons around their tits and show their bras. They used to wear knee high socks and skirts that barely covered their thighs. We used to be drooling over them
A professional environment requires professional clothing. They can dress however they like outside of school.
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First of all, not the question asked. Please answer the question!
And I'll just copy and past from another comment
maybe dress code would make sense if they were in any way reflective of reality but being allowed to wear pajamas to school while not shorts is nonsense. I get the purpose of uniforms, but this is very different And that's for high school only. I don't see why an elementary school would ever need a dresscode
and that it's extremely hard to find clothes that comply with those dress codes these days, for girls more so than boys, as illustrated here. And that's for toddlers
Yes I sometimes get distracted that's why I call for more conservative dress at school. What the girls are wearing in the above pictures is fine. Short shorts and shirts that reveal cleavage are not.
When I was 15 the wind could blow hard and I'd have a hard on... Slight thigh from a pretty girl and it was boner city.
Whether it's a distraction and whether it's right are two different discussions
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Well it seems to be the main arugment from people that think girls should cover up, that it would distract, tempt or otherwise influence the guys. So I think it's worth discussing if that's actually true in the first place.
I'm from a country were dress codes in schools don't exist so if it's not illegal it's allowed in school. And it's not like people were running around in underwear if that's what people were worried about. I don't see why schools here think they have the moral high ground. Like what one teacher deems appropriate can get a girl suspended
well they definitely caught my attention and from time to time I was definitely distracted too... but when I see what some schools have as school dresses, then I doubt that would have changed much ;)
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