Why do some black girls get angry with me when I seek there advice?

[WillamStorrm]

I am not trying to say my struggles are worse than theirs. And I know every black girl is an individual, with her own reasons. The black community is the main type of person I interact with, so dont give me that fake woke liberal nonsense of "you just pretending and your a ignorant fake woke person yourself and your whats wrong with the world" blah blah blah going off your own little personal special snowflake ideology without actually interacting with the black community as much as I have.

ere just like ur a white man idc about about disability or mental ilness you have white priivlege therefore you can't complain much and you juss need to stop being negastive or stop being a dumb as white person or i dnt even know why but its uslaly goes from "Shut up ur annoying" to "U have white privilege, therefore you just need to get over it or be positive" to "Stop being soft or p*ssy"

This question is NOT an attack on black women or eventhe black women who do this to me. Im trying to seek understanding here thats all

[Cathy7734]

Tony Robbins says that our outlook on life, our attitude in life, is by the stories we are telling ourselves. You might be approaching women who have the story that they are victims in society. Everyone has their own story. The story they tell themselves will always come true. They will "spin" whatever happens, or whoever they meet, to fulfill the story they are telling themselves. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[WillamStorrm]

I know what you mean thank you im autistic and that was the best way for me tounderstand it, and the way i been doing my whole life i have an idea of myself and an idea of my life and how im doing and my choices and when my values or my way of life or how i view myself gets threatened i can go from annoyed, to mildly triggered, to triggered, to really f*cking angry and bring up points of how much sense i make how smart i am alll the wise people that agree with me etc

[Msputiton]

Reading this question it's your approach.

You don't sound like a person who genuinely care about black people.

You sound like a person bitter towards black women.

If you take this approach with me, i would ignore you or walk away.

Maybe change the approach.

If everyone you interact with don't like how you speak to them it's a good indicator you are the problem.

Also FYI snowflake is a cheesy word but since it is what you use, i will use it to.

That term can be used to describe an easily offended person. which includes someone that is easily offended that everyone finds their offensive behavior offensive.

Easiest way to spot one.

They call others snowflakes when they get called out for being rude.

That is a big snowflake, because he is to emotionally sensitive to hear what he does wrong so to feel better about his easily hurt feelings he accuses others of being what he is.

[WillamStorrm]

"its your appraoch"

wow what an assumption. I was takling like that because I didn't want white people to think i was being racist.

I vent to people in a calm way.

dont give me this contemporary fake woke liberal nonsense fake psychology and about not judging people when there literally judging people right now. the black girls in question are nothing like you, and they dont like people like you either. i wuold rather talk to black girls in general than most white girls.

[WillamStorrm]

dont give me that cuck submissive idea that the person in questoin is always the problem. how is that objective? its not! and your being elitist to think ytou know the ins and outs of human psychology, culture, and behavior.

[WillamStorrm]

Im sorry for getting on you like that. I saw that your a black lady yourself.

[WillamStorrm]

I have a strong moral and spiritual belief that we should stick up for ourselves when we have to and be the bigger person when we have to and sometimes we have to be a little mean or aggressive or assertive to get respect from people. And that communists, fake woke people and psychologists are trying to weaken us, and make us submissive fake woke masochistic p*ssies. So black girls are smart, because they try to stop me from becoming exactly that.

[WillamStorrm]

People have cringy ideas

[Msputiton]

I repeat. It's your approach.
You are far to aggressive.
I defend equal rights but i also know you do not get a response by jumping down people's throats.
You can get your point across respectfully.
If i begin my conversation with hate nobody will respond properly.
If i am respectful, the people who are legit will listen.
But if you put people on the defensive they will not listen to you.
And your agression makes you sound like someone who is trying to get our attention instead of legitimately trying to help.

So change your approach and learn to calm down

[WillamStorrm]

I was aggressive because I didn't think you got my question and were trying to put something on me and i apologized so can you let it go. Im dealing with a lot of trauma, and I apologized. And aren't you being aggressive to? How do you define what being aggressive is because im pretty sure I spoke in a chill way but these days people can say anything is aggressive or rude and its those fake woke leftist a$$hole elitist that never look inward and its not just them its the anti sjw a$$holes to

[WillamStorrm]

I am tryna calm down but i am on the defensive already. I didn't feel i had someone to go toto ask this question because it was stressing me out, so i came here, and i didn't want negative attention from certain types of people.

[WillamStorrm]

I have certain moral values that won't change. I try to ask my questions respectfully. If you can go and take a look at my other questions you'll see I usually get this right. Dont judge me off of one question. I also have to stand my ground as well as being respectful.

[WillamStorrm]

It wasn't about hate. It was about there's a certain type of person I dont wanna take advice from. But I did make it sound like anyone was gonna do that. I need afriedn to vent to this is not a good place for me to go to to ask a questoin like this i did this out of desperation. I woudnt be like this in a private convo. When the whole world can see me, i get scared

[ChrisMaster69]

Wow you come across as very bitter about something.

i would hazard a guess if your normal attitude is like that, then anyone no batter their ethnicity will have their back up.

Also just as a point on how it comes over bitter or aggressive is your number of uses of Black.

Anyone reading the title will understand who and what you are referring to, however you use the word 5 times.

Then this use of Woke, why? It’s making the entire post a challenge and aggressive.

[Avicenna]

Without actually being there to see these interactions, it's hard to say. Maybe they think you have "White Savior Complex' or maybe they just don't like the advice, perceived tone, or what have you.

You really need feedback from the people you're talking to.

[WillamStorrm]

Its not about white savior complex man

and yeah the thing is these girls dont give me feedback they just get edgy on me when I try to communicate in a nice calm way

[WillamStorrm]

and its not always me man I speak in the calmest, nicest tone. I have a thyroid condition and get stressed out, so sometimes my anxiety or my sore throat can be picked up on.

[WillamStorrm]

Its not about me giving them advice, its about me asking them for advice, about my life not theirs.

[Avicenna]

Well, again, we aren't there, but are you sure you're approaching the right audience when you ask them for help? Not everyone is cut out for that or is willing to provide advice.

[WillamStorrm]

I wanted to ask my friends that would understand but they werent available or online so I had to come here. This isn't the place I like to go for questions like this, because I know how people can get on a public forum

[BlckGrl]

Black girl here!, what was the question you asked her? Oh and by the way you haven't met all of us so try not to generalize.

[WilliamPamer446]

I know i said some in the title not all.

It wasn't a questoin, it was more like venting my current problems and life struggles as a reason why I couldnt give her what she wanted at that time.

[WilliamPamer446]

Im sure your a nice lady and this has nothing to do with you at all.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Why don't you provide an example? Then it might make it easier to work out why.

[Backseatvibing]

I stopped reading once I saw the word “snowflake” a commonly used word by racist white dudes

[WillamStorrm]

yah but I wasn't calling black girls that I was referring to white people who criticize me withotu any merit

[WillamStorrm]

I dont think ur a snowlfake.

I was a little to aggressive because I was scared to ask a question like this