Does knowing the height of someone, especially if they're taller or shorter than you originally thought, change how you feel about them?

[MCheetah]

For me, it 100% always does change my perception of the person. Because size is power.

TEHYA JOHNS ('tia'): Cute, spunky, sassy, funny...

... Five-foot-ten in heels.

ME: Am told I'm funny, sarcastic, quirky, intelligent, etc...

... Until they see me. "Oh. I they you were gonna be taller than that..."

Yes, it can change how I feel about them in a major way.

Yes, it can change how I feel about them, but only in a minor way.

No, I still feel the same way about them as before.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'2". Built like a tank (solid, broad northern Danish/Germanic stature). I quiet people shouting like fools at my job with simple eye contact. I've done it twice in two different jobs. The last time, just last month, my colleague was nearly 6 feet. He was so meek and mild that the guy just not more agitated & aggressive.

I pip up & tell the loser yeah keep at it you'll be out the door... and stare him down. Dead silence cause he knew I wasn't fucking around.

Size isn't power. Weaklings think size equals power. But as the old saying goes, the bigger the are the harder they fall.

Power comes from sheer presence. Self confidence. Someone who is 6'6" with the personality as a mouse would be as powerful as someone 3'4"

[MCheetah]

That's kinda irrelevant though, cause someone who's 6'6" with the personality to match could still easily overpower you. Hell, even that not-tall guy you mentioned could if he had to Plus, you're female, which means physically you're going to be weaker. Relying on intimidation tactics on guys unwilling to go to prison for hitting a woman isn't real power, either. If size wasn't power, we wouldn't have weight classes in sports, especially boxing.

[MCheetah]

Also, my hunch is you're a cop, which is the only valid reason you can intimidate guys like that and get away with it. Possibly security enforcement (like I used to do) or ex-military, but probably a cop.

[Opinion Owner]

@mcheetah - did you miss the solid built like a tank commentary? At the gym doing shoulder press alone I out lift a number of guys. They're doing 40lbs and I'm doing 120lbs. Between two such people who do you think is going to get the smack-down? The 5'2" woman whose bite is as bad as her bite or the guy who thinks he's tough cause he's a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

* The 5'2" woman whose bite is as bad as her bark or the guy who thinks he's tough cause he's a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Did you miss the solid built like a tank commentary? At the gym doing shoulder press alone I out lift a number of guys. They're doing 40lbs and I'm doing 120lbs for the same amount of reps & I biologically a woman, I'm just built powerfully like my father (who used to do over 100 finger-tip push-ups as example). Between two such people who do you think is going to get the smack-down? The 5'2" woman whose bite is as bad as her bite or the guy who thinks he's tough cause he's a guy.

[MCheetah]

"did you miss the solid built like a tank commentary"

No. I just don't believe you. Most men who claim that, aren't even that muscular. So I doubt a 5'2" female is.

And to make it clear, I don't doubt some women can be tough. But the fact you think doing a not-even-impressive shoulder lift, makes you some kinda of bad-ass is kinda sad. I did boxing and MMA for years and have seen some true bad-asses, male and female. (I wouldn't count myself as one.) And I don't think that applies to you with as much gloating as you're doing. You're even in anonymous mode trying to say all this.

Let's assume you are this buff Alpha Female, though. What good does any of that do for you in a
fight? Can you even throw a punch? I had a good friend named Sarah. She was 5'7", 120 lbs, and looked like a typical girl. She's a third degree black belt, boxer, and used to do indy wrestling, however. Dresses like a girl and has little muscle tone. And between her and you, I don't think you'd stand a chance. You bullying some 150 pound beta males doesn't make you any "tougher" than the 5'10" skinny guy you mentioned last time.

Ironically, though... You're proving your point to me. Size doesn't always matter.

[Anonymous]

It's not important for me, but it seems that most people disagree.
Most people ask for your height, age and profession to label you, put you in boxes and decide how to treat you.. It's sad that people are so judgmental and shallow

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you!!

[CYNIC4ALL]

At this point in my life I’m secure enough within myself where my perceptions of others
isn’t shaded by expectations and comparisons. Especially someone I’ve already built some
sort of none physical rapport with. That’s not to say I won’t ever be surprised but never
offended or shocked because they’re still the same person I’ve been non physically
dealing with.

[OlderAndWiser]

Height is your Achilles heel so of course you feel that way. If you were insecure because you lived an impoverished lifestyle, you would have a similar feeling about the relative wealth of others.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Anonymous]

It's not important to me. I judge people based off their words and (in) actions. One's physical features doesn't mean shit. The only thing I think of knowing someone's height is whether I'm going to have to bend over/get on my toes to interact with them on an "intimate" level ie one of my friends I have to bend over to hug them, another friend I have to get on my toes so they don't have to bend too much.

[MCheetah]

"one of my friends I have to bend over to hug them"

How tall are you?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm 5'8" & my friend is 5'2"

[MCheetah]

You're upper-medium/almost-tall height and you still have to bend over to reach their level? Interesting. I'm short AF for a guy (71 inches) and men usually have to bend over to reach me.

[DizzyDesii]

Honestly yes. When i found out one dude was 5’6, it made me pause for a sec but i was like, well its close to 5’7 which i prefer so i was like ok it’ll do. But there's this other guy i liked who turned out to be 6’7. That is way past the 6’3 max so yea i eventually lost interest in him. He was too tall and his hand was big enough to cover a waterbottle. Scared me

[AFellowWeeb]

he could be a successfull fighter

[DizzyDesii]

@AFellowWeeb he was just a normal kid going to college, looking for love. But he had really bad jealousy issues and i was not about to be Jack fighting with the Giant of the Beanstalk

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I'm surprised at the almost-daily questions here about height. I never realized so many people view it as a good or bad thing and not just a common difference between people. Like anyone else, I have a preference too, but it never actually affected my dating habits or choices of partner.

[Sheyhoney]

I don’t care about height tbh. As long as you’re a good ass person I could care less lol

[MCheetah]

@sheyhoney
Even if you find out a guy you had a crush on and really liked was like, 5'2" or something?

[Sheyhoney]

My boyfriend is 5’5 I like short guys

[AFellowWeeb]

are u guys Asian? @sheyhoney

[Sheyhoney]

@AFellowWeeb no we are Hispanic

[AFellowWeeb]

HAH can relate, portuguese, im taller than a lot of fully grown men here, and im not tall

[Jjpayne]

For me, that actually does not hold as much weight as other things. Things such as their voice, mannerisms and attitude have greater weight to me

[hellionthesagereborn]

I don't care, height is a meaningless metric to me.

[lanadelrey25]

Maybe a little, but it doesn't change how much I like them (if I already liked them)

[bambolinababy]

Definitely changes my opinion and attraction 🤷

I get stereotyped and put in a box just for having a vagina so boohoo to all the short men whining about loss of attraction due to height.

[Avicenna]

Not how I feel about them as a person, but it’s a plus if a potential girlfriend is tall.

[hahahmm]

No. But if someone is very fit - especially over age 40 I find it impressive. As long as it does look out of proportion like roids

[Hangry22]

Like a minor part because it helps with imagination

[EssenceOfLight]

I avoid close contact with short men as I can. They hate me instinctively without a reason. Maybe they hate everyone?

[MCheetah]

How tall are you, if you don't mind me asking?

[Babygirl_S]

Definitely! I like tall guys and never feel threatened by bigger/taller girls. I see being tall as a masculine trait (and it is).

[Anonymous]

Yes especially if someone is tall... I feel intimidated by them since I am a short male

[Averyanna18]

I mean sometimes lol becuse I’m 5,3 and I don’t really want a shorter boy

[RingOfFire]

Sure. Her height is part of the attraction factor.

[Iron_Man]

Nope my last girlfriend was 5 foot two

[mistixs]

Nope