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Taller? Stronger? Smarter? What do you men and women think? I personally think beating another in combat or in a fight makes you more superior no matter what.
What makes a man more "alpha" or dominant towards another man?
It's about rank, really--and that depends on setting. The way rank is established varies from one setting to another. In the bar scene, for example, it's all about physicality: here, one's body stats, like height, weight, build, ability to hold their own in a fistfight, etc. contribute to dominance more than, say, intellect or wit (cause no matter how clever you are or how much of a gift for gab you've got, if someone drunk off their ass is coming at you or your girl, it's all about how effectively you can dodge their punch and come back with your own).
Alternately, in a corporate setting, it's the total opposite: here, it's all about negotiation skills, charm, tact, wit, intellect, etc. Universally speaking, the quantity and quality of one's material possessions is a key factor in establishing dominance and, of course, it doesn't hurt to be tall, dark, and handsome BUT all of those can go out the door if the guy lacks one very important trait: confidence. He can be the richest, most good-looking guy ever, but if he's unsure of himself, he'll be a doormat for anyone looking to take advantage and eventually end up some sleazy woman's piggy bank.
So, in the end, it comes down to how confident you are in yourself and your abilities, and how well you can establish your rank in a particular setting using those abilities (or possessions or accomplishments or what have you).
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someone that doesn't feel the need to label himself. A man that calls my attention and stands out is the one that doesn't give a shit about society's opinion/standards and stays true to himself, someone that respects other people and doesn't try to put himself above, someone with goals, determination and passion, someone that is not scared to be different and is not scared to try new things, someone with a kind heart that is down to earth and takes the lead when the situation demands it. That's what I consider a real man.
711 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic. umm.. not looking at their t-level of muscle mass as indicative of their 'manliness'?
I mean.. manliness, if you're into that whole fiasco, is much closer to being a gentleman rather than a meathead. So to me, you're more respectful of a man if you're able to remain composed with a good sense of reason, even after the shit hits the fan, rather than resorting to primitive tactics like puffing out and the works.
Some people saying it's a useless title and all... Huh? Being the alpha male is part of the game. To get a girl worthwhile, you should know how to present yourself. That said, I usually think of an alpha male someone who stands out. And it's not that simple. Just being able to stand out as someone who takes care of their body. Eating healthy and proper excercise for the appearance. Plus, Hygeine is also something. Hygiene would be number one in my opinion as it is very important. Then there are the clothes you wear. Something nice that is well kept would do. Then there is your personality. Gotta be gentle with the ladies, but don't be afraid to be rough sometimes. They like it that way. Also, like other comments an alpha male would need to be a good leader. To be an alpha, you don't follow others... You make your own path to follow. And you are the one with followers. People want to be like you, not the other way around. This is my idea of what an alpha male would be like. I truly don't believe one would be the alpha male just for genetic reasons or anything such as being tall in height or whatever. Being tall does not make anyone more than another. It's all discipline and good manners. Also, I am only 15 so if this seems like total shit, it probably is. Haha. It's just what I find most important as it has helped me a lot in the past.
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u I think the answer depends on the context. If we are in the courthouse, I am the alpha male. If we are in the back alley after dark, I am not so much the alpha.
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4.3K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic. Don't concern yourself with trying to be dominant or alpha, that's when you'll autmatically disqualify yourself.
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To me it's being a leader more than anything. Having authority that people respect.
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Beating someone in a fight is a bit of a weird one. At a basic level, winning a fight is a display of dominance. However, if you were goaded into a fight - if you got into a fight you didn't absolutely have to be in because someone challenged you or called you a name or simply made you angry, then congratulations - you just became the other guy's bitch. Now, if you're forced into a situation in which you or people around you are in danger if you don't fight, then you end it quickly and go on with your life. In that situation, you're the "alpha".
There are other aspects as well. The dominant one does what is necessary, not what he's told. He does not ask permission. He does whatever he likes and gets away with it because others see the value in keeping him around. He is a gentleman to both women and men. He's educated and/or highly skilled at what he does. He has a commanding presence. He is a leader.
It's really more about how you handle yourself, and your ability to communicate with others. The "alpha" male actually doesn't exist and is more a form of fiction.
In fact, the person who popularized the term actually tried to take down his shoddy research on the matter once he found that the "alpha" wolves in his research were more like mothers and fathers.
Some people often look at chimps and state that the leader of the group is the most dominant and aggressive of the group, with first access to food, resources and mates. This is not always the case, its often been found that smaller mild mannered males can become dominant by performing favors and obsessively grooming other chimps.
Also, unlike some animal species like the chimps, human hierarchies are ALWAYS in flux. So, a dominant male in a nightclub won't necessarily be dominant in a game of Dungeons and Dragons. Unlike animals, humans aren't always the same sort of person in all social situations. We are much more complicated than that.
After all, it's been said that agreeableness, kindness and generosity are some of the best traits that form the most strongest and healthiest relationships.I think it does have to do with appearance, but more so in how he carries himself. I've seen some goofy looking motherfuckers in the Marine Corps carry themselves in a way that demands respect. I've also seen some GI Joe looking motherfuckers get weak in the knees over some petty shit under stress.
I think it has more to do with intelligence and effective communication skills. That sort of commanding presence that you've probably heard about in police work. When an alpha is in the room, you know he is because everyone sort of gravitates towards him and it creates this aura around him.
None the less, it has to do with leadership. That's the foundation of what an alpha actually is by definition.-
Yes but you can’t be a jerk asshole about it. If you can beat him with brains and avoid a fight that’s alpha. In this video, the two men are both alpha, and want the same thing, but have different approaches. The guy who rescues the dancer is clearly alpha here, but in another situation, the losing guy is prob a fake alpha a lot. And he’s prob a jerk asshole starting fights all the time. A real alpha man is confident and doesn’t need to show off.
https://youtu.be/8Od1AjkNNyM 2.5K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic. Combination of intelligence, ability, strength, confidence, deep voice and good looks.
I am not saying they need all of those traits, but they do need some and the more of those traits you possess, the more superior you are.
A lot of people try to deny the influence of appearance, but a short, scrawny, guy with an unnattractive face is unlikely to be perceived as alpha by anyone. Just by googling alpha male it is obvious that being attractive in a masculine way is one of the attributes associated with the term.
A lot of people dont mention this one, but I think a person's voice also impacts how they are perceived. A guy with a high pitched/flamboyant voice and a guy with a deep voice could say the exact same words, but the words spoken by the guy with the masculine voice would carry more weight and be taken more seriously.-
I'd have to agree with physical strength, endurance, battle of the fittest, dog eat dog kinda deal but I believe an alpha is one that leads, isn't afraid to be himself, stands up for what is right and what he believes in. Ultimately a man that takes responsibility for his actions, lives a respectable lifestyle, it's a man that is real rounded. I think several traits play a factor in being the ultimate superior alpha male. It's not just physical strength.
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Bigger, faster, tougher, stronger, smarter. Those are the basics, but even these are pointless if their emotions are similar to many females... unchecked, expressed to extremes, and at time illogical.
Brains over bronze as well... we're not the apex predators we are for the same reasons other predators have carved out their place in the animal kingdom... a bear would rip your shit apart even if you lift and are big as phuck. A smart guy can manipulate factors in their favor if he's wise enough to do it.
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The pecking order starts as soon as you meet someone. You shake their hand, look them in the eye, and both people know right then what the pecking order is (which may be neutrality). Taller or stronger may come into play, but only if the other person is intimidated by it. It's really about confidence, and how you feel about yourself.
Even though the pecking order is established right away, it can change over time. Over time, smarter may come into play, but I think it's less of a factor than other things. - Anonymous(25-29)
No, you are wrong. Being able to avoid conflict is smarter and more "alpha". Beat someone in a fight? Your card is marked, so expect some serious reprisals where YOU get beaten. Now that ain't a smart way of living!
Personally, I do not think there are any Alpha men. Just men who THINK they are. They do not impress this little bitch, so they go to the back of the queue as Omega men. I never really thought of an "alpha" as being dominant because of purely physical characteristics like height, strength, stature, and fighting ability, but more of a charisma. Someone who is intelligent, someone who commands respect just by being who they are, without using force or intimidation. I see him as someone who's incredibly confident, who knows who they are and what they stand for. Someone for others to look up to. I guess, the qualities of a leader.
It's their attitude. They are leaders. Other men want to be like them. When they talk people listen. When they walk into a room the whole atmosphere changes. They command respect without saying a thing. They aren't putting on a show and pretending to be something they aren't by wearing expensive clothing and puffing up their chests. They can walk in wearing shorts, a shirt and sandals and people will still take notice. They don't need to be taller than everyone else either. They are more 'alpha' toward other men because those men respect them. Not because they are beaten into submission.
Your right. If you can smack him about in a fight your calling the shots assuming he wants to be anywhere near you after. Violence, when you get right down to it, is the only dividing factor in this world. The only fools who can't see it are the ones who hid most of their lives and never took a stand. They hate violent men coz deep down they're jealous and bitter they can't be that way
Taller is the obvious one I'd say. Like... it's a clear visual indication of 'This is a better specimen'.
What I do to combat this (As I'm on 5'9, is I treat taller men like they are my little brother. Like... I'll put them first, and put my arm around them and stuff. This way (In a way) I can take a girls, anyone's mind off the height difference (Who happens to be around)
This works especially well when I'm at work. The guys girlfriends usually don't like it, as they want their boyfriend to seem like the dominant one haha.It's all about behavior in my book, but usually comes with certain physical character traits as well. Like a strong confident voice. A guy doesn't have to be dominating other people, just his environment. If he's always at ease in am environment and moves with purpose for what he wants in said environment without fear, then to me that's the alpha male.
You don't have to be a physical specimen to be an alpha male. But I would agree on some level with your fight comparison. The idea of who would win in a fight is part of male hierarchy. But the cool thing is alpha males aren't highlanders. There's no "There can only be one" scenario lolBeing willing and able to take charge of a situation and leading from the front. Risking life and limb to protect others, and setting a standard and being a shining example of moral honor, courage and commitment for the next generation to live up to and to surpass. We do not live our lives for only ourselves, but to honor those who have come before, and to encourage those who come after.
In the wild alpha males are determined in a fight. So in literal terms of you want to be a alpha male you would need to find a guy leading a group beat him in competition, steal his women and take over the group.
I don't think alpha males exist in human nature. The closest comparison would probably be combat sports. Since we are not wild animals we don't operate under the pretense of being alpha or not. We have more than one purpose, what makes me better than that guy? What makes that guy better than me? If I'm living my life the way I want to and chasing my dreams then there is no reason to compare myself with another guy because we do not have the same purpose in life.- 3.7K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
I don't, I think its attitude and behavior. You win a fight so what? What happens if at the first sign of difficulty you run away? Then your not really "alpha" are you? What happens when you have to take responsibility and you flee from it? Doesn't matter how much muscle you have your still "beta". Its attitude, ability to act in a masculine way i. e. confidence and a strength of will, the ability to be self aware and to be able to do what needs doing even when others can't muster the courage or will to do it.
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It's whoever monopolizes the females.
If we lived in the wild and still behaved like primitive animals, simply the physically strongest male would be the alpha male. Why? He could force any competing male into submission, and rape as many females by force as he pleased.
Since we live in a society that legally punishes rape, the most physically attractive male would be the alpha male. Why? Strength means nothing when you can't use it. The men who are most attractive are most capable of having consensual sex. They win no matter how many times they get beaten up.
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