Should women wait until they’ve married and had kids before pursuing their career? (Page 2)

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So before you lash out at me for this question, read the tweet. This guy said women should have kids and get married young because by the time we’re 30, 90% of our eggs are dead. He thinks we should start a career after having started a family. What’s your opinion?

Randomawkwardness · Answer

Children do NOT equal happiness. Having another mouth to feed, whether it's your own offspring or not, does not pay for itself. Raising a child is something you do after you've established a career and income.

GreatnessBack · Answer

90% of 50,000 is still more babies than you can make in your life time.
Also, people can have children later than a couple decades ago.
My wife had both our kids in her 30s and they are the strongest kids in terms of health, etc.
She is also job confidence, meaning she can get a job easily. I've seen it.
This guy is making up shit so he can bang young chicks.

weasley8 · Answer

Everyone should do whatever suits them best. Everyone's situation and preferences are different. Who are we to judge, assuming that they aren't hurting anyone?

Dinklex3 · Answer

I think people should do whatever works for them.
I think it's best to be financial stable before having kids
& Going to school fulltime and having kids can be challenging.
So. I'm 26. No kids or hubby. I'm working on myself and living life.

PondyPand · Answer

Women should do whatever they feel they want to do. I know I'd much rather have my secure job with stable income before bringing kids into the picture, but shit happens so now I have a child due October and I'm not financially totally stable. 🤷‍♀️

AmeerX · Answer

Actually for both man and women family should come first.
Seen couples unhappy in life because of career problens. Also when you think you should earn to get married you delay and your struggles which could have been reduced by forming a family increase.
Not saying a tramp should get married but riches should be independent of marriage

nixon1509 · Answer

I think when people choose a mate and inevitably decide to have children they should commit to the idea 100%. For a mother that leaves no time for a career. Too many people make the decision to have children only to put them in daycare to be raised by other people. It seems people like the idea of having children just not enough to sacrifice themselves or the crap they buy with the pittance they receive from lousy soul crushing "careers".

Joker8 · Answer

No, trying to have a successful career while being a housewife and having multiple children will come with severe consequences like neglecting your children or husband and house chores and relationships may weaken due to lack of communication... it's really hard so in my opinion women should take their careers very seriously before marriage and take it easy after marriage

goaded · Answer

It's not my place to tell anyone what to do with their lives. However, clearly the tweeter has never raised children; it's not a five year thing, unless he's suggesting that women work into their seventies or eighties...

huuuuuuuuuuhok · Answer

My mom had me when she was around 30+. Plus, having a career or a stable source of good income before having a kid is smarter to do. It ensures a future where your kids won't starve nor will the parent/s. That's me tho...

janna_jcb · Answer

Research has actually shown that couples of an older (still fertile) woman and a younger man (in his twenties) have the healthiest babies. So I don’t think you should have children as young as possible, just wait till the right moment for you.

Dongtai · Answer

Can you be dedicated to both your career and parenthood?

Women have babies in their 30s all of the time. 20-30 is just the typical prime age but it’s not impossible to have kids in your 30s. It’s just MIGHT be harder.

Passinggas · Answer

I think women should pursue their careers first and not bother with the kids or family. Why make more slaves?

Ellie-V · Answer

He is advocating for younger people, men and women, to get married and have children... He is advocating for children to have children. Umm... no 😂

KTsnugglez · Answer

Men! By thirty 90% of your hair is gone! Throw away your future and get married NOW while you stay have hair and can look sexy! Mother nature just wants you to be happy men!

jaqq101 · Answer

Obviously the woman needs to be able to afford to take care of a child and therefore she needs a job/career. A woman needs to be able to take care of herself period before even thinking about having a baby. And even for married couples, what happens when you get a divorce and then it's just you and no one to help you, you're going to need a job.

WodensVolk · Answer

I don't think women should be focusing on a career at all, that's the burden that us blokes take in order to provide for the women and children, if a woman has a career then she cannot focus her time on her husband and family and instead is devoted to aquiring matter.

ChronicThinker · Answer

There's no particular reason to. Realistically, by having an established career in place you are more likely to be able to provide for any potential children.

Poppykate · Answer

NO WAY! When I was younger, men didn’t want to be tied down, and wouldn’t even consider marriage or children before 30. Focus on your career. It will give you financial stability!

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Ladies, I think should do what they feel they want to do. Educate yourself and understand the choice you want to make... don't let some guy tell you what you should do. That's a fundamental problem with men

AmourHoney · Answer

No. My career comes first. I don’t want kids until later on and I don’t want to be married any time soon. I’d feel like I’m being held back.

ThatDude29 · Answer

To the women i've spoken about it too, some regret their decisions and others don't. I think people should just make the choices they want.

dragoblack · Answer

That comment is factually untrue. Women can get pregnant at 40 if they want to, the problem is as they grow up you can't interact with them as much because your body has started to degrade and it will be harder on your body

Glue-Sniffer · Answer

Why would I care what some random guy on Twitter says?

Pinay_ako · Answer

Why not pursue them altogether before 30? Why wait when you can do it all while you can?

Ayer93 · Answer

I don't disagree with him, but I do think it's tough to raise kids without a stable source of income, so I'm 50/50 on the matter. Try to finish school early and have kids after.

kitty71 · Answer

Im not married and I dotn ahve kids and im mid 40 and I dont tend to have babies at al not my goals for the past 10 years anyway. Im still single also. l

PinkCherryBlossom · Answer

I don’t care what he has to say. He’s a well known racist.

AcidT0y · Answer

By the time you're 30 90% of your career prospects are dead too

Massageman · Answer

My daughter did it the other way around - got her degree, became self-sufficient, THEN got married and had kids. But another way may work for others.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

I think women should do what they want regarding this.

AtramentalIvory · Answer

Nope. Not all women want kids, not all women want to pursue career. Some want both, some want neither. It's different for everyone.

Vallius86 · Answer

There is no blanket answer. Freedom is the only answer. Freedom to do what feels right at the time. I don't think it's right for men to dominate the women who don't want to be dominated.

sp33d · Answer

If they want to have kids, that would make sense. Careers aren't all the same, either, depends heavily on what someone does to either be raising a family or pay the caretakers.

bladedshard · Answer

Id say start your career first. You should have money and be able to take care of yourself. You also might not have a s. o, you may find them in your career.

mariaboulos · Answer

No, women should achieve their dreams and ambitions then get children

Sabretooth · Answer

hell no. they should built of on a career before anything to create better stablity-kids cost a lot. besides, life has a way of slapping you in the face when you're unprepaired. i personally believe girls get off way too easy during their upbringing.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

I think I should block you for asking such a dumb question, with such dumb reasoning, from a dumb guy

LuWe22 · Answer

How should you provide for Kids without a career, boys? Newsflash in todays economy is it best when both partner work to insure a good, fullfilling, debtfree life.

VascoDeGemada · Answer

Do what makes you happy and cames natural when reading, fuck all the rest, this shouldn't be rushed just for biology sake if your that worried frozen some eggys

femmeanonym · Answer

I see it as, I would never want to being a child or children into this world without being financially stable, even independently (you never know what can happen).

PrinceOfAljazeera · Answer

Yes, women should have kids and get married before starting a career besides once women hit 30 her prime is over, so its better she has kids b4 shit the age of 30.

Jansetta · Answer

Hell No, women should have a career before planning for a family.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

They should do what they feel like doing. The avarage woman is at her peak fertility between 25 and 30, so if that's important to them, then sure.

Cuppo_Mode · Answer

If they don't get married then the child is a bastard, I'm a bastard so yeah, wanna be like me?

CosmicMind78 · Answer

It should be illegal for women to have jobs, Immigration should be illegal, all nonwhites should be sterilized and deported, and working and middle class families should be exempt from taxation.

CapnHawk · Answer

I think 90% of that guy's brain cells are dead.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

American singer Janet Jackson had her first child at the age of 51.

kikissss · Answer

Do it at the same time like I did. And I am independent because I have my career.

Sha84 · Answer

typically male chauvinistic attitude, women should make individual choice same as guys

Maggsxo · Answer

First of all, that man has no right to tell when a women should have a baby. Statics my ass, Zzzz

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

They should do what there heart desires wha do you want to do and do you have any kids

Twenty2 · Answer

It's true that the quality of women's egg deplete soon and fast so yeah! I agree with him.

andy1124 · Answer

It's up to the individual person to make the choice

goldfish0519 · Answer

I mean he does make a good point but I'm not saying it's realistic or I agree with it.

Agape93 · Answer

Lmao he’s so wrong xD  But no way not at all

Allie0001 · Answer

We can do both with proper planning.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Why would I do that my career has just begun.

CoffeeWC · Answer

I agree with him

God-vs-Satan · Answer

Women should stay at home and not pursue careers.

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