Your thoughts on the tragedy of Hana Kimura of Terrace House, Tokyo?

[AmandaYVR]

So I live in Canada and recently discovered the Japanese reality show Terrace House and became enthralled. This is not your average reality show (See reviews below)

What it brings to light that many can relate to is the pressure of a life spent on social media and the impact of feedback and criticism that ensues. These are precarious times for many. And I worry about the emotional stability and resolve of some. Add to this the economic worldwide devastation of covid-19, and we may have an environment that is simply too much to bear for some.

So please be gentle with one another. You are not ultimately responsible for others, we all have free will, but your actions do matter, and you could be more integral than you know or realize.

Here, Kai is not to blame for Hana's end, she clearly had underlying issues and much pain, and he did the only thing he felt he could - apologize and absorb her anger. What more was there to say?

"In a reality TV landscape cluttered by fame-hungry pseudo-human caricatures Terrace stands alone, simply letting actual humans be delightfully heartbreakingly human."
J. McElroy, Polygon

A. Ridker, New York Times Magazine, described the show as staggeringly banal yet capable of genuine literary excellence.

In The Guardian's "Terrace House: must-watch Japanese reality show in which nothing happens" Aroesti attributed its success to the comforting viewing experience, meditative in nature. An example of truth being more compelling than fiction, "For everybody who has been consistently disappointed with the gulf between the principles of reality TV and the actual reality, Terrace might be the genre’s saving grace."

Yvette Tan, BBC News suggests its success is due to its mutedness "Quiet and calm on the eyes. It's soothing colours, the people are nice and speak in muted tones" contrasting against other "neon" reality TV, which shouts for attention with bright colours and loud contestants, is part of Terrace's appeal as a reality TV antidote.

[Lynx122]

I think she must've had a lot of issues already because this was no reason to flip out like that. And he was very understanding and apologetic towards her but she didn't care. I live in a house with others and there's constantly small conflicts going on but you have to understand that you won't get everything your way and that it's nothing personal when someone does something that inconveniences you. Since I'm autistic I can understand the best how easy it is to forget about something that might annoy someone else. And at the same time it's also important to still contribute to a friendly climate and build a sense of community.

Direct communication and saying when something bothers you is also important but do it without the anger it's better when everybody is cool. We have some troubles as well since the three of us are very free spirited and not the most organised but the guy who rents us the place is more strict and lives his life in a certain way and doesn't want things to change etc. He's only 28 but sometimes he feels like a guy after retirement.

I feel like this group definitely needs to spend some fun times together cause everything is so serious and tense in there and they're fighting over minor stuff. If you can't enjoy living together you shouldn't do it at all.

[AmandaYVR]

Well said, Lynx.

[cheesesteak7]

Not familiar w/ the show or the wrestler. But it is sad. It's disappointing how mean people can be online.

[Agape93]

I’ve seen her fights... poor girl. Too young

[AmandaYVR]

Absolutely. Such a shame, such a waste.

Interesting, curious, how all that on-stage physical strength does not translate to internal, hey?

[Agape93]

Probably being self conscious due to her muscles and masculine profession, or maybe due to insecurities already inherent before she fought.

[DanOh2018]

Just wait until the stock market bubble pops and mass currency devaluation follows. People are in for a tough time myself included.

[AmandaYVR]

Yes, we are in for major devastation. I'm very worried. The pot's about the boil over.

[DanOh2018]

Good time to buy on credit. Will be fun paying it all back with monopoly money.

[Jjpayne]

It's sad but hopefully a Phoenix will rise out of this tragedy

[OpenNudist]

I truly apologize, I don't know what you are talking about.

[AmandaYVR]

Aww, sweet of you to apologize, but no need to. I didn't/don't expect a lot of people to read this, as most won't be familiar with the show, but my point is to try and expand on this topic a little, as it is really about social media and how caught up in their image and reputation, that they can become so distraught.

As long as humans have been alive there has been and always will be 'bullying', pressure, judgement, critique. These are not new. But I suppose having so many thousands (sometimes even millions) of strangers online, coming at a person, as a full force onslaught, sometimes attack... well it is just too much. Especially for young minds, who are still developing, and trying to find themselves.

Gag, as a site, does not want certain topics and discussions to occur. I can imagine some pretty reasonable justifications for this, but I, and many others here, feel that that is not right. And I say that fully philosophically believing in distraction as a sometimes major tool in combating depressions, etc. But also a healthy does of self-analysis and reflection, not deflection.

So there are keywords I am not saying in this post. Get my drift?
Talking about it in detail does sometimes cause a ripple effect, and copycats, and sympathizers, and gag does not want to propogate an environment that would in any way encourage thoughts of this nature.
It is also in the business of social media. Literally. But social media is partially to blame for the distorted thoughts that some people can get in their heads, as a result of cruel and open harsh critcism, en masse. So I post this as a reminder for users to be cognizant of what they say. Words matter.

[OpenNudist]

Regarding Social Media, I don't give a crap. To be perfectly honest

[WowwGirl]

That's really sad

[AmandaYVR]

She was a pro wrestler.

[COMMODOREII]

That sucks.