Has the body positivity movement gone too far?

[Twalli]

I understand that everyone should be comfortable in their own skin. They should not feel bad based on looks, but only to a point. Fact of the matter is being 5'4" and 200 lbs is not healthy. You should not feel good about your body in that case. So has the body positivity movement made people who are obese less concerned about the very real health risks associated with it?

[Diodoro]

Personally I don't give a shit. Let them get the results they get. Keep your standard high as a guy. That's it. I'm not about to give girls shit about their weight. No need to hurt their self esteem. But I won't date a fat girl and I'll answer honestly when asked.

Had a girl ask if I'd date a heavy girl. I said no. It hurt her feelings and she asked why. Told her I'm just not attracted to that the same way I'm not into guys. You can be a great person. May have a lot of positive qualities. But I'm not interested. That's it.

Usually I won't say all that. It's only when asked. But the fact it even needs to be said to understand is silly to me. They know this is reality, they just don't want to accept it because they have trouble staying in shape.

[Twalli]

I'm more accepting of ot if the person is making sn effort. I am talking about the people that are heavy and don't want lose weight. They th er n get offended when the people they want turn them down.

[Diodoro]

As a dating partner I do not. Like I get it to a degree. If a girl is just overweight like the average American and works out consistently on the path to healthy weight range then I feel you.

Past that I don't. Everyone's situation is different and I'm not judging them as people, but when we're talking about qualified options for dating I'm just not choosing out of girls I'm not attracted to.

That's why I'll give a pass if she's just overweight and working on it because she's already in strike distance and checks off other factors that matter as well.

[jshm2]

No.

Basically they are nicely saying you should fuck off and not judge others for their choices, as it's a free country.

If they are 5'4" and 200lbs, what the fuck has that to do with you? Were you going to marry them if they were 5'5" and 100lbs? Do you seriously think they would have said "yes" if so? All you are doing is making yourself a bully and asshole for no good reason.

You do not know what some of them are suffering from. Could be they have depression, thyroid, or multiple other issues. You being a negative jerk to them isn't going to be the "magic tonic" you think it is. They are just going to use their right to tell you to fuck off and mind your own business.

[Twalli]

Point is, it's not healthy. If they are suffering from something, then by definition they're not healthy.

[purplepoppy]

Being obese doesn't just effect you it effects others. Try sitting next to a fat guy on a bus for example. They also put a huge strain on the health service which takes delays treatment of other people. Being obese also limits the type of work you can do and let's be honest I'm not going to employ someone who's going to be off sick most of the time.
We shouldn't shame them but we shouldn't be encouraging them to stay fat either.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

We can be body positive while still encouraging healthy habits. Both can exist.

[Phoenix-gb]

As much as some people like to push it, there is no uniform height/weight ideal (BMI was designed as a statistical tool to measure disparity in the wealthiest and poorest, not health) so for some people, being heavier is their healthy weight based on their genetics.

I do agree there is a limit, but you're example there would be classifying 5'4" bodybuilders or competition weightlifters as unhealthy (given muscle weighs more than fat they will likely top out the 200lb limit) but no-one is saying they are an issue.

[Dchrls78104]

Maybe. Morbidly obese and emaciated persons need the services of professionals suitably qualified to give them specialised care and aid them on their journey to bodily and/or mental health. This is what they should be focused on, which is a truth that any real friend would tell them. Promoting morbid obesity or emaciation in any way (including sexualising the morbidly obese or emaciated) is highly irresponsible and retrogressive. It will not give them the help they need to keep themselves healthy, but if anything it can be called a form of enabling.

[zaharuh]

Yeah it has no one should be that over weight like there is nothing good about it

[Mikeysoda]

I don't know, as long as the individual is healthy, that is all that matters.

[poneglyphs]

I'm 5'2 and 190 and I'm trying to change myself. I never really cared about that bullshit movement

[QuietRunner]

Obesity is a factor for COVID-19 deaths, so we all should be trying to be less fat

[Agape93]

Yeap like a lot of this woke nonsense.

[douride2]

The short answer is YES.