Why do single mothers have so much of a bad reputation in society?

[sparkly-crystal]

I know that most single mothers (not all!!) have kids outside of wedlock with an unreliable deadbeat dad. But a lot of women nowadays choose single motherhood and don't want a dad.

[Anonymous]

"But a lot of women nowadays choose single motherhood and don't want a dad." You just answered your own question. These women are choosing single motherhood. They often have children that they often can't afford, showing they are irresponsible. This often means that it puts a greater burden on the tax payers that end up supporting her worthless ass.

Often these single mothers even tricked a guy into getting her pregnant by lying about being on the pill. This disrupts the mans life plans. Often these women won't even tell the father he has a child, which is also another reason to look down on them.

These women often go out of their way to pick men they know won't want to be fathers, then find some sweet guy to pay for another man's child so that she doesn't have to worry about custody issues later on. This means her new man is never truly accepted as a part of HER family.

This also means the child grows up without their father, and a lot of guys are expected to happy not having a child of his own, while helping to raise a child of a scum bag that never wanted a kid of his own. This shows that she either doesn't have respect for men to, and that she is so selfish that she doesn't care about her child having a father as long as she has the child all to herself.

Then these same women run around whining that men don't want to date them, just because they have a kid. The truth is an unmarried single mom is setting off so many red flags about her flawed personality that astronauts can see these flags from space. The only men that date women like that tend to be desperate guys that have to accept any woman that will take him or else risk ending up alone.

Before some woman comes on here whining "Not all single moms" Yes I know that, but they are the exception. Most were unmarried and clearly never wanted a family, or had the means to take care of the child when she decided to become a single mother. Nor do I want to hear "What about the dead beat fathers?" I am not giving them a free pass, so don't act like I am.

[Anonymous]

Let me give you a brief history on single moms I see:

My cousin #1:
-Had her first kid at age 20
-The father was a drug dealer and is currently serving time

My cousin #2:
-Had her first kid at age 18.
-The father just got out of jail and doesn't the kid at all
-had her 2nd kid at age 23
-The other father doesn't take care of the kid and works as a low level sales rep for some retail chain like Walmart

My Sister:
-Had her kid at age 29
-Father is 40 and is pizza boy
-Father doesn't want anything to do with the kid... but he is sick of paying child support, so he is trying to get custody of the kid

My Mom:
-Had her first kid with one guy at age 18
-Had her 2nd child with another guy at age 21
-Had me and my younger brother with my dad in her 30s (she is still with my dad... but my dad regrets marrying her... says marrying someone with kids was the worst decision of his life)
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Do you send the trend above? A lot of you women always, always, always sleep with losers, have children with losers and they wonder why they end up a single mom.

This meme says a lot, and it's pretty accurate:

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Why would an educated man who has a lot going for himself want a single mom?

If you, as a woman, are stupid enough to sleep with a loser and have a loser's kid... it should come to no surprise that a smart man, who has his life in check, does not want anything to do with your you and your "pre-made" family.

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Listen, single moms... I don't care if you are back in school, have a great job, have a house, a nice car, a dog, a million dollars, etc. You knowingly had a kid with a loser, and you expect a man to be okay with it and go out with you. That's not how that works, and I would never be okay with raising another man' kid... especially a kid of a loser.

[Spermdumster666]

Many single mothers are that way because the dumped their man or cheated on him and try to restrict access to the kids on her own terms while demanding money at the same time and refusing to get a job while the kids are in school meanwhile they've moved another guy into the family home, its not all that simple. You can't call a guy a deadbeat dad if the mother keeps him out of his childs life. Choosing to be a single mother is probably the most selfish thing I've ever heard, true many choose this for a welfare check and so they dont have to get a job but its wrong and so many kids end up with major social problems because of a lack of a male role model, for boys they tend to rnd up in jail if they have no daddy and for girls its prostitution.

[Rainie_]

Usually when people think "single mothers" nowadays they think teen mom/young mum. In other words they usually see them as irresponsible.

And also, children tend to grow better mentally when both parents are around. For a matter of fact, criminality is higher among poor single mothers than poor families with both parents. So the kids of the single mothers sometimes/often become quite troublesome which gives single mothers a bad look, because they don't have a father figure to look up to.

[Miss_Behave]

I think it's because people tend to stereotype them as women who f*ck around with different men, and have kids out of wedlock, which obviously isn't always the case.
I was raised by a single mother because my dad died when I was very young.

[Anonymous]

Popular culture praises single mothers as high-value dating catches for discerning, good men. It is hard to find many greater lies than this one. MILF culture since the late 1990s and early 2000s, epitomized by the American Pie character Finch’s obsession with Steve Stifler’s mom, made bedding and romancing single mothers a seeming must-have on many young men’s sexual bucket lists. Nonetheless, just because you saw it on TV or in a film doesn’t make it truth.
The single mother craze is just the collective self-delusion of has-been women with kids, backed up by a sympathetic cultural narrative. It is designed to assuage the hurt they feel at being upstaged by packs of new, frequently younger or better-looking nubile girls that men really want to claim.
stifflersmom
A couple of caveats need to be tacked on to what I am saying. Firstly, the following list includes general, “on average” characteristics of single mothers. Society is replete with thankfully childless über-feminists who hate the idea of ever becoming pregnant. Similarly, there are enough cases of women with kids who would make better partners than girls who are yet to expel a human being from their body.
Also, Western dis-civilisation suffers from a terminal lack of fecundity, “nationalism without natalism will fail.” The globalist agenda, plus its corollaries of self-disembowelling multiculturalism, pernicious feminism, and transgender lunacy, are all geared towards suppressing positive notions of fertility that accord with true female nature. The problem is not that women have children, but that many women have children in a culture that conditions them to act in repulsive ways, both before and after motherhood.
Meanwhile, single fathers paradoxically have none of the appeal attributed to single mothers. This is irrespective of the fact that men physically age better and do not have any of the deleterious physical effects of bearing children. Worse still, they are never recognized for raising and financially supporting children by themselves, most of all by prospective female partners.

[Opinion Owner]

Their bodies are inferior to women who have not had kids Yes, you can find many a female fatty who is without children and has no real prospect of having them anytime soon. Likewise, you can find a mother whose ass fills a pair of spandex pants like a gallon of water satisfies a man about to die of thirst in the desert. The norm, however, is that motherhood ruins a woman’s body or, if it doesn’t do so immediately, turns on a steady self-destruct mechanism. With more free time while on maternity leave or doing a poor job at child-rearing as the government and father foot the bill, they can cake on the makeup and adjust the camera filters that allow them to superficially reclaim their pre-motherhood look. Whatever happens, it remains a smokescreen.
In addition, almost every single human being on this planet lets themselves go after having children. They cannot easily coordinate earning an income (if they even do), tending to a growing household, and caring for children with physical

[Opinion Owner]

... maintenance or self-improvement. And if they do coordinate it somewhat, it is at a subpar, barely functioning level. This only adds to the breaking down of a single mother’s looks.

[Opinion Owner]

They are separated or divorced from their baby daddy for a reason and usually it’s very bad
Women have no socially-enforced responsibility for their relationship behaviors, even when those relationships produce children. For example, repeated studies show that female cheating is approaching or has equaled levels of male infidelity. Yet the mea-culpa-for-straying press conferences you see are of Tiger Woods and not Kristen Stewart. In this permissive environment, which both looks past and invariably rewards prima donna female antics, women with children feel more able still to go off the deep end, sabotage their relationships, and then pretend that they were the offended, even abused party.
It is into this maelstrom of female self-entitlement that the prospective boyfriend of a single mother walks. Not only do you have all the crap involved with the biological father of the child, which the mother usually does nothing to mitigate, you also must deal with the shell of a woman whose

[Opinion Owner]

... whose malformed relationship strategies remain firmly intact. The world is full of women who have never told a man they were to blame for the end of a previous relationship. Having a child only compounds the problems associated with this distinct lack of self-awareness.

[Opinion Owner]

They are financial dead-ends. Unless you are pile-driving a doctor, lawyer or someone else similarly well-positioned who has a child or two, your courtship with a single mother is a financial drain on you just waiting to happen. Oh wait, it already is. A woman with a child who really thinks she just wants a boyfriend is bad enough, but single mothers are greatly—if not entirely—motivated by the admitted financial security that a new partner provides. They can lacquer it up all they like with the feeling of finally having that “special someone,” yet the deep-seated function matters a whole lot more than the convenient excuse. She’s probably fooling herself, not just trying to fool you.
To think that female brains have moved much further beyond their mammalian cousins or prehistoric ancestors is pure folly. If your sex drive as a man is often no different to the first homo sapiens, a single mother’s compulsion for male-generated resources has not moved along, either.

[Opinion Owner]

... Except the child is another man’s and not yours. You will be either bailing her out outright or accepting much lower financial and other material contributions from her. And for what?

[Opinion Owner]

They do not become better people by becoming mothers. The vast majority of people in the world, whether male, female, black, white, or blue, do not change in their lifetimes beyond extremely narrow limits. Age, illness, having a family, or changing jobs may all act as funnels that give the appearance of true change, but these shifts are not what they appear. The same person merely moves into a different phase of existence.
A single mother saying she became a better person by getting knocked up and giving birth is simply backward rationalizing an event just as irreversible as losing one’s virginity. She is putting a positive spin on the end of her more pristine fertility and the advent of stretch marks, sagging mammaries, and a much more constrained social life interspersed with tantrums (hers or the child’s) and the constant whiff of infant fecal matter.

[Opinion Owner]

They have impulsive and poorly-reasoned behaviors. Why exactly is a single mother a mother? Did she finish high school? Complete any other education? Hold down her last three jobs? Screw half the hood rats in Brooklyn? Inasmuch as an ideal patriarchal society would welcome women having children young, having children young in today’s society, particularly without marriage and a steady financial situation, is very often an indication of sluttiness and a penchant for instant, unending gratification. This bodes terribly for any relationship between her and any man after she splits with the father of her child/children.
Elements of psychological child abuse are also at play because by ignoring her own self-development (and neglecting to cultivate a stable relationship with the father) she is almost certainly passing on significant dysfunction to her son or daughter. Shows like MTV’s Teen Mom equate getting pregnant at 15, 16, or 17 with this, but even much older single mothers are

[Opinion Owner]

... prone to such behavioral clusters.
You will come dead last with single mothers. This super-principle hangs above and holds together the preceding five. You are most likely always an object with single mothers and not a valued option, let alone a priority. Tread carefully. And why settle for what many would term used goods when there are fresher, childless pastures just down the road?
Single mothers who choose not to have a father in their childs life are selfish in the worst way and are robbing their child of a parent, not to mention the burden on society if they are unemployed and if they work then basically the burden falls on a relative to care of the child or daycare, babysitters and nannies so that the child is practically raised by strangers who dont care about the child and the child turns out maladjusted in adulthood.

[ObscuredBeyond]

The lack of a strong father figure is one of the single most leading causes of juvenile delinquency, which creates a myriad of its own problems. To not want a dad for one's kids is selfishness. Also, women who believe they are entitled to have sex to the point that they will get knocked up by just any old dude that comes along and makes them wet down under by his mere presence are generally bad mothers (though not always.)

And because they carry this attitude regarding their sex and parenting lives, it carries over into other areas of life, such as their attitudes about holding down jobs, staying off drugs / tobacco / alcohol / whatever, finishing their education, eating healthy, occupying their minds with constructive things as opposed to whatever garbage is on TV at the moment, etc.

This also tends to make a lot of them behave very irresponsibly when they do seek out relationships, choosing poor mates and not treating them well.

That's how you get stories of their bratty kids inventing cheap dynamite and breaking into the neighbor's house and blowing up the safe to steal the neighbors' guns, then bringing the guns to school to blow away classmates they don't like.

It's also how you get stories about couples in Florida getting arrested after slapping each other in public with slices of pizza.

If you ever think God can't judge a nation for its sexual moral apathy, explain Florida. I rest my case.

[Anonymous]

because it was usually completely avoidable and a host of other reasons.
1. they usually pick the scummiest guy they can to bump and grind and act confused when the guy ups and leaves. (most of the time the guy literally leaves before she's even two weeks pregnant and told him)

2. many of them are single mothers because they know they can get money from it. some women purposely have multiple babby daddies just so they can get a bunch of different checks then live off section 8 never having to work effectively making them leaches to everyone else and ruined their baby daddies lives.

3. makes it harder for single men to date. most people dont want to take care of someone elses kid especially when they aren't ready to have their own and it doesn't help that they picked the worst guy the could find to be the kids father this guy will be popping up throughout the next 18 years giving you hell.

4. single moms usually stunted their already tiny growth. most women dont aspire to be anything of substance in society they just want easy jobs that they enjoy and pay decentish. single moms can't even do that usually until much later in their life and have to work tons of crappy dead end jobs and maybe sell some ass on the side to support them and their kid.

can't think of anymore reasons at the moment.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

I mean it depends on where you are. Not alot' of women in poor areas choose to be single mothers. Not a single one of them. Then again they're women who put career first and want motherhood now that there established in their career.

I don't know where you are in the world but for the most part being a single mom isn't a positive in said womens' life.

I think the stigma of having kids out of wedlock is pretty much dead. I've known of ONE couple that married and then had kids. Everyone else is a single mom/dad. Most of the women i date are single moms and stigma they have is that you have to plan around child care. That's it.

[Prof_Don]

Now THIS is the biggest burden of being a female in dating; the power of choice.

Out of all the guys available to her, she CHOSE a guy who ended up being a deadbeat dad, when there were many other choices of man available.

As for the women who intentionally DON'T want a father figure in their lives, those bitches are stupid and are ruining society. The lack of a father, or an equivalent father figure, in the child's life, is the number one burden on society. Odds of deliquency for that child in all facets of life SKYROCKETS with not having a consistent father or father figure.

I'm a black American, and trust me; the presence of a father figure DOES matter!

[Mistnigqa808]

"Why do single mothers have so much of a bad reputation in society?" Because more times than not they're single because of their inability to choose to a good man or they because they looked past 1 for a low life it seems.

[Octavius]

"But a lot of women nowadays choose single motherhood and don't want a dad."

Well I think that right there is the problem. Not every dad who isn't in their kids life is a deadbeat but the mother hates the dad and wants to get revenge by denying them to be with their child. THAT'S what a lot of people hate.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Exactly. They can't think of a way to meaningfully punish the dad, so they make the children suffer instead. Children readily see through what utter nonsense that is, and wind up hating both parents. And that leads to them cultivating a hatred for society in general.

Which is a large part of why many of them turn into juvenile delinquents. Or felons later in life. Or Bernie Sanders supporters. Or what-have-you. Parents sin, children suffer. Tale as old as time.

[idiotmanchild]

I think some of the guys already said this, but I think single mothers, especially the younger ones are looked down upon by society because they might seem irresponsible for putting themselves in the wrong position. I do share that view. It really doesn't hurt to make sure a condom and/or birth control is being used even though it is not optimally pleasurable. Also, although money isn't everything, it might be smart to consider the ability and willingness of a man to take responsibility for a kid before raw dogging it...

[AleDeEurope]

Because most of those single mothers didn't want a kid to begin with. The kid was the result of a bad and stupid decision. The result of the ignorance of the mother and the father.
Most single mothers suck at being a mother, cause they never wanted to be a mother that soon. They weren't ready, they don't know what to do.
Many single mothers beat their kids, abuse them, don't educate them... that's why kids from single mothers tend to have shitty lives.

[ccp16]

I wouldn't give say they are bad... I would say I don't want to date them though. I don't want to raise someone else's kid, I know that is selfish but that is just me.

I would think it is odd if a girl wanted a kid but no father, but then wanted to date me...

[Jager66]

Single motherhood is the worst way to raise a child. A child raised by a single mom is significantly more likely to be dysfunctional in nearly every way we can measure it and less likely to be successful as well.

So people shame single mothers because we all have to live in the same world as their children.

[cheapshotbob]

while i think its a feminist movement to get rid of men in all relationships by gay women. normal people who dont see conspiracies think it could just be from some women being tired of being jerked around by men who only want one thing.

and never show interest in children. i myself regret not having kids and i can't now sadly. but i would give anything to find a nice girl with kids since i can't have any. but i dont go where im not sure i am not wanted.

[Dandeus]

"But a lot of women nowadays choose single motherhood and don't want a dad."

Which is completely idiotic. Children of single parents struggle significantly more than children with two parents present. Deliberately having a child as a single parent is selfish.

[bcromartie]

It is particularly because being a single parent household is not optimal for raising children and has been shown too many times to argue that children do best with both parents. It is also considered to be taboo because of the fact that they are often some of the heaviest users of welfare systems.

[Anonymous]

What if he didn't want a kid? What if she said she was on birth control? Why is it that he's a deadbeat dad because he didn't want a kid? Why is it that she would be classes as being a strong independent woman if she chose to abort while he wanted the kid? Why isn't she a deadbeat in that scenario?

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

I think people see it as their taxes having to be used to help her with her poor decision. I'm personally don't care, but I think psychologist have said that kids benefit a lot more with two parents.

[Prof_Don]

The first sentence is true for many people (including myself).

[lightbulb27]

I don't think they do, but I agree with below they may not be choosing a good mate much of the time so that may be why.

[SilenceMeansPatience]

Many think that single moms are some kind of failures who didn't think far enough, how ever they all have their own unique story.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Waddya mean? I always hear about how strong and independent these single mothers are.

[Prof_Don]

It's a bluff, almost no woman WANTS to choose to be a single mother. They would rather try to spin a negative into a positive. Can you blame them?

[DarkHumorRUs]

@Prof_Don yes.

[BertMacklinFBI]

people take it as a sign of irresponsibility

switch the roles, the result is reversed lol.