Is this really worth it? High school senior dating college freshman?

[kipperlove3]

I'm about to make it official with this boy that a had a thing with last year but now I'm senior in high school and he's a freshman in college. He's not your typical guy and were supposed to hang out next weekend and that's when he's going to ask me out but this will be the first time since he's left well see each other. Is it worth it to start a relationship with him when we talk every few days on fb chat and he's in his first year of college and doesn't come home often?

[Wahoo]

personally, I don't think it's worth it - but only because of one reason - the potential and the probability of things ending because one or both of you meet someone else.

the fact of the matter is - when you go to college, you meet TONS of people. Every day - through classes, parties, bars, whatever - you're constantly meeting people and making friends. And, no matter how good of guy this guy is, chances are he will be tempted by at least a handful of the girls he meets. And, honestly, you can't blame him - when you're young and in college, that's the time to meet people, be with different kinds of people, and start figuring out what type of person you can or would want to spend the rest of your life with. It's the time to get out there and date (or...screw around...as the case may be!

I wouldn't take it personally or as a reflection of any true connection you might have. I'd just think of it as...you know...the reality is that you will be apart. And when you're apart and other people get in the mix - trust issues surface - things can get really ugly, and you can ruin any chance of a possible relationship in the future. If you end things now - and just say, ya know - the smart thing to do is just be friends. Then maybe, sometime down the road you can be more! But if you try to make it work - I'm telling you - from experience, chances are, it won't. Life just gets in the way.

I think when people are in situations like you are, you have to consider reality first and foremost. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be the right time for you two to have a relationship - maybe sometime in the future, though...when you're in the same place and can spend more time together, you might develop soemthing.

good luck - whatever you decide!

And for what it's worth, I do know people who made the high school / college relationship work. It wasn't easy and they were in the VAST minority of those who tried...but sometimes it works!