I have never been accused of sexual harassment. Neither have my current boyfriend, my first serious boyfriend or any of my close friends of either gender. One or two of my exes have (not by me), but that’s one reason they’re exes.
I REALLY wanna mention someone, but I don’t want to embarrass her, so I just hope she reads this. Where there’s smoke there’s often fire...
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I went out of town on a work trip and worked with a girl from a different branch. She got flirty and we ended up having a mutual conversation about sex and what we liked in detail. She went on and on about blk men (her boyfriend wasn't blk). Her boyfriend somehow found out and told her it was sexual harassment (the "version" she told him) and that she should report me. Even though it was initiated by her. When I got back to work, I was blindsided and confused as hell. She was trying to save here relationship with me as collateral damage. She eventually dropped the allegations because she knew it was mutual though. I got lucky. I thought it went away. This happen 13 years ago and has cost me a law enforcement career today. It really sucks. Be careful guys especially today with these movements. It can be mutual at that moment, but after the act is complete, and she decides that "hmmm... I dont like the outcome and so maybe it wasn't mutual"... All you can do is pray. Make decisions based on her character. I should've shut her down when I found out she had a boyfriend. Young and dumb lol. If she'd betray him, she'll probably betray "me too". Pun intended lol.
Just few notable incidents that were important crazy enough for me to remember,
Context: I am short and mostly ugly dude. From india.
1. I was walking down the street. Watching newly launched ballon which was to advertise some important event. As were others. Me and some other girl bumped into each other. And she basically lashed out and called me all sorts of name.
2. This would probably sound cliche. We were in crowded bus. And sudden breaking launched me forward. On one obviously way older lady. Maybe in her forties. She first lashed out on me and then started cursing driver for breaking hard.
3. Similar situation in an elevator. When elevator was out of power unexpectedly. Fail operational moves them to next floor and opens the door. But during that 5-10 seconds, girl was hysterical. Still to this day I have no idea why.
I mentioned context, because I can understand that it might be due to high number of crimes against females in india. And maybe uncomfortable feeling girls might get around me.
However, this did contribute to how seldom I approach women. It become non existant. Now I moved to another country where girls are not, for the lack of better word, as uptight as India. I have not spoken to girls here much, but whenever I did, they were very friendly and welcoming. But sub-conciously I still have that uneasiness. As a result, I probably come off as obnoxious and rude. Combine that with short and ugly, result is almost laughable.
I am working on chaning my attitude. I hope I do.I am strictly non-tactile , I never touch anyone and respect personal space... unlike a lot of people , and don't even glance at stranger women. I know women are sick of male attention , why would I want to piss off a random woman , and I am never seeking a partner anyway.
no... i did have a friend that 25 years ago signed an office birthday card with, 'have a great day sugar tits' and he got a real bollicking off hr but it never happened to me personally
I have not been accused but i have a strong fear of it. The thought of touching a girl on the shoulder to get her attention in a bar is frightening to me. I'd just wait for an "excuse me but what do you think you are doing? Why did you touch me?" Or even just the idea of approaching a girl without her approaching me. We talk about it whimsically that guys should take the approach but in all honestly it's much more safer for a girl to approach a guy than a guy approach a girl
My ex accused me of sexual harassment and stalking her because I reported her to social services for battering our child, because I asked social services to check out the guy she was cheating with after I found out she had our child in his house while she was cheating. Also because I asked her in front of her parents if she was seeing that guy and that I'd like her to keep him away from our child laying out the man's past to them and able to tell them that she's been spotted their a few times by loads of people.
Not me, I rarely even talk to girls I don't know on the street, who would want their day interrupted because a random guy likes your tits? Because there's not much more to go on without knowing eachother already.
On the other hand, when I went out more, I have had to punch a few gay guys that were harrasing me and wouldn't stop after multiple warnings. It only takes one good punch, but that's enough to ruin the mood.i did, when i was younger and in school i got slapped with lotion on the back of the neck for one of those slap cam trend bullshits so i got pissed at the bitch and pushed her hard af in the hallway and she told the principle i sexually assaulted her until they checked the cameras, i still got suspended tho
I have been falsely accused 3 times by a total of 5 women. One of those times was the same person making up a different story.
Luckily there were always plenty of witnesses and two of the times there were cameras present too.
I also know of a former co worker that was falsely accused before too. Cameras helped him as well.
Hooray for cameras. :)
How it affected me is to make sure there are witnesses around, especially when dealing with female co workers.i dont know but i looked at a few girls when i was out in public before... im sure they thought i sexually harrased them in their mind
Yes. I looked at a woman and she did not like it. Had to go see HR.
Another time I discussed Hooters with some guys at work and a female coworker overheard and filed a complaint with HR and I got a final written warning. So yes.I have not been, but I have a fear of it. American actor Merlin Santana was murdered in 2002 after a 15 year old falsely accused of being sexually inappropriate towards her.
It's just a well-used page in the right-wing playbook.
Funny how many haters of women are also the insecure gentle babies who are bigotsAt my work someone did not liked manner I talked to other coworker female and decided to be offended by it.
It had nothing to do with her, she just stood in crowd of people and listen what other people talk. I didn't even known who she is.You don't have a very valid sample size on this website.
Twice by my female friends
These days I dont have female friends. Best decision I ever madeNever been accused, falsely or otherwise.
Not me. 😎
I have never been falsely not truly accused of it.
I haven't but a good friend of mine did
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