Although I wouldn't say that pessimistic, more like realistic.
You may be able to last a few decades but I think eventually you'd grow tired of eahother.
Also instinctively I don't believe we are 100% monogamous. More likely serial monogamous where its natural tondesire a new partner after the children have reached an age where they could fend for themselves. Supposedly thats a driver for the "10 year itch" people start to experience in marriagw.
I will say, while I'm a hopeless romantic and would like to feel the same way, another part of me is saying that after some time... things would probably end. I only say this because people change over time. in the span of just a few years you could be a completely different person.. what about a century? I don't know I would LIKE to think yes, but its just that one part that is saying.. nope..
Not in this lifetime. NOT even if we were immortal. First, I don't share and have NEVER shared my partners. Nor will I allow myself to be shared.
Let me be clear, I want a 'dom'. Don't get this confused with a man who does whatever he wants sexually, or a man who just liked rough sex, or the sterotypical one where a dominant (NOT a dom) has multiple subs.
I mean, a man who not only has physical, but mental/emotional control over me. Takes the time to condition me, my body, to react to everything he says and does.
It takes time to build that trust, that level of control, but the connection is intense. The 2 men who have taken time to build this with me, were 'dom'.
They'd send something as simple as "I'm turned on" or a keyword/phrase [[which I won't say, because I'm still conditioned to be aroused by hearing/seeing them]].
Allowing a man to have such a HUGE amount of control over me. It takes a SERIOUS amount of trust, and that takes time to build.
** Taking the time, energy, and the emotions to do all of that, why in the hell would I want more than one person? Why would my partner? I should meet all of their needs **
You're 23 and you had thousands of conflicts with your family alone. If this were your boyfriend we were talking about, by the time you'd reach a thousand, you would have had more than 50k conflicts.
so conflicts to u means break up? that's a recipe for a short relationship. unless it involves cheating, i'd work on it until one person gives up. and tht's not gonna b me 8 times out of 10.
I’d have to see when i got to those milestones. Either way it’d b monogamy cuz i’d eventually find someone new if the relationship didn’t work out.
I have no idea, to be honest. I'm a monogamous person myself but I think it would be naive of me to think I could be with the same woman for eternity. Anyhing could happen.
I don't have to anticipate failure to know that it is, statistically speaking, pretty much guaranteed to happen if I have practically infinite amounts of time.
Anything is possible, but in this scenario it just isn't practical. In my mind one of the best products of monogamy besides children, is building a bond with another person. It's amazing what two people can achieve when they have this connection and work together. That all goes out the window when time becomes infinite. Eternity gives you the opportunity to establish this bond with everyone on the planet, even the ones u wouldn't give the time of day. With an infinite amount of time why wouldn't you want to create new experiences. When people are lying on their death beds. They say I regret the things I didn't do. I don't understand how possibly everyone in the world would agree that variety is the spice. With almost anything but not people, people are the best and most interesting objects on the planet.
Call it a gut feeling? And statistics. There are so many people in the world and with infinite life we'll just keep on growing in numbers. It's only reasonable to assume that at least SOME of them would prefer monogamy.
Metaphyisical/spiritual concepts: I know twin flames is an angelic concept. Angels (and demons) in particular have a male and female aspect to their being (like Baphomet), they have a good twin/bad twin thing going on as it's part of their nature. It is said that an demon is only an angel in reverse. SO if they can live with their other flame for eternity than humans wouldn't be any different. Humans were said to be originally androgynous and then we were split apart.
The bible has many verses indicating this. Let us consider satan. Satan desired god's place and rebelled... and he was a only an angel, a son of God... he also took other angels with him. Now, think of all the other known "gods"... how much worse could things be if they existed?
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Yes I could. True love conquers all. Even the passage of time.
No. It's not possible NOW, it sure as hell wouldn't be possible if we were effectively immortal.
No. People get bored so they will become like vampires. Wild orgies?
I think it's really unlikely.
Although, the fact we would both stay young and attractive helps but still, being with the same person forever doesn't seem realistic.
Yea, hence why I asked. I don't want to come off as a pessimist but the "Oh I will most def luv 'im 4ever n ever" is just naive tbh
I agree.
Although I wouldn't say that pessimistic, more like realistic.
You may be able to last a few decades but I think eventually you'd grow tired of eahother.
Also instinctively I don't believe we are 100% monogamous. More likely serial monogamous where its natural tondesire a new partner after the children have reached an age where they could fend for themselves. Supposedly thats a driver for the "10 year itch" people start to experience in marriagw.
"more like realistic."
-Yes, exactly.
I think it's more likely to have eternal friends...
That may be. You don't have certain obligations to friends after all.
probably not. its pretty rare today. most people are polygamous now.
why stop at 30? why not just at 25?
Dunno. I was under the assumption that 30 is the peak.
oh ok. then thats ok.
nah people would overall a large amount of time span would get bored of each other in my view
Quite possible.
Yeah I think monogamy would be much more popular in that case
Yeah I would believe so
Could you?
Yeah sure
Even after a thousand years?
Monogamy isn't loving someone forever.
Monogamy is refusing to look elsewhere.
Yes. :]
You mean to say you could love the same person for centuries? Are you certain?
With the right person, absolutely. I don't share my partner and my partner does not share me.
If they want to, then they're not the person for me.
But you do realize we're talking about literal centuries of living together, not just years?
I do understand what "forever" means.
Why shouldn't we be able to remain monogamous? Same way some people are vegans and have *self-control* over their urges.
Undoubtedly, it's not for everyone. My answer remains the same.
Ok..
I will say, while I'm a hopeless romantic and would like to feel the same way, another part of me is saying that after some time... things would probably end. I only say this because people change over time. in the span of just a few years you could be a completely different person.. what about a century? I don't know I would LIKE to think yes, but its just that one part that is saying.. nope..
Do you know that human is the only specie who's trying to be monogamous? I think it's against nature.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2036579-would-you-want-to-be-in-a-polygamous-marriage-if-it-was-legal
To quote:
Not in this lifetime. NOT even if we were immortal.
First, I don't share and have NEVER shared my partners. Nor will I allow myself to be shared.
Let me be clear, I want a 'dom'. Don't get this confused with a man who does whatever he wants sexually, or a man who just liked rough sex, or the sterotypical one where a dominant (NOT a dom) has multiple subs.
I mean, a man who not only has physical, but mental/emotional control over me. Takes the time to condition me, my body, to react to everything he says and does.
It takes time to build that trust, that level of control, but the connection is intense. The 2 men who have taken time to build this with me, were 'dom'.
They'd send something as simple as "I'm turned on" or a keyword/phrase [[which I won't say, because I'm still conditioned to be aroused by hearing/seeing them]].
Allowing a man to have such a H
Allowing a man to have such a HUGE amount of control over me. It takes a SERIOUS amount of trust, and that takes time to build.
** Taking the time, energy, and the emotions to do all of that, why in the hell would I want more than one person? Why would my partner? I should meet all of their needs **
Ok... that was weird.
Should make sense if you read it all.
I did
i'd still try
But chamnces are you'd give up at some point, no?
maybe, maybe not. take one conflict at a time.
That would eventually become one conflict after a string of hundreds if not thousands of such conflicts.
so? I've had probably thousands of conflicts with my family and I still love them. as long as it's resolved it doesn't change the relationship.
You're 23 and you had thousands of conflicts with your family alone. If this were your boyfriend we were talking about, by the time you'd reach a thousand, you would have had more than 50k conflicts.
so conflicts to u means break up? that's a recipe for a short relationship. unless it involves cheating, i'd work on it until one person gives up. and tht's not gonna b me 8 times out of 10.
No, it doesn't mean breakup. My point is, that you're probably thinking it from the point of view of someone who has the average 80 year lifespan.
Are you 100% absolutely certain you could keep it up for 150 years? 300? 1000?
I’d have to see when i got to those milestones. Either way it’d b monogamy cuz i’d eventually find someone new if the relationship didn’t work out.
what would u do?
I have no idea, to be honest. I'm a monogamous person myself but I think it would be naive of me to think I could be with the same woman for eternity. Anyhing could happen.
I think the only way to know for sure that it *wouldn't* work out would b if either of us anticipate it not to. self fulfilling prophecy and all.
I don't have to anticipate failure to know that it is, statistically speaking, pretty much guaranteed to happen if I have practically infinite amounts of time.
statistics r bs in the subject of relationships. according to divorce rates, no one should get married.
They may be but given a thousand years, I don't think they can be bs.
Yeah, monogamy is always possible.
written with so much experience on your side.
@O3america it is possible, what's it to you
Anything is possible, but in this scenario it just isn't practical. In my mind one of the best products of monogamy besides children, is building a bond with another person. It's amazing what two people can achieve when they have this connection and work together. That all goes out the window when time becomes infinite. Eternity gives you the opportunity to establish this bond with everyone on the planet, even the ones u wouldn't give the time of day. With an infinite amount of time why wouldn't you want to create new experiences. When people are lying on their death beds. They say I regret the things I didn't do. I don't understand how possibly everyone in the world would agree that variety is the spice. With almost anything but not people, people are the best and most interesting objects on the planet.
@O3america nothing would be possible if life was infinite.
That makes no sense
@O3america yes, it does. Think about it
Of course, but it'd be less likely to happen.
But you still think it possible?
... Yeah, I think it could.
Why so?
Call it a gut feeling?
And statistics.
There are so many people in the world and with infinite life we'll just keep on growing in numbers.
It's only reasonable to assume that at least SOME of them would prefer monogamy.
That may be true. But I have the idea that even the most devout monagomists would eventually give up after a millennia or two.
Also a possibility...
It could be possible.
Like twin flames or soul mates.
Metaphyisical/spiritual concepts:
I know twin flames is an angelic concept. Angels (and demons) in particular have a male and female aspect to their being (like Baphomet), they have a good twin/bad twin thing going on as it's part of their nature. It is said that an demon is only an angel in reverse. SO if they can live with their other flame for eternity than humans wouldn't be any different.
Humans were said to be originally androgynous and then we were split apart.
Well I can not rely on any supernatural concepts in order to come to any conclusion.
I love when an argument is based on facts.
It's just an abstract concept. Calm your tits.
My tits are more than calm, they're real soul mates.
LMFAOOOOO. Dead. 😂😂😂
Forever is a long time to stay with one person.
What would you do?
Maybe split up every 100 years and start again with someone else.
Eventually you'd be doing it with people with quite the amounts of experience.
Monogamy isn't really possible now.
that is how god intended.
How do you know? What about the other deities?
The bible has many verses indicating this. Let us consider satan. Satan desired god's place and rebelled... and he was a only an angel, a son of God... he also took other angels with him. Now, think of all the other known "gods"... how much worse could things be if they existed?