For me, I'm not so obsessed with likes, and I prefer comments, especially when I'm trying to get feedback on my business, but I am mildly concerned that my "fan base" is really low, and it took me YEARS to get there. It's a small sign to me that something with my marketing is not working.
No shares also means that my information is NOT getting out there. Symptom of a larger issue. However, I'm not OBSESSED with it, but it can be frustrating from a business and marketing standpoint if nothing happens. If I was a blogger, or trying to get that sort of business up and running (or some kind of model), I suppose it would matter a little more to me in the long run.
Personally, I don't REALLY care about the personal profile that much. I try to keep the negative drama off Facebook, and not contribute to it if I can help it.
For my business profile, I'd rather have 50 hardcore clients (fans) than have 5000 so called "fans" who never bother, never interact and never help.
It's mainly people who want attention or who validate themselves via others. Basically what the internet calls "attention whores".
Also, I've never cared about how others like my posts, I always post things for myself or to simply share with others so they can enjoy it too (or get feedback depending on what it is), the closest to that would be that I am disappointed that people pay more attention to my profile picture than to those other things, because it shows how shallow people are, only caring about appearance rather than capabilities or achievements
Science says we get endorphins when we get a like or comment. That's that chemical in your brain that makes you feel happy. It's like your brain praising you for doing something good. That's why people get addicted to it. They just want more endorphins.
Please elaborate on the statement "obsessed with likes and comments in social media." In what way? The amount of likes? Or what is being liked? So that I can better answer your question.
The amount of likes
Oh, I can't relate to that, because I don't, although I'd be surprised if I get what it seems like the "most" likes, but I don't bother how many likes I get, but _who_ likes it.
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Because as humans, we like attention and approval from other people. We want positive reinforcement and we want to be told that we are desirable, sufficient, and attractive in some way shape or form. I think it’s quite natural to want this and is biological/psychological caused, though, like anything else this can have extremes to where it is now damaging overall and unhealthy.
Humans are social creatures. By-and-large we seek the validation of our peers and members of our social group.
Social media has been an interesting advent but humans still act as humans.
Studies have shown that as little as the notification sound can cause a spike in your dopamine levels. We're literally addicted to the feedback.
u Don't include me in your "we."
Exactly. Don't include me either. It's only weak little child-like individuals that care about social media.
I know one point in y'all lives u guys were little “child-like” individuals who wanted to feel like they were something not just involving social media
So yes “we”
I do remember being 18 years old. There was no social media in 1973.
But I do remember thinking that I, too, was exceedingly bright and perceptive about other people at that age. I now know better.
Exactly that’s my point in this whole topic
Your point is that we are all obsessed with being liked in social media. You are wrong.
Nope my point is there’s a point in our lives where we were obsessed with being liked in general so I’m right🤷🏽♀️🤦🏾♀️
You said "social media". You're now backtracking.
I said “not just social media” reread
Apparently, you forgot the question that YOU asked: "Why are we so obsessed with likes and comments in social media?" SOCIAL MEDIA.
Yeah I could care less
You ask a question, you get responses, and then you change the question so that you can then say that someone else was wrong. That is being a very small person and I have no more time for you. Good bye!
I have a feeling older and wiser is handsome
That's awfully defensive
The "we" is just a generalization.
The "we" in her question refers to humanity. Unless you live under a rock or a solitary life in the desert you too my dear are included in this "we". Deny all you want but it's a pill you'll just have to swallow. Everyone has been effected by the concept of chasing likes and approval in social media. Even GAG users. Okay sure maybe not older people who were not exposed to Instagram and Facebook. But nonetheless even older people had this problem back in their day just in a different way.
@anon girl bye. thats you and your insecurities not us. seek help
Southern girl you're the one being insecure about this. She's being realistic and you can't handle the truth. We are all a little hungry for attention to some degree otherwise we wouldn't be on social media
@pen ugh no its u. dont include me in your mess. bye
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I feel that some people just care because the attention they get makes them feel good like they matter in this world wothout really realising that it dont mean shit because what matters the most is family, real friendships, love, keeping a roof over our head and in general just living our life thats what matters not how many comments saying ohh your hot or beautiful and how likes you got on a picture yeah its feels good momentarily but in the end you just forget that you had 100 likes on a photo in space of an hour if you have people you love and care about around you soo i honestly feel that caring too much on how many likes you get or comments amd stuff is pointless and if anything its only going to make people see you as a attention seeker soo hemce why personaly i dont care if i only get 1 like or if i get 100000 likes it means nothing when your in the real world only thing that i actually care about on social media is talking to my friends and trying to make my youtube channel sucessfull because i have a passion for music thats what matters for me on social media but in the real world its the people around me that matter.
Considering the only social media i have that has any picture of me is linked in i would say "we" doesn't apply to me as an anti social millennial lol, but i will give it a go. I will answer this assuming you mean many gen z people in the US are who you mean by "we". I think it is the fact that many kids in your generation dont remember without life high speed internet, netflix, social media, and youtube. When i was a senior in HS in 2012 being liked by your neighborhood was a good feeling. Facebook was the ideal social media and it didn't reach out of your small town/city like modern social media does. Twitter was coming up, but not everyone jumped on that yet so it was less relevant. This leads me to instagram which give one the ability to post a stupid dance or challenge that may go viral. This viral video culture makes many users of instagram/youtube seek out the next video that blows up. Blowing up on youtube is the equivalent of dating the star QB/hottest cheerleader in HS for my generation. Your generstions has a very global view.
" at some point in your life u wanted to please your friends etc some point in your life you felt like u needed approval from other people"
Socialisation is a natural human instinct, as well as getting ahead in the social hierarchy. That has NOTHING to do with social media.
I don't care about social media in the slightest, I am interested in learning and talking with people. Getting the approval of people I barely know doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. Don't pull me into your own obsession.
To be completely honest, although I don't like to consider myself part of the "herd", I do get a certain high when people like my posts whether they're pictures or comments. It shows people like a particular quality in that particular post, whether it's because it's humorous, attractive, wise/intelligent, etc. Humans have narcisstic tendencies and crave this attention whether we deny it or not. There may be people who say they don't look for validation, but even subconsciously, they do. Just being on this site posting a comment is proof enough.
Every human being wants approval from other humans. This is a little bit different than "like culture".
I only want to be liked by very few people so I guess thats why I care less about likes? I also half despise almost everyone? But think about it when someone rags on someone else they judge them but the amount of followers, friends, likes they have. "thats why you have 30 followers" and in some cases in may be accurate the person may be unhinged, or antisocial, or volatile. but treating your online presence as the only thing tangible about your self worth is a tricky thing. I don't know where I was going with this but once I started typing there I went!
I can't say that I am obsessed with people liking me. I do what I like and what has pretty much made me an outcast with the general public in my little town. But I make my self happy by doing what I like. When I ask questions on this site. I am trying to find out if anyone else likes what I do or if they would ever try the things I do or what they think of something. If everyone hates what I asked about it don't sway me to not get that pair of shoes or do this certain thing. This pic above mixed with your question makes me think that this person has all of this stuff because everyone else likes it. I don't know if she likes it or not. But the hand passing down the heart I look at it as a treat for her for conforming to what the majority of what other people like. I don't know I could be wrong.
I am not... but I share things or write something that I find interesting. Don't really bother if anyone looks at it or not.
ButbI would say lot of them are obsessed with acknowledgement, people wants to connect with other of similar mindset, and may a lot among them just wants to stand out as a celebrity with likes.
Because a lot of people (girls) rely on external validation in order to feel good about themselves. The racier their pictures, the more likes and comments they get, the better they feel about themselves, the more likely they are to post similar pictures. It becomes a positive feedback cycle and they get addicted and dependent on it, like a drug. If you take away their validation then they go into withdrawal (depression in the extreme case). It's tantamount to no one paying attention to you; like they don't see you, they ignore you, and you're invisible to everyone. No one gives a shit about you. It's not a good feeling even out in the real world. So all the likes and comments are a way of people saying that they give a shit about you (truthfully, they don't, but perception is everything).
Because this is the age of social media, performance, and instant gratification. Through social media everyone can perform their life and share 24/7 with a click of a button. Subscribers, followers, and likes are instant gratification to someone and it's a reward system that gets people addicted despite doing nothing more than usual. Re-posting and re-tweeting gives people gratification from other people's original content which is a whole other can of worms. But can living through a computer really be living?
Not me, I barely have any friends, I have about 28 followers on Instagram and maybe double or triple on Facebook, don't get any more than about 2-5 likes per post and usually no likes or comments. Don't know most of them in real life anymore though, so no real use.
Those individuals I guess want to be praised upon in any way, and recognized from the audience. Proverbs 16:24 "Kind words are like honey—
sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." (Or I guess compliments for example📱💬)
I'm not saying that it's good on what these indiviuals do on social media, but just mentioning how even this bible verse explains it.
You do realize that social media was designed with the help of psychologists to exploit positive feedback loops in the human psyche through the mechanics you're describing? So basically... It's because the systems are working as designed...
We become addicted to it. When we get a like or a positive comment, the brain gives us a little dopamine. It's a reward cycle. The more you get, the more you want.
Catriona Harvey-Jenner wrote and article on it named: "The Psychology of a Like: how social media is really affecting your brain"
I don’t, though I do get amused when someone with 3000 friends plus manages to muster up only 100 likes, does that mean the other 2900 don’t like them? It’s odd to me and a bit sad, when they get old they’ll realise what a waste of fucking time it all was, opportunities missed just so they could take thousands of selfies to post the right one.
Count on me being just the opposite. Dont care if anyone likes what i say. I guess if noone at all liked my stuff i would just pack it up , but so gir I've learned a lot being on here at G@G and if anything i have answered has helo one person im honored
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... I don't actually have enough sarcasm in my whole body (or enough meanness, really) to properly reply to this 😂😂
I am not bothered by Social media anymore. I got hacked on Facebook now. I used to when I was in high school but I did stop it. One girl did threaten me just because I liked a guy that I was in a relationship. I don't give a shit about social media anymore. Met my current boyfriend on Facebook.
Simple
Do not use the social media for one week.
If you get depressed then yes u r addicted to it.
If you can get throught it normally like normally... then nope... so
U choose
Gratification. We love to hear we're nice, awesome and cool to be around. That we are sexual and romantically desired, that we're in with what's hip. Doing that only leads you to do what others are doing rather then doing things for yourself and doing what you want. In short, hearing or seeing that others like or approve of us is extremely gratifying and apparently enough so that we'll change our very self to get that gratification.
I can't relate to this nonsense. I don't have social media and I hate to receive attention in general. I look down on people who are literally turning into sluts for likes.
People of nowadays are immature, that's why. It takes maturity to realize your self worth and to have self respect.
I see nothing wrong with finding pleasure with posting pictures of yourself on social media. Everyone likes to be considered pretty. Of course I take into consideration my followers count. I don't expect hundreds of likes if I have 100 followers. I don't post daily, maybe 1-2x a month, though a while back i didn't post for months. If you're not obsessed with it it's fine.
It's a vicious cycle of dysfunction. Because of social media people are more disconnected socially. So they have self-destructive notions of what relationships are supposed to be, i. e. likes and comments. It's easier to get away from than you think. Real conversations, handshakes and hugs are so much more meaningful and fulfilling in every possible way. Once you start to break the cycle, you'll never look back, and you'll never miss all that phony attention from antisocial media.
It's this what we are looking for. Who doesn't like to be liked by others. Social media opens you to the world and and when strangers like your posts or pictures it gives you more happiness then being liked by people whom you already know. Our brain plays with us all the time we use social media... lol
people like attention. I could go on about it, but it would only detract from the main point: people like attention.
Yes there's a whole self approval thing to get from someone else, but there is also the digital drug aspect. Through studies it's been shown that certain people addicted to social media or things alike where you receive likes and whatever else, it triggers a chemical reaction that is supposedly than nicotine to want to have more of these likes that act like pleasure.
Its like a drug we associate getting likes with people enjoying us and due to the dopamine release we want more and more approval (or likes).
Insecurities. Many not only females crave validation and it feeds the dopamine and keeps it on the go consistently. In the generation of social media a few likes will either make someone feel less or superior than others.
Because we live in a disposable world of instant gratification. No one believes in fixing anything. We just throw it away and get a new one. And no one wants to wait for the payoff. They want it right now. This will be the downfall of our society.
Most of us are social creatures. Few of us know our true value and use likes and comments as a measurement.
To feel a part of something, or relevant is important to most.
Cause in your generation, that's what you grew up with.
Ask someone from the 80'-90's they honestly dont give 2 shits. Ofc there'll always be some exceptions, but that comes from insecurities.
Everybody likes attention. Whether negative or positive. We all wanna be recognized and feel important
It's the modern equivalent of bumper stickers. People trying to make a statement without actually saying anything.
Selfies: we like to know we looking good 😭😂
Other stuff I can’t think of: ego, setting an example, wanting to be looked up to or something etc
It's mostly women and douchebag men that are obsessed with social media. Proper, strong willed, hard working people don't care about "likes" and uploading selfies every second.
I disagree all of us humans have feelings and wants to feel the need of feeling appreciated whether its by social media or just being hard working 🤷🏽♀️ there’s hardworking celebrities mwho made it to the top but still feel the need to prove it to everyone and look at the amount of likes or followers they may have
I only care about being appreciated by my family. What other people think doesn't phase me the least.
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Speak for yourself in experience, I don't need that however for people that do I think we're an ego driven Society a me driven Society to the very basic and we just crave attention now I know I crave attention but likes dislikes I could give a fuck about likes and dislikes on Facebook on social media.
Aye but that chicken though! Drop a like if you see it. 😂🤣
No one ever loved these women. No one ever has ever given them the attention they needed as a child so now they validate everyone’s opinions about them to make themselves feel good.
I'm honestly not. I use this more than any other social media. I used to get upset at downvotes, but don't any more.
It’s a validation thing. The more likes means the more people like the way you look. But then again, I only like pictures I’d were really close friends or I actually like the picture. I do get upset if the guy in into doesn’t like my picture though.
look up what a "skinner box" is
social media, cell phone apps, other small attention grabs are based off it. you're literally a slave by your own choosing
To he honest, the reason why I'm obsessed with likes is because I post my art online and I want to show it to as many people as possible. So yes, getting many likes makes me feel that all the effort I put into my work was worth it.
I suppose be it on social media or real life it comes down to popularity contest the more likes and love you get, the amount of friends and followers you have, the comments and messages you get the higher up the food chain you go.
I think it is because from the time we are born we seek approval. We want to do good for our parents. Then our friends but then turn to social media.
It makes some people feel special and give some meaning to their life
Don’t include me into this! But it’s because everyone wants to be “ important “ or remembered”
I think it’s because it’s something to do when there’s nothing to do
A girlfriend told me she used to snap all the time so she wouldn't have to think about the break up of her ex and she needed attention and feeling wanted. Social media is an outlet for that.
Dude these girls make at least $5000 to $15000 a post. I would so do it as well for that money
Good thing im not into this thing. I feel bad for those that are obsessed with it but then again, can't save everyone.
I think it’s because we want to feel valued. 1 like = respect kind of thing.
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When we receive a like, text or comment.
Dopamine is released, which makes us feel good, thus the body quickly associates social media comments to that release, making it a craving
People are needy for approval. Some more than others but I have to admit I am also to some degree. Call it insecurity
What the heck is this pose supposed to be?
Because people need to feel loved. It's a basic human necessity. Social media however is a breeding ground for social disease and mental health disorders.
Recognition
Validation
Reassurance
When you lack it in your everyday life... You look for it elsewhere... Social media..
same When you aren’t getting enough of it..
not everyone is. thank you! by the way like if you agree..
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