Well let me count the ways... 1) An elderly guy asked his wife to give me and 3 others a ride to their church I ended in the front passenger so everyone in the back would have room. I noticed she was trembling and so I asked her if she was okay (take it my left arm was across My chest holding on to the thing that is close to the door handle while my body was scooted as close to the door as possible) she insisted everything was okay and she was fine. After I got out and left she told the Other 3 people that had rode with us "I thought he was going to kill me" when asked why she said because he looks like a biker. Two of the people who knew me said "One said who him, nah he's a Teddy Bear" the other said "he's a sweetheart". I mean if she took even 1 second to think she would have realized that her husband would never have put her in danger... Unrelated, despite me insisting I hate animals their two cats that don't like anyone (they don't hang around us much) one jumped on my lap and the other on my shoulder putting it's nose in my face.
2) When I'm in public and standing in a line in order to get on a bus everyone stays at least an arms length away (this was BEFORE Covid 19)
3) No female ever looks me in my eyes for more then a few seconds (If that) most never make eye contact.
The fling I was having pushed me to the point to where I smacked him, twice, after I warned him several times to stop. As serving staff, there are a few things that will make me get to you last, and it's actions that make me feel like a dog. Don't whistle at me, don't snap at me and don't wave money around. I told him not to snap at the bartender on duty when she hadn't gotten to us, since I felt it was degrading, he turned to me and snapped at me. I smiled and kindly asked him not to do that to me, "then why are you smiling?" was his response, and he did it again. My eyes narrowed and I again, with a smile, politely asked him not to snap at me, or I'm going to slap him in the face, "I've been in a lot of fights & no ones ever hit me in the face. Plus, you know you like it," and he did it again. I gave him another warning, smile & all, and he did it again, so I gave him a little harder than a love tap on his right. He proceeded to do it again, and I backhanded him, harder, with my rings & I lost my smile, he looked at me like I was a new woman, and I said flatly, "Don't snap at me like that again." Before that he mentioned how in high school I had long hair, and he would like it if I grew it out. I told him that my hair was plenty long and needs a cut (it's at my shoulders now), and he said "Well, I'm the boss, ain't I?" I laughed and told him he was the boss of himself, and I was the boss of me. He gave me a look like no woman has ever talked to him like that before. He mentioned to me, before I had to break it off, that I wouldn't have ever said or did things like that back in high school, and my response was "The world has hardened me, being a bartender has hardened me, and I know how I want to be treated, how I deserve to be treated."
Yeah, I had someone I was having a fling with show up at my house drunker than shit even tho when he asked to come over I had told him to talk fine , cuz there were already reasons why I was just trying to end it, but if he was drunk and coming expecting sex to not bother. . He agreed... But sitting n yard with neighbor, we hear loud noise, turn around and it's the idiot hitting the curb , driving over the curb cuz of course he was fucking drunk๐ she left.. we went in the house, within 10 min. I asked him to leave.. He kept saying I didn't care if he was too drunk to drive but the shouldn't of driver all the way to my house like that right ๐ค he kept trying to pin me to the wall trying to start sex I finally pushed him on loveseat, let him crash for an hour/hour and a half before waking him up and telling him he had to go... We were standing in the doorway that separates my living room from kitchen when he was trying to put and doing me and hold on to me and not let go when he said'You know I could take it by force if I wanted to... To which I shoved him so hard or because he was so drunk he went flying across the kitchen, hit the stove and then the floor... I don't normally put my hands on someone like that but NOONE is gonna ever get away with threatening to force sex on me like that... And then I told him to get the fuck outta my house
Yeah lying if my#1 cuz if they lie to you they'll usually also lie about you... And I don't wanna waste time with people who you can't know if what they're saying is the truth or yet another lie.
@5points2gspot yeah I mean I get off someone exhibits those behaviors all the time but like in my case it's occasional and usually with reason... I talk louder when my mom says she can't hear me out someone wisely yes to talk over me like I wasn't talking, I think anyone can get in"a mood" that's usually when I just want alone time... Sarcasm, I don't know why that would be an issue unless user it for rudeness, me in more sarcastic funny or when someone else getting insulting, I'll use sarcasm verses swearing or outright name calling or insults
@Brainsbeforebeauty I'm just saying people can get toxic with these red flags ( Moody, Sarcastic, Loud talker ) If I meet a girl / woman whose moody all time or sarcastic with me , lacks affection I sure wouldn't wanted to date her
When they continuously have to remind you how "mature" they are out of nowhere. That already hints that they think they have nothing left to learn. Every opinion or idea you have that is not the same as their's is going to automatically be invalid. Stay away! They will demean you AND drive you crazy. Not worth it! Keep letting them think they're too mature for the world. You don't have to get mad. Just run for the hills.
Staring, scratching a lot, smiling or laughing at things that aren't funny, walking too fast or too slow for no apparent reason. In general being weird
Loudmouth, dont shut the fuck up. Know it all's, sneaky people, I don't know exactly I get feelings around certain people not all the time but they are right on when I do
Yeah I know.. But we all can miss the signals... But makes us even sharper never time around... The one tried getting over on me, he/it taught me... Always have/get REAL proof... And Always have a way/proof to not only prove their guilt but your innocence, so now I do!!!
Oh yeah the last one big red flag there. I'm not really a big fan of social media... This the only thing I'm on in 48 years and with some of the crap I see on here now I see why lol
If the shit on here is real then yeah... But funny thing, the younger people I know in real life aren't anything like the way it's said to be on here.. I have tons of niece's that are all in relationships, most married my friend's daughters and my own daughters, none are like"women" are portrayed to be on here. Or the men I've known or worked with or man was married to aren't like that either, so ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
I think a lot if people are more than they realize. If you don't give people a chance based off just what you hear about the opposite gender or treat them based off assumptions instead of just getting to know someone then you mood the chance of really meeting knowing the good men and women out there
I am very wary of women who expect everything to be paid for, without even a token jesture towards contribution on their part. I am happy to pay on first dates, etc., but not to be a cashpoint (ATM).
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No idea I tend on "Setting off Bells" all of the time, however if anyone took the time to know me they would say that I'm an angel
Why do you think you set off bells?
Well let me count the ways...
1) An elderly guy asked his wife to give me and 3 others a ride to their church I ended in the front passenger so everyone in the back would have room. I noticed she was trembling and so I asked her if she was okay (take it my left arm was across My chest holding on to the thing that is close to the door handle while my body was scooted as close to the door as possible) she insisted everything was okay and she was fine. After I got out and left she told the Other 3 people that had rode with us "I thought he was going to kill me" when asked why she said because he looks like a biker. Two of the people who knew me said "One said who him, nah he's a Teddy Bear" the other said "he's a sweetheart". I mean if she took even 1 second to think she would have realized that her husband would never have put her in danger... Unrelated, despite me insisting I hate animals their two cats that don't like anyone (they don't hang around us much) one jumped on my lap and the other on my shoulder putting it's nose in my face.
2) When I'm in public and standing in a line in order to get on a bus everyone stays at least an arms length away (this was BEFORE Covid 19)
3) No female ever looks me in my eyes for more then a few seconds (If that) most never make eye contact.
Some people are just stupid
They get an attitude over the littlest things. They keep pushing the boundaries and don't know when to stop.
Yes that's a big red flag
The fling I was having pushed me to the point to where I smacked him, twice, after I warned him several times to stop.
As serving staff, there are a few things that will make me get to you last, and it's actions that make me feel like a dog. Don't whistle at me, don't snap at me and don't wave money around.
I told him not to snap at the bartender on duty when she hadn't gotten to us, since I felt it was degrading, he turned to me and snapped at me. I smiled and kindly asked him not to do that to me, "then why are you smiling?" was his response, and he did it again. My eyes narrowed and I again, with a smile, politely asked him not to snap at me, or I'm going to slap him in the face, "I've been in a lot of fights & no ones ever hit me in the face. Plus, you know you like it," and he did it again. I gave him another warning, smile & all, and he did it again, so I gave him a little harder than a love tap on his right. He proceeded to do it again, and I backhanded him, harder, with my rings & I lost my smile, he looked at me like I was a new woman, and I said flatly, "Don't snap at me like that again."
Before that he mentioned how in high school I had long hair, and he would like it if I grew it out. I told him that my hair was plenty long and needs a cut (it's at my shoulders now), and he said "Well, I'm the boss, ain't I?" I laughed and told him he was the boss of himself, and I was the boss of me. He gave me a look like no woman has ever talked to him like that before.
He mentioned to me, before I had to break it off, that I wouldn't have ever said or did things like that back in high school, and my response was "The world has hardened me, being a bartender has hardened me, and I know how I want to be treated, how I deserve to be treated."
Yeah, I had someone I was having a fling with show up at my house drunker than shit even tho when he asked to come over I had told him to talk fine , cuz there were already reasons why I was just trying to end it, but if he was drunk and coming expecting sex to not bother. . He agreed... But sitting n yard with neighbor, we hear loud noise, turn around and it's the idiot hitting the curb , driving over the curb cuz of course he was fucking drunk๐ she left.. we went in the house, within 10 min. I asked him to leave.. He kept saying I didn't care if he was too drunk to drive but the shouldn't of driver all the way to my house like that right ๐ค he kept trying to pin me to the wall trying to start sex I finally pushed him on loveseat, let him crash for an hour/hour and a half before waking him up and telling him he had to go... We were standing in the doorway that separates my living room from kitchen when he was trying to put and doing me and hold on to me and not let go when he said'You know I could take it by force if I wanted to... To which I shoved him so hard or because he was so drunk he went flying across the kitchen, hit the stove and then the floor... I don't normally put my hands on someone like that but NOONE is gonna ever get away with threatening to force sex on me like that... And then I told him to get the fuck outta my house
When people lie it gives me red flags or if they gossip a lot. Just people who donโt seem genuine give me red flags and make me back off.
Yeah lying if my#1 cuz if they lie to you they'll usually also lie about you... And I don't wanna waste time with people who you can't know if what they're saying is the truth or yet another lie.
It would be their attitude and personality and how they treat others when you are in their presence. Their eyes says a lot to me only though.
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Being a dickhead for one. Like when you first meet someone and they are a dick.
Red flag right there
Oh yeah agree there
Many different types... When they act tough or gangster, or when they try to gaslight or lie
I can't tolerate liars who constantly lie, especially things they KNOW you know the truth about... That's just crazy to me
Lol same here. They are so pathetic. I see right through their BS even if they don't
Right!! Like they think they fooling people but they only fooling themselves which makes them look like, well a fool ๐๐
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Someone whose moody, sarcastic, loud talker yes this is a complete turn-off and is red flags telling me to beware.
Oh dang lol I can be all of those lol so beware ๐๐
@5points2gspot are you asking me or opinion owner?
@5points2gspot yeah I mean I get off someone exhibits those behaviors all the time but like in my case it's occasional and usually with reason... I talk louder when my mom says she can't hear me out someone wisely yes to talk over me like I wasn't talking, I think anyone can get in"a mood" that's usually when I just want alone time... Sarcasm, I don't know why that would be an issue unless user it for rudeness, me in more sarcastic funny or when someone else getting insulting, I'll use sarcasm verses swearing or outright name calling or insults
*rudely tries to overtalk me
@Brainsbeforebeauty I'm just saying people can get toxic with these red flags
( Moody, Sarcastic, Loud talker ) If I meet a girl / woman whose moody all time
or sarcastic with me , lacks affection I sure wouldn't wanted to date her
I get what you're saying
Thank you for your perspective. :)
When they continuously have to remind you how "mature" they are out of nowhere. That already hints that they think they have nothing left to learn. Every opinion or idea you have that is not the same as their's is going to automatically be invalid. Stay away! They will demean you AND drive you crazy. Not worth it! Keep letting them think they're too mature for the world. You don't have to get mad. Just run for the hills.
Listen there is no way for me to write put every indication of bad vibes.
Bad vibes ARe real and u need to trust them.
Oh yeah I know and I definitely do!!
Staring, scratching a lot, smiling or laughing at things that aren't funny, walking too fast or too slow for no apparent reason. In general being weird
Being non concerned about others or being non welcoming or not considerate to others.
Bring more defensive and judgy right at the start of meeting them
People who believe they are right and never wrong people who try to bring their religion up and yet they don't follow it 100% themselves
Right! Or their own advice.. like tell you to suck it up, but then they the first one to break when something goes wrong in "their" life...
Iโm so bad at this! I always try to see the best in people and tend to be too trusting or assume theyโre doing things for good reasons.
Some are tho, just not all
Loudmouth, dont shut the fuck up. Know it all's, sneaky people, I don't know exactly I get feelings around certain people not all the time but they are right on when I do
๐๐ me it's liars and Narcissistic people.. And yeah sometimes you just get that vibe or inkling when you just know people up to no good!
I can't put it into words but I just get this feeling around some people.
Always listen to those feelings... They're usually right!
I didn't once.
Yeah I know.. But we all can miss the signals... But makes us even sharper never time around... The one tried getting over on me, he/it taught me... Always have/get REAL proof... And Always have a way/proof to not only prove their guilt but your innocence, so now I do!!!
Puts u down in front of others not in a joking way ,
Oh yeah I hate when people do that... I can take a joke but there is a difference between joking and straight out insulting
When they're not interested in the conversation, try to ghost without giving any reason, try to behave differently in social media and irl.
Oh yeah the last one big red flag there. I'm not really a big fan of social media... This the only thing I'm on in 48 years and with some of the crap I see on here now I see why lol
Lol you must be thinking that Gen Z is so messed up.
It actually is.
If the shit on here is real then yeah... But funny thing, the younger people I know in real life aren't anything like the way it's said to be on here.. I have tons of niece's that are all in relationships, most married my friend's daughters and my own daughters, none are like"women" are portrayed to be on here. Or the men I've known or worked with or man was married to aren't like that either, so ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
It's great that you're surrounded by nice people.
I think a lot if people are more than they realize. If you don't give people a chance based off just what you hear about the opposite gender or treat them based off assumptions instead of just getting to know someone then you mood the chance of really meeting knowing the good men and women out there
*miss the chance not mood lol
100% true.
Hear hear
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I am very wary of women who expect everything to be paid for, without even a token jesture towards contribution on their part. I am happy to pay on first dates, etc., but not to be a cashpoint (ATM).
I can't explain it. I think it's more on an unconscious level with me. I'm an HSP / EE by the way.
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When people never have anything bad to say, when they never get angry, when they never want anything.